MRPRESIDENT11

There are more suicidal activities expected from that side as long as the ladies busy decorate their bumbs with cement and tyre materials.
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ZuluPrincess711

shame bandla ... so sorry Trudy ... poor guy, he was harbouring so much heaviness ... all in the name of being a man ... loSisi wakhe angazosidina la ... why didn't she say these things while the brother was alive? ... sefuna ukuthi uTrudy obulale umyeni wakhe? ... nx! usile maan!
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Sandile84

Shame man, doing anything to impress people will make you unhappy.
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nevus

bathong Tshepo ke leng re jola and mamaka o ntseneletse gore re nyala leng,hai nna ke kgathetse ke go dula ko gae re pitlagane,phela re na le four months re jola and ha o bue niks,nx Tshepo wa batho shame.
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cold

ANGEKE NGISHADE EMPILWENI YAMI,NGIZODILA NABAFAZI BABANTU ABA STRESSED,NALABO ABALAHLILE ANGIFUNI STRESS IN MY LIFE
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Mosquer

Mathata. But why a be a dula le ena a sa nyake go mo nyala?
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Sganja

Eish women of today,they are very dangerous.they care about status...
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DeeQ

Setlaela sa monna. Who forced u to get married.
Now the poor kids will grow up without their dad because he was a coward of a man. mxm.
Shortcut to hell i tell you.
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SifisoHadebe

The suicide route is somewhat cowardly,
R.I.P. to the groom and marriage that ended sourly.
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Mxcm!!

@Trudian Hay
Congratulations sweetheart, you finally got rid of the dead beat, dead weight who never wanted to marry you!

I have no sympathy whatsoever for idiotic adults who don't have the balls to face life and opt for the easier exit! Enjoy purgutory Fernando!
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Sganja

Mxcm!!
Is because of this boys and girls from parliament that men are so un protected.
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losco

@Mosquer
Mathata. But why a be a dula le ena a sa nyake go mo nyala
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Ke nagana gor o be a leka go thabixa di-family tje pedi tje a lebetje gore his happiness comes first!!!Bona nou o tlogela bana without le-Timer.
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JahNeh

Fvcking coward!
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pik_it_up

but realy.....why didnt he just say NO! or pack his sh!t and leave then send maintainence money via post..

ai no epathy for suiciders..sorry
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Mxcm!!

Sganja

Sorry bra; I really don't have the strength to make sense of your half-baked comment; make it easy for me and and stress your point. Pretty please?!


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Mahlabaaihlabela

Guys I have a same problem with this guy before I do something stupid, I married a wife who has been married while I was still at varsity. I loved her very much because we had a baby boy with her before she get married to that migrant labour guy. When I finished my degree I went to her and tell her how much I loved her but she told me that she could not trust me because I left her before and have some babies with other girls but I convinced her the way I loved her and trusted me and she divorced her husband and married me. Now it seems as if she does not love me anymore because she gives me some lot of pressures of buying the house of which I did,now she wants a house in rural areas. On our house that I have bought she changed some doors even if the doors are still alright and again I have tried looking job for her and she is working. She started to think that is independent now because she does not what she was doing before like ironing my clothes most of the time,during the night she comes with excuses of feeling tired sometimes says is hot and when we are having sex she does not do what we were doing before like when I initate she used to respond to what I was doing like cuddling and kissing each other, It looks like feeling bored now and that thing depressed me and giving me a stress. What must I tell her?
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Sganja

Mahlabaaihlabela divorce her,unfortunately you will have to share assets.But divorce her,she's not special
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Sganja

Never mind Mxcm!!
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tumzangwana

@mxcm

hao bathong why o le heartless so?

just because some people can handle tough life problems it doesnt mean that the rest of the world can. some people are weaker than others. but i think maybe something tragic happened in his life or he is one of those people who dont find it easy to share their problems. the marriage he probably didnt want was just the final straw that broke the camel's back. may he R.I.P.

may trudy find the strength she needs to go on for her kids' sake.
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Mahlabaaihlabela

We have four kids and first born is 23 years old studying at varsity .
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SKIZOBANTWANA

UNGAJAKGI UKUSHADA, IF AWUKHO READY.... period
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KatakataEmaotoAditshepe

@WordofGod
@OTHERS

I put the blame on Pastor he didnt read 1 Corinthians 7:28 for this boy and it reads;
"But if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned. But those who marry will face many troubles in this life, and I want to spare you this"
They will face the troubles in marriage life.
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Bosele

You stayed true to your vows...........till death do you part.
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Mahlabaaihlabela

I would to tell her exactly how I feel so that she can also come with her ideas of what is happening between me and her.
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Sganja

Mahlabaaihlabela Action speak louder than words...
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Mxcm!!

@tumzangwana

I'm not heartless girl - just a realist.

Fernando was heartless as well as spineless! How did he think he's children would feel at losing their father and for him to make reference of how his wife should "take care of the kids"...that was heartless.

To write down and leave a note to his wife for where his body could be found....freaking heartless

Being spineless for not being man enough to tell his wife that he didn't want to marry her; and for her to learn of that fact after his death....f.ucken heartless

Purgutory is shaping him up for heaven after that he'll get his peace.
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KatakataEmaotoAditshepe

@BOYS
@KIDS

Please marriage is not your playing ground you all need to grow first.
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MORNACHIES

American homemade stories ..........
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nevus

this is "congradulations im sorry"
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tumzangwana

sowetan STOP SAYING THAT IM VULGAR EVERY TIME I USE MY MOTHER TONGUE, EISH.
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Mahlabaaihlabela

I don't even sleep at night everyday, the only sleep I do have it during some weekends,It when I am drunk , It is when I rest
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talldude

if he was south african nebatlore oloilwe
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Sganja

Hi tumzangwana My name is sganja, you seem to have a heart can you please advice Mahlabaaihlabela what to do?
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WordofGod

@katakata
dont blame the pastors. people are supposed to read the bible for themselves. the bible doesn't promise a smooth sailing life. you forgot gore the bible also tells us that: 1 Corinthians 10:13, “No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.” Matthew 5:45, it rains on the just and the unjust.
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tumzangwana

some women pressure their partners to marry them ( not to speculate that thats what happened in this case) even if they see that the brother is not ready at all.

my sisters STOP PUTTING PRESSURE on the brothers to marry you, they might end up killing themselves because of the pressure, and the family will call you bad names saying you killed their son for
money (even if his A$$ was broke as hell.)

@mxcm
well if you put like that then i understand. but its still a shame that a brother, father, uncle and husband was lost in this tragic manner.

now that he is dead we will never know what triggered such an act.

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Mahlabaaihlabela

Ke re thusang bagesu gore e kaba ke eng ka mme yoo ke dulang le yena goba ke gona ge bare batho ge ba nyalane nako ye telele go sala fela kgotlelelano naa?
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KatakataEmaotoAditshepe

@WordofGod
katakata
dont blame the pastors. people are supposed to read the bible for themselves. the bible doesn't promise a smooth sailing life. you forgot gore the bible also tells us that: 1 Corinthians 10:13, “No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.” Matthew 5:45, it rains on the just and the unjust.
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I blame them and what they know is "you may kiss the bide" and enjoy food and cake Qha!


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Rakgadi-Tabeya

Ke bogatlapa (coward) mo bo fetileng!!! If he was not up to this marriage he shouldnt have gone through with it, he was not at gun-point niks. Trudy le wena mara ha wa fosta ngwana-batho go kena mo nyalong e a so be ready? Plus basadi these days le tshaba bofetwa goed or maybe ke go tlhola le vat-en-sita le go thuthuntsha bana thinking gore ke tsela ya go nyalwa eo EISH!!! Sorry bhuti man nawe uyadika nyani for stooping so low yerrr robala ka khotso you don't know what you are missing ku lomhlaba siphila kuwo.
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tabadiametwa

ke mang a ka batlang to be tied to kuku e kgolo for ever, nna le one half round would be enough.
i feel for the brother, no one can stand kuku ya go lapa.
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Mahlabaaihlabela

It seems as if only Sganja who takes me serious on this blog, no one like him is considering what I am talking about here. I am stll alive and saying this problem here is the same as what I am getting at home. I don't want to do stupid thing like Fernando so what the South Africans
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tumzangwana

@sganja
my friend im not married, hell i dont even have a boyfriend so im the wrong person to give advice to mahlabaaihlabela.
often in cases like these though, the brother- mahlabaaihlabela knows what he must do, the problem is he hesitates. in life we often want people to give us solutions to the problems WE already know the answers to.

he must follow his instincts, they are never wrong. but a couples' counselling is also an option.

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KatakataEmaotoAditshepe

@nevus
this is "congradulations im sorry"
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Hee wena,Jy wil my jou testis te breek, ek sal ?

