Blessings, sister. There are so many kids out there living this right now. May your music touch their lives and wake them up. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
kabelo110
Who is this now? Shem im sorry though girl. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Dubul'Amanzi
""I was only 15 when I entered the abusive relationship and fell pregnant at the age of 16. "" You were still young Mlomo,uzenziwa akakhalelwa. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Papage
"My boyfriend at that time used to beat me up for nothing after he had been drinking liquor. He would come back home late from shebeens and accuse me of things I had not done. Then, when I would defend myself, he would beat me."
The Sister is not healing, how long is this going to take you, each time they interview you we are told of the abuse that you been through, it is now boring, please learn to forget that negative things that happened in your life and only focus on the positive, God has kept you till this far and he has protected you and gave you wisdom and freedom to praise Him, now forget the past hurt and move on. You have a talented voice that chase the devil away, just focus on that, you will see how Great thier God is, I pray for healing for you My Sister, Keep on knocking on that Heaven door you will see soon. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
GODESS
Askies sistaz and its good to see that you rose up, despite what you went through. We tend to feel like the weakest link when you a subjected to such situations, S.A needs more women like you that speak out without feeling shameful, part of the healing process. Stay Blessed! Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
2shy2call
O rata dilo le wena, but that does not give that B@stard the right to abuse you. 15years already o samela pip!. Eish le wena kgale o jewa. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Tbos2008
@ Papage
The Sister is not healing, how long is this going to take you, each time they interview you we are told of the abuse that you been through, it is now boring, please learn to forget that negative things that happened in your life and only focus on the positive, God has kept you till this far and he has protected you and gave you wisdom and freedom to praise Him, now forget the past hurt and move on. You have a talented voice that chase the devil away, just focus on that, you will see how Great thier God is, I pray for healing for you My Sister, Keep on knocking on that Heaven door you will see soon.
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Same sentiments, that story is kind of boring and its not like its something unusual in our society, jy was lastag Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
DJ-Winner
15 year old with a boyfriend? That was nasty.
Why is it that these so called celebrity claiming were abused in their childhood. Rebeca told us the same story. The likes of Beyonce, Kelly Rowlands, etc. I don't trust these people. Report Abuse
Sad story indeed, im sorry sis, God will surely grand you a perfect man in your life one day. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Bumboklaat
And then ge ba seno tsena kereke bare ba amogetse jeso bare b0na kema virgin! K@k man! Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Shredder
Why, why, why do you have to live with a boyfriend at such young age? Obviously at that age many boys beat up on girls. You stay at home, if they eat pap and morogo, you eat, if they eat papa and cabbage you eat.
Anyway, all the best with your singing career. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Groovisto
Sukaaa Fikile !!! tell us something new and fresh.
your stories are all the same....many women singers or celebrities claim this abuse and all male celebrities claim jail time or being on the street. WHY??? Do you want our sympathy? Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
zuluchick
why you gotta protest against violence when your cd is released?
Jaa that's boys calling themselves men. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
child4real
This lady sings very nice, well she's got this voice that you'll love to listen to. I am not sorry sister with what you went through as I guess you know that ,good people have to go through a rough patch before things turn good.
Well as it says,whatever the hardship that satan has put you through,God will turn it arround and make it a blessing,so whatever way your past was, take a look at you now you are one of the greatest, God is good Ms Fikile Mlomo. Report Abuse
You could here her voice....wow!
Worry not my sister as long as you keep it real with the Lord it'll all pass and you'll forget if it ever happend.
Unfortunately it's true all great people went through hell once in thier lives to where they are now.
Hold on lady and keep those records coming...I love your music pretty much. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Missjoy
Very sad story, one way or the other most woman if not all are affected with abuse. Kunzima ukuba umfazi emhlabeni!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
sabza007
God is great my sister, praise him for the life he has given you after your traumatic up bringing. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Dubul'Amanzi
Missjoy
Very sad story, one way or the other most woman if not all are affected with abuse. Kunzima ukuba umfazi emhlabeni!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Hi Unjani?Where were you hiding? Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
KatakataEmaotoAditshepe
@zuluchick
why you gotta protest against violence when your cd is released?
celebs can all go to he.ll
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Because we're in violence against children and women month ZuluChick,why're you getting angry?
"How gospel singer survived abuse"...what you do today determines your tomorrow...so please dont tell us gore u were abused cos"staying with a guy at 15 ke bokhebereshe le bo straatmate fela eseng abuse". Besides I'm sure the newsroom, can do better than this. Bathong I'm tired of reading about these self imposed abused wannabe celebrities seeking for sympathy! Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Missjoy
@Dubul'Amanzi - Ngiyaphila, I am still here is just that I've been busy Report Abuse
You really cant be abused by a boyfriend/girlfriend. You just quit immediately. A boyfriend/girlfriend is a friend, not husband/ wife. It is time for you to give us a break on this abuse thing. It is very seldom to hear grown up people cry of this abuse thing. Now these girls are starting to abuse the word ABUSE. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Voetzek
I dont buy that story of abusive relationship, why they only come out when the yam yam is finished especially women, believe me woman are most the ones who abuse their patners/husbands its just that we dont come out Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Garanteni
I am glad I am not the only one who has noticed that her story begin to sound like it has been manufactured to trigger Album sales, she doesnt sing that well, but she is well marketed by Tshepo Nzimande, they even recycling stories to get her to be noticed, Sisi if umculo doesnt work for you, perhaps a 08 to 17h00 day job will do. uzoba strong Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Dubul'Amanzi
Missjoy
@Dubul'- How are you kodwa?
Oh ngi right yaz,and emsebenzini is not that busy so im always online,and wena kuhamba njani emsebenzini? Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
YOYO85
sad story im sorry about ur baby and i love your music Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Missjoy
Dubul'Amanzi
Missjoy
@Dubul'- How are you kodwa?
Oh ngi right yaz,and emsebenzini is not that busy so im always online,and wena kuhamba njani emsebenzini?
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Last week it was hectic, but this week we are on go slow and we are busy preparing for the year end function on Friday, I am going on leave on friday Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
motlantheforpresident
Opportunists like Fikile why only expose the abuse during the 16 days of actvism against women why keeping quite so long i take that you were enjoying sex than the beatings ftsheek Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Dubul'Amanzi
Missjoy
Dubul'Amanzi
Missjoy
@Dubul'- How are you kodwa?
Oh ngi right yaz,and emsebenzini is not that busy so im always online,and wena kuhamba njani emsebenzini?
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Last week it was hectic, but this week we are on go slow and we are busy preparing for the year end function on Friday, I am going on leave on friday
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Lucky you,hope everything goes well. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
sbesh
These kind of stories are becoming boring now really, i mean some of us did experience the same things but never went to live with our boyfriends and droping out from school. Our main focus was to make sure that we get out of the situations and focused on passing grade 12 and going to tertiary.
The fact that u had a boyfrnd at 15 to me means something, awumameli qha. You ran away from home because ufuna uziphatha period. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
SWEETYK
Guys we are not the same and we don't think the same, there are people out there who can learn something out of this story so please let us not judge as she said she made lots of mistakes. I think what we need to do is to accept our situations at home and lastly pride helps. Ikgantshe ka bodidi ba gago then you'll survive in most cases. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Missjoy
Dubul'Amanzi
Missjoy
Dubul'Amanzi
Missjoy
@Dubul'- How are you kodwa?
Oh ngi right yaz,and emsebenzini is not that busy so im always online,and wena kuhamba njani emsebenzini?
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Last week it was hectic, but this week we are on go slow and we are busy preparing for the year end function on Friday, I am going on leave on friday
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Lucky you,hope everything goes well.
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Thanx baba and in case we dont talk 2morow, I wish you a marry Christmas and a very very happy new year. take care of yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Dubul'Amanzi
Missjoy
Dubul'Amanzi
Missjoy
Dubul'Amanzi
Missjoy
@Dubul'- How are you kodwa?
Oh ngi right yaz,and emsebenzini is not that busy so im always online,and wena kuhamba njani emsebenzini?
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Last week it was hectic, but this week we are on go slow and we are busy preparing for the year end function on Friday, I am going on leave on friday
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Lucky you,hope everything goes well.
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Thanx baba and in case we dont talk 2morow, I wish you a marry Christmas and a very very happy new year. take care of yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Thanks you too, mind if I give u my "fake" email then will give you the correct one later? Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
TheGenius
Fikile should be honest and tell us that "My boyfriend and I would always fight when we were drunk." Why do all these so-called celebrities blame all the people for their past mistakes except themselves.
For the record, Fikile still drinks heavily and she fights when she is drunk. Who is she going to blame now?
We are tired of people who want us to feel sorry for them by blaming other people but themselves. The fact is: Wena Fikile you ran away to live with you boyfriend because you get drunk very well together, and you still drink to this day, and now you claim to be an angel - a drinking angel. At the moment when your boyfriend slept with you, what were you doing? Crying abuse? Drinking? Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Dubul'Amanzi
TheGenius
Fikile should be honest and tell us that "My boyfriend and I would always fight when we were drunk." Why do all these so-called celebrities blame all the people for their past mistakes except themselves.
For the record, Fikile still drinks heavily and she fights when she is drunk. Who is she going to blame now?
We are tired of people who want us to feel sorry for them by blaming other people but themselves. The fact is: Wena Fikile you ran away to live with you boyfriend because you get drunk very well together, and you still drink to this day, and now you claim to be an angel - a drinking angel. At the moment when your boyfriend slept with you, what were you doing? Crying abuse? Drinking?
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Lol are really a genius. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Mokwepa
story was published 3 months ago on Sowetan Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Missjoy
Thanks you too, mind if I give u my "fake" email then will give you the correct one later?
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ungihlekiselani kangaka lol?
Lets just say u will give me the correct one next year. ( 14/01/2013) never mind the 'fake one'
Miraculously, my baby survived until at one fight we had, she died on the scene
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but this sound different from what u said on metro fm a few weeks ago in a onterview with Thami? Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Dubul'Amanzi
Missjoy
Thanks you too, mind if I give u my "fake" email then will give you the correct one later?
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ungihlekiselani kangaka lol?
Lets just say u will give me the correct one next year. ( 14/01/2013) never mind the 'fake one'
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Lol ok then but I don't think I can give my correct email here on Sowetan unfortunately. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Phuphethakatha
There is too much exploitation and abuse of kids from poor families. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
TheGenius
Dubul'Amanzi
TheGenius
Fikile should be honest and tell us that "My boyfriend and I would always fight when we were drunk." Why do all these so-called celebrities blame all the people for their past mistakes except themselves.
For the record, Fikile still drinks heavily and she fights when she is drunk. Who is she going to blame now?
We are tired of people who want us to feel sorry for them by blaming other people but themselves. The fact is: Wena Fikile you ran away to live with you boyfriend because you get drunk very well together, and you still drink to this day, and now you claim to be an angel - a drinking angel. At the moment when your boyfriend slept with you, what were you doing? Crying abuse? Drinking?
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Lol are really a genius.
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SWEETYK
No my love, as for me I am sick and tired of this abuse abuse abuse nonsense. They are just trying to steal the limelight about this ABUSE sh!t. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
motlantheforpresident
Serene
But this sound different from what u said on metro fm
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I can still maintain that the lady is taking chances how do you sleep and have sex while nursing your injuries then have a miscarriage where was the police station far such that one wont manage to walk to report the abuse some people are too opportunistic where were her friends, colleques and passersby priests teachers to report the abuse wa re gafela wena ngwanyana ftsheek
@ The Genius, kwaaaaaaaaak, thats why celebrities run away from your likes cos you blocking their way of milking the unsuspecting public by being explicit in telling the truth, I am just wondering when did she became a star? Fikile and her like wants to use gospel ukukhuthuza abantu. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Nongoloza24
SWEETYK
Guys we are not the same and we don't think the same, there are people out there who can learn something out of this story so please let us not judge as she said she made lots of mistakes. I think what we need to do is to accept our situations at home and lastly pride helps. Ikgantshe ka bofebe ba gago then you'll survive in most cases.
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Spoken like a real maakgosha #smh#
mmmh y do i feel like she hav now edited her story..Anywhr wat happend in the past shud remain there find peace and surround urself with that positive energy my sista God hav blessed u with such a beautiful voice use that and move forward..Nobody deserves to go thrw wat u went thrw..Stay strong Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
SWEETYK
@MSG_S
That's the only problem with our celebrities, we don't know when they lie or not but in most cases this things do happen serious for real and the course is people don't want to accept that their parents can't afford 1 2 3. I know other lady in my neighbourhood ko habo they are struggling and she went to leave with her boyfriend coz ko habo ke bighouse and you know what the guy is abusive coz he knows that the lady won't leave the chicken and salads for pap and cabbage. We need to have pride guys. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
SWEETYK
@ ALL
Skatana se around let me kutsa sharp ke baleya RAMATLHAPA, HLOKOLOZA24 Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Dubul'Amanzi
@TheGenius
Dubul' Amanzi nsizw' enye ngiyazibongela bhung' elisha. Phela iqiniso abalifuni laba onontandwakubukwa. Nami ngisho engikwaziyo. Kungenzeka nje kwale interview wayenza ebukhile...
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Ngiyavuma injalo nje wayephuzile. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Mathutha
Talking of emotional abuse, I know this!!!! It kills You. Happy you finally came out of all these abuses. Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
RastaP2
Hai why is it all gospel st*rs have been through an emotional phases, so if they hadn't been through these "abuse" they would have been singing
hip/house/kwaito? i fail to understand them Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Uncompromising
MSG_S
SWEETYK
No my love, as for me I am sick and tired of this abuse abuse abuse nonsense. They are just trying to steal the limelight about this ABUSE sh!t.
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Celebrities and people in the limelight have managers and spin-doctors. I think her record label and manager thought this will be good for records sales but also to inform the public about abuse. Whether it is the truth or not, we can only guess. I would prefer that anyone who raises an alarm about abuse must also name the person(s) that abused them ( name and shame ). If not, the whole thing just becomes a useless exercise.
Haibo kante at what age must people starte dating? moving in with your boyfriend at 15 is taboo, but having one isnt bad....well better than the 12 years olds I've seen in mys street snogging in school uniform Report Abuse
Dec 12, 2012
Unpredictable123
Don't mean to be insensitive but her story now is not the same as she told a crowd of people attending a gospel concert in cape town 4 years ago, that the boyfriend beat her until she was admitted in hospital, upon returning from hospital she learnt that the boyfriend had killed the child.
Anyway I don't want to excuse the boyfriend's behavoiur but a lot of people are poor, do they resort to cohabitation especially at that young age. Me thinks she stayed with the boyfriend because she was rebellious not poor. Report Abuse
Reading through some of the comments here makes me feel so sad to see that South Africans are so used to abuse such that they generalise it,especially men's comments & they are even the ones who are perpetrators of violence in our society. So there's no sympathy whatsoever for whatever the sister has gone through? situations can push you to do certain things in life especially when you're still young with no proper guidence.
The LORD shall strengthen you sister stay stronger. Report Abuse
Dec 13, 2012
BlackWomen
My sister i know wat ur going through bcos i have been thr myself, at the age of 19 i fell inlove with a wrong guy, i moved in with him wen i completed my tertiary studies at 21, beleive me he wuld go on cheating and drinking with his galfrnds from Friday until sunday, wen he come back he will beat me until i faint.
July 2007 at the age of 23 i fell pragnant with his baby, by then i was in that relationship for 2 n a half years, i came back home sick from work that day on the 24 July 2007, then he took me to a dr wer thy said m prg, afta 2 days he started beating me up until i started bleeding, then i lost the bby, still i ddnt go, until 2009 wen i received a call frm a women that she is slyping with my man n she is evn prag, thats wen i confirmd it n realize its enough, i left him, my job n evrything n came back home, now m working, moved on with my life but i cnt forget wat he did nd 2day m turning 28 bt still no kids, no man i cn love. nd he died early this year. Report Abuse
Dec 13, 2012
BlackWomen
@ All,
u wuldn't knw cos u were neva in a situation lyk that, sumtyms poverty make ppl do certain things, most of the abused women are frm poor family wereby u think moving in with a bf will give u a beta lyf,
pls dnt jugde, she might b telling the same story ova n ova again but thats wat happend and its breaking her heart, at the same tym she is trying to make other woman aware that abuse ga se gore bf wa go rata. Report Abuse
Dec 13, 2012
THEOZA
@ Blackwomen so we are judgemental when we blame someone for moving in with a guy at 15? She shouldn’t have done that in the first place and give an excuse of being poor? More than 70% of black families are poor, so what you are saying here is that girls born in such families should just go cohabitate? & wena you also want us to sympathise with you and stop “judging”, as you fondly put it, when you went and moved in with a guy when you, yourself had a privileged life than most , you finished your tertiary studies and instead of making life better for yourself you moved in with a guy? What you don’t tell us is that your parents might have warned you against moving in with a guy and you went on and did that.
We are so tired of people who are not wise enough to learn from other people’s mistakes and just out of ignorance & inkani just do things which will harm them in the end and then will come back and say “we must not judge”
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MommaC
Blessings, sister. There are so many kids out there living this right now. May your music touch their lives and wake them up.Report Abuse
kabelo110
Who is this now? Shem im sorry though girl.Report Abuse
Dubul'Amanzi
""I was only 15 when I entered the abusive relationship and fell pregnant at the age of 16. "" You were still young Mlomo,uzenziwa akakhalelwa.Report Abuse
Papage
"My boyfriend at that time used to beat me up for nothing after he had been drinking liquor. He would come back home late from shebeens and accuse me of things I had not done. Then, when I would defend myself, he would beat me."The Sister is not healing, how long is this going to take you, each time they interview you we are told of the abuse that you been through, it is now boring, please learn to forget that negative things that happened in your life and only focus on the positive, God has kept you till this far and he has protected you and gave you wisdom and freedom to praise Him, now forget the past hurt and move on. You have a talented voice that chase the devil away, just focus on that, you will see how Great thier God is, I pray for healing for you My Sister, Keep on knocking on that Heaven door you will see soon.
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GODESS
Askies sistaz and its good to see that you rose up, despite what you went through. We tend to feel like the weakest link when you a subjected to such situations, S.A needs more women like you that speak out without feeling shameful, part of the healing process. Stay Blessed!Report Abuse
2shy2call
O rata dilo le wena, but that does not give that B@stard the right to abuse you. 15years already o samela pip!. Eish le wena kgale o jewa.Report Abuse
Tbos2008
@ PapageThe Sister is not healing, how long is this going to take you, each time they interview you we are told of the abuse that you been through, it is now boring, please learn to forget that negative things that happened in your life and only focus on the positive, God has kept you till this far and he has protected you and gave you wisdom and freedom to praise Him, now forget the past hurt and move on. You have a talented voice that chase the devil away, just focus on that, you will see how Great thier God is, I pray for healing for you My Sister, Keep on knocking on that Heaven door you will see soon.
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Same sentiments, that story is kind of boring and its not like its something unusual in our society, jy was lastag
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DJ-Winner
15 year old with a boyfriend? That was nasty.Why is it that these so called celebrity claiming were abused in their childhood. Rebeca told us the same story. The likes of Beyonce, Kelly Rowlands, etc. I don't trust these people.
Report Abuse
Zimzalabam1
You and so many others now sit down.Report Abuse
thinya
Sad story indeed, im sorry sis, God will surely grand you a perfect man in your life one day.Report Abuse
Bumboklaat
And then ge ba seno tsena kereke bare ba amogetse jeso bare b0na kema virgin! K@k man!Report Abuse
Shredder
Why, why, why do you have to live with a boyfriend at such young age? Obviously at that age many boys beat up on girls. You stay at home, if they eat pap and morogo, you eat, if they eat papa and cabbage you eat.Anyway, all the best with your singing career.
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Groovisto
Sukaaa Fikile !!! tell us something new and fresh.your stories are all the same....many women singers or celebrities claim this abuse and all male celebrities claim jail time or being on the street. WHY??? Do you want our sympathy?
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zuluchick
why you gotta protest against violence when your cd is released?celebs can all go to he.ll
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KatakataEmaotoAditshepe
Jaa that's boys calling themselves men.Report Abuse
child4real
This lady sings very nice, well she's got this voice that you'll love to listen to. I am not sorry sister with what you went through as I guess you know that ,good people have to go through a rough patch before things turn good.Well as it says,whatever the hardship that satan has put you through,God will turn it arround and make it a blessing,so whatever way your past was, take a look at you now you are one of the greatest, God is good Ms Fikile Mlomo.
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Mdala
Sorry mabhebeza uzoba strongReport Abuse
child4real
You could here her voice....wow!Worry not my sister as long as you keep it real with the Lord it'll all pass and you'll forget if it ever happend.
Unfortunately it's true all great people went through hell once in thier lives to where they are now.
Hold on lady and keep those records coming...I love your music pretty much.
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Missjoy
Very sad story, one way or the other most woman if not all are affected with abuse. Kunzima ukuba umfazi emhlabeni!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Report Abuse
sabza007
God is great my sister, praise him for the life he has given you after your traumatic up bringing.Report Abuse
Dubul'Amanzi
MissjoyVery sad story, one way or the other most woman if not all are affected with abuse. Kunzima ukuba umfazi emhlabeni!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Hi Unjani?Where were you hiding?
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KatakataEmaotoAditshepe
@zuluchickwhy you gotta protest against violence when your cd is released?
celebs can all go to he.ll
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Because we're in violence against children and women month ZuluChick,why're you getting angry?
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Zhee_Lee
"How gospel singer survived abuse"...what you do today determines your tomorrow...so please dont tell us gore u were abused cos"staying with a guy at 15 ke bokhebereshe le bo straatmate fela eseng abuse". Besides I'm sure the newsroom, can do better than this. Bathong I'm tired of reading about these self imposed abused wannabe celebrities seeking for sympathy!Report Abuse
Missjoy
@Dubul'Amanzi - Ngiyaphila, I am still here is just that I've been busyReport Abuse
Missjoy
@Dubul'- How are you kodwa?Report Abuse
MSG_S
You really cant be abused by a boyfriend/girlfriend. You just quit immediately. A boyfriend/girlfriend is a friend, not husband/ wife. It is time for you to give us a break on this abuse thing. It is very seldom to hear grown up people cry of this abuse thing. Now these girls are starting to abuse the word ABUSE.Report Abuse
Voetzek
I dont buy that story of abusive relationship, why they only come out when the yam yam is finished especially women, believe me woman are most the ones who abuse their patners/husbands its just that we dont come outReport Abuse
Garanteni
I am glad I am not the only one who has noticed that her story begin to sound like it has been manufactured to trigger Album sales, she doesnt sing that well, but she is well marketed by Tshepo Nzimande, they even recycling stories to get her to be noticed, Sisi if umculo doesnt work for you, perhaps a 08 to 17h00 day job will do. uzoba strongReport Abuse
Dubul'Amanzi
Missjoy@Dubul'- How are you kodwa?
Oh ngi right yaz,and emsebenzini is not that busy so im always online,and wena kuhamba njani emsebenzini?
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YOYO85
sad story im sorry about ur baby and i love your musicReport Abuse
Missjoy
Dubul'AmanziMissjoy
@Dubul'- How are you kodwa?
Oh ngi right yaz,and emsebenzini is not that busy so im always online,and wena kuhamba njani emsebenzini?
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Last week it was hectic, but this week we are on go slow and we are busy preparing for the year end function on Friday, I am going on leave on friday
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motlantheforpresident
Opportunists like Fikile why only expose the abuse during the 16 days of actvism against women why keeping quite so long i take that you were enjoying sex than the beatings ftsheekReport Abuse
Dubul'Amanzi
MissjoyDubul'Amanzi
Missjoy
@Dubul'- How are you kodwa?
Oh ngi right yaz,and emsebenzini is not that busy so im always online,and wena kuhamba njani emsebenzini?
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Last week it was hectic, but this week we are on go slow and we are busy preparing for the year end function on Friday, I am going on leave on friday
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Lucky you,hope everything goes well.
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sbesh
These kind of stories are becoming boring now really, i mean some of us did experience the same things but never went to live with our boyfriends and droping out from school. Our main focus was to make sure that we get out of the situations and focused on passing grade 12 and going to tertiary.The fact that u had a boyfