HE LOOKED up to his mother for protection, but in the end she was the one who violated him.
That is the story of *Michael Trupp, a Johannesburg man, who was sexually molested by his mother when he was only five.
"I can't remember if it was sexual. What I do remember, though, is that she used to fondle me and touch my private parts," Trupp said.
He said male sex abuse could be higher than that of women because the incidents are hardly ever reported.
"There is a perception that when it's reported by a man it's a lie or that you're gay and you asked for it," he said.
His agony continued when a man from his neighbourhood molested him as he was reaching puberty.
"I had always wanted to be a pilot and this man, after worming his way into our home, convinced my parents that he would help me achieve my goal.
"I was only 12 years old and that was when the abuse began - until I was 17 years old and left to join the army," he said.
In later years Trupp would go on and get married, but his demons would always come back to haunt him.
"I drank a lot and was not very nice to my wife. Abuse can lead to addiction - either drugs or alcohol," Trupp said. "I would sit at my laptop for hours watching porn, pleasuring myself.
"I was doing all of these things while I had a beautiful wife in bed waiting for me."
His male molester called him many years later, when his was 37.
"I don't know where he got my numbers from, but he called saying we should get together.
"I was angry and told him that if he ever came near my family I would kill him.
"When my wife asked me what it was about, I just told her it was a wrong number."
It was only after seeing a guy on the Oprah Winfrey Show who had had similar experiences that Trupp decided to come clean with his wife.
" I decided to tell my wife, but she told me she had always suspected that something of the kind might have happened to me."
About his mother, whom he doesn't speak to, Trupp said: "She is in her 80s now and I would like to speak to her and find out why she did those things to me.
"An apology will be enough for me and I will put everything behind me." - selebim@sowetan.co.za
*Michael Trupp is not his real name.
Boys are abused too
HE LOOKED up to his mother for protection, but in the end she was the one who violated him.
That is the story of *Michael Trupp, a Johannesburg man, who was sexually molested by his mother when he was only five.
"I can't remember if it was sexual. What I do remember, though, is that she used to fondle me and touch my private parts," Trupp said.
He said male sex abuse could be higher than that of women because the incidents are hardly ever reported.
"There is a perception that when it's reported by a man it's a lie or that you're gay and you asked for it," he said.
His agony continued when a man from his neighbourhood molested him as he was reaching puberty.
"I had always wanted to be a pilot and this man, after worming his way into our home, convinced my parents that he would help me achieve my goal.
"I was only 12 years old and that was when the abuse began - until I was 17 years old and left to join the army," he said.
In later years Trupp would go on and get married, but his demons would always come back to haunt him.
"I drank a lot and was not very nice to my wife. Abuse can lead to addiction - either drugs or alcohol," Trupp said. "I would sit at my laptop for hours watching porn, pleasuring myself.
"I was doing all of these things while I had a beautiful wife in bed waiting for me."
His male molester called him many years later, when his was 37.
"I don't know where he got my numbers from, but he called saying we should get together.
"I was angry and told him that if he ever came near my family I would kill him.
"When my wife asked me what it was about, I just told her it was a wrong number."
It was only after seeing a guy on the Oprah Winfrey Show who had had similar experiences that Trupp decided to come clean with his wife.
" I decided to tell my wife, but she told me she had always suspected that something of the kind might have happened to me."
About his mother, whom he doesn't speak to, Trupp said: "She is in her 80s now and I would like to speak to her and find out why she did those things to me.
"An apology will be enough for me and I will put everything behind me." - selebim@sowetan.co.za
*Michael Trupp is not his real name.
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