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Sganja

tumzangwana Thanks my sister, I hope he heared you...
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G-ruff

Kanti nakwamanye amazwe bayaythwala intombi?
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truthhurt

I think i know whats going on here, the brother was GAY, and he was tired of living a lie.
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truthhurt

tumzangwana
sowetan STOP SAYING THAT IM VULGAR EVERY TIME I USE MY MOTHER TONGUE, EISH
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Hahahaha, looks like Sowetan is pulling "A Protection Of Infomotion On You"
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WordofGod

@katakata
yday when i arrived home, i found a lot of cops, security guards, ambulances at my neighbors house. i tried to enquire yday but couldn't get ditaba. this morning i enquired with the securities at the gate, i was told gore the woman in that house tried to commit suicide. she took a lot of pills trying to kil.l herself. apparently the reason ke domestic violence le mathata a sa feleng. i don't know my neighbor at all cos he only moved in the beginning of this month. i was so shocked. i mean life is so precious for one to take it away, whether mathata or no mathata; even if my bank balance e le zero. i have learnt to talk TO the mountains and remove it and not talk ABOUT the mountain (Jesus teachings). nna prayer to God brings joy to my life and i cannot live without it hence i see mathata as nothing because i know that Jesus Christ has conquered the world, He died for me on the cross and nothing is too difficult for Him. He said we should cast all our worries and cares unto Him bcos He cares. why should i kil.l/worry if i am not loved by someone else knowing that God loves me too much? i will, i will not, i will not permit that in my life.
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BigMan81

Haaai Haaai Dude, could you not just say NO, NO , I don't want to anymore, Haaai NO...This make s me think of that Movie 'Norbit" maybe the dude was being forced by the her brothers...The poor guy felt trapped!
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talldude

wordofGod u stay alone?
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Decibels

men pressurise girls into breaking their virginity
girls pressurise men into getting married
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Ramatlhale

I feel for the brother, same partner since they were in their teens, the only explanation I can think of is that he cheated once before the wedding, liked it,it was heaven for him, and now he has to live with the reality of declaring his commitment to one person forever before god.

Though he tried, that last round in the hotel room was the bride's last chance to convice him otherwise seemingly she failed!! But suicide I'd rather tell her I was gay!!
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Sugaar

Obvious he way Gay,
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nicki

he was such a coward
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Rakgadi-Tabeya

@Mahlaba - a utlwagetse ka kwano kgaitsedi-ya-motho. Bothata ke gore le setse le tsere maikano and you have to stick to that. I'm not experienced but nna I wudn't want to be a statistic sa divorce hence ke sa batle go ipofa ke se sure ka story sa ka or the person I'm with.

Nna I wud advise you gore please find a way gore le sote out your problems, there has to be a way especially if the two of you are willing to deny Satan the opportunity to celebrate. But if you are alone in this my brother hade! Maybe the madam dichomi di mo convinsitse ka tsela e nngwe hence a setse a acta ka tsela e. Change your will immediately and she mustn't know about this cos u don't know her plans. I guess she's doing this gore o end upe o divorce coz she thinks she has a lot to gain ga o ka raga thokolo OR if ga o mo divorce o tla go zamela plane gore o fetsa yang ka wena. Masego ke ao, o bonala o a tlhoka!
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WordofGod

@talldude
why???
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tumzangwana

@truthhurt

haaaai wena o stout.

anyways how are you?
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Ramatlhale

The question is who did he cheat with the maid or the gardener???
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LijahaSisu

That 'monkey' (stealing the words of the General) Dewani should have done the same.
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S'tlaela

Eeh !
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truthhurt

tumzangwana
@truthhurt

haaaai wena o stout.

anyways how are you?
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I am super, and how you doing?
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ayifuni-WENA-leyo

the are always two sides of the story, but this man is a coward he could have face the situation like a reall man not to commit suicide, just cousing pain to family & friends i hate people who do this leaving others with ???????
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Tasto

He wanted to study to be a male-nurse from being "Mantshingilana" & she lost it.

Maybe the brotha was in a closet...
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tumzangwana

@ truthhurt
im superduper, cant wait for the weekend though. tired as hell. one of these days i must get me a rich husband, haai ke kgatetse man.

@ayifuni-wena-leyo
its like you read my mind. no matter how flat a pancake is, it always has two sides.
i really feel for the kids, to be robbed of your father in this manner is very painful.


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Ramatlhale

If it was the maid obviously certain anatomical features were still intact (tight ,nothing hanging or heading opposite the naturally itended direction) and that somehow excited the poor ba*****rd!!! so in comparison to his wife he chose to die & leave out all the other options available to him as mojita. mxxxxxxim.
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Ramatlhale

If it was the Gardener well.......I am no expert in that field!!
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Papgat

Some other people can`t control their happiness, look now he commited suicide for nothing.
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TT5446

DeeQ
Setlaela sa monna. Who forced u to get married.
Now the poor kids will grow up without their dad because he was a coward of a man. mxm.
Shortcut to hell i tell you
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ke dumelana le wena go menagane, its is an easy way out
who suppose to support his kids now or raise them.
now hi leaves another single woman, ntse are bona rele ba bantsi so.
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KatakataEmaotoAditshepe

@WordofGod
katakata
yday when i arrived home, i found a lot of cops, security guards, ambulances at my neighbors house. i tried to enquire yday but couldn't get ditaba. this morning i enquired with the securities at the gate, i was told gore the woman in that house tried to commit suicide. she took a lot of pills trying to kil.l herself. apparently the reason ke domestic violence le mathata a sa feleng. i don't know my neighbor at all cos he only moved in the beginning of this month. i was so shocked. i mean life is so precious for one to take it away, whether mathata or no mathata; even if my bank balance e le zero. i have learnt to talk TO the mountains and remove it and not talk ABOUT the mountain (Jesus teachings). nna prayer to God brings joy to my life and i cannot live without it hence i see mathata as nothing because i know that Jesus Christ has conquered the world, He died for me on the cross and nothing is too difficult for Him. He said we should cast all our worries and cares unto Him bcos He cares. why should i kil.l/worry if i am not loved by someone else knowing that God loves me too much? i will, i will not, i will not permit that in my life.
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Sad news neh! sesotho se re mathata ke kobo ya manolo.After hardship there is good life again.Dont think about it Wordy no matter how hard lifi could be sometime neh.

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kgagarapane1

Ba moloile
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LaVidaLoca

I suspect he was gay, that's why he keept saying "Trudy was a good person but he ddint wanna marry her"....
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sh!tFaceSamsung

mehlolo ya lefase: surely @kuku has got to someting to do with it: gape limpopo ba loya
aka fofa ka lefeelo a fihla america withing one seconds
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sh!tFaceSamsung

Ramatlhale
If it was the Gardener well.......I am no expert in that field!!
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yaaah o ryt o expert ya go bolaya magotlo le ditsitsidi
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tumzangwana

@ sh1tfacesamsung


mehlolo ya lefase: surely @kuku has got to someting to do with it: gape limpopo ba loya
aka fofa ka lefeelo a fihla america withing one seconds
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mara why re tshwenya bana ba bangwe?
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sh!tFaceSamsung

tumzangwana
watz up ntwana : ware ke tshwenya mang wena!
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Pointman

@Mxcm!! Congratulations sweetheart, you finally got rid of the dead beat, dead weight who never wanted to marry you!

I have no sympathy whatsoever for idiotic adults who don't have the balls to face life and opt for the easier exit! Enjoy purgutory Fernando!
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This post of yours says a lot about you. If you want to be a good human being you must learn empathy. Learn to walk a mile in the other persons shoe before you start typing. We all have different burdens to carry and different amount of capacity to carry them. One day you will want others to understand your actions - I hope you find many understanding people and not your own kind.
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Ramatlhale

@sh!tFaceSamsung
yaaah o ryt o expert ya go bolaya magotlo le ditsitsidi
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If you mean becoming the occassional handyman ha dibari diya majwaleng, then yes ao ona magotlo ke a fatlha sterk!!!!
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Rebathobamoya

@Mahlaba
Sa mma i feel you and the deceased brother, mara nna am not married mara i was once there. Mara what i can say ke gore hlabela pele morena. You cant stick ko lenyalong for the sake ya bana monna wa kgoro,.

O rapele ga golo morena - re tla go rapedisha rena batho ba moya. Mara you must stay true to your feeling. If u get chance go to church not your Nigeria churches mara.
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tumzangwana

@sh!tfacesamsung

mehlolo ya lefase: surely @kuku has got to someting to do with it: gape limpopo ba loya
aka fofa ka lefeelo a fihla america withing one seconds
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that was funny as hell but stru o tshwenya @kuku ya modimo. or maybe thats how you talk to each other, wena le @kuku. if thats the case then i didnt mean to offend you or anyone.

anyways how are you?
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Rebathobamoya

@Mahlaba
E ba monna wa sebele o tlogele go khuta ka bjala, ema senna o lokishe mathata a lapala gago. Ge o hlala ga o be bjalo
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sh!tFaceSamsung

tumzangwana
ke shap ntwana ke motsorooro: hehehehe u r looking 4 rich husband mmmmmm gud luck hope find one
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Africanist

DeeQ
Setlaela sa monna. Who forced u to get married.
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the wife forced him.women like to force
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tumzangwana

@sh!tfacesamsung

i always say that when im tired and the weekend seems far away.i was just joking ngwana, rich husbands are control freaks, i dont want to be somebody's puppet.
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UruGdrabol

Poor guy... The old ball and chain got to him
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nsnobela

i believe that when death call, let there be no blame, bcoz it was said we shall die all of us, its not u
thank god bcoz u are next someday. hope god will bless you with mr someday
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masepa

I believe that will be investigated in the US to determine if he commit suicide or was ki+lled and ki+llers are faking suicide. You have career detectives there who seemed to enjoy their work and nailing criminals, not here where police want to be rich and hardly do their work, cowards who enjoy threatening law abiders and admire criminals. Tell me how does some of them at lower ranks afford to stay in an estate with bigger house (avarage price of 850K, more than two expensive cars (mercedez benz C200, Audi 20TDI and bigger Ford Territory. He is corrupt and nothing is happenng to him but people around him and Midranders must be very unsettled with such people.
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Taukgolo

AAAAAg shame Ngwana wa Batho....He should have been deppressed by the idea of taking responsibility of his family and wife...It is tough outside there...Getting married is so tough...

I am also one of those Guys who is so afraid of Committment..I think i am going to do FAT and SIT....
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Taukgolo

eh, not again
Ohh, this ain't supposed to happen to me

Keep rockin', and keep knockin'
Whether you Louis Vuitton it up or Reebokin'
You see the hate, that they're servin' on a platter
So what we gon' have, dessert or disaster?

I never thought I'd be in love like this
When I look at you my mind goes on a trip
Then you came in, and knocked me on my face
Feels like in I'm a race
But I already won first place

I never thought I'd fall for you as hard as I did
(As hard as I did, yeah)
You got me thinkin' bout our life our house and kids, yeah
Every mornin' I look at you and smile
'Cause boy you came around and you knocked me down
Knocked me down

Sometimes love comes around
(Love comes around love comes around)
And it knocks you down
Just get back up
When it knocks you down
(Knocks you down)
Sometimes love comes around
(Love comes around)
And it knocks you down
Just get back up
When it knocks you down

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BabeD2

i'm a lady but ladies please stop pressurising guys abt marriage,that's y u end up being emotionally hurt on your marriages,because sometimes u will find the guy is married 2 u just to satisfy u and continue behaving like a bachelor when u try to talk to him abt that behavior he says i married u wht more do u want frm mee.
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Mapholobakay1

Uyabona nje from the pic ukuthi lombhemu aka jabulile. Shame ukungafundi konke lokhu.
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Pabi

he didn't want to marry his long time sweetheart so who forced him to marry this lady, suicide was stupid act to take.
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MGEEZ

I do not think so!!!! This young men had so much to leave for, why would he commit suicide? Who asked for the hand in marriage? Was there a gun on his head when he asked to marry the girl?
Please get some handwriting experts to scrutinize the suicide letter!!! Findout who was the driver of the cab that picked him up. Perform some forensic pathological test with the intention to establish whether the dive into the water was voluntary or was he pushed?

Investigate both the wife and the sister!!!! Findout whether the young men was insured and how much, so as to establish motive for a possible murder. Let the police perform the satelite reviews of the area (If they have such technology)to establish whether indeed the man was there all by himself or he had help. Once all the possible loopholes have been closed, then the police can start looking at this case as a suicide, but until then I say the should be investigating a murder case.
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MaLindo

Sometime its said but i do understand i suffer from a server depression myself and since my teen ages and taking medication for it. people don't was to listen, you stop taking, feel alone and pressure boils to a point that the pain to dieing is better than the one to living, My sympathies go to the family. it could have been prevented but who listened NO ONE
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TKay

He should had the balls to say NO - why let someone pressure you to do something you dont want, he is a coward and in his next life he must learn to say NO
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Bamba

Hai Mahlabaaihlabela ona le mathata.If i were you i was just going to stay out the marriage.Bana batla gola o ba hlokomele o tlogele go nagana go fedisa bophelo ba gago.Taba ya gago e boima toomuch.
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TBGOLE

@WORDOFGOD
Sister your words are so inspiring. Thank you for sharing.
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cox$pus

@Mahlabaaihlabela

O baka kgeke le lekontraka, jy sal k@k!
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fengwane

@Zuluprincess711 kunjalo ufuna ukuthi u Trudy uyibulele indoda yakhe
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bantu yekani ukuthi indada mayishonile nithi ibulawe umfazi
kodwa umfazi makashonile kuthiwa unkulunkulu uthethe

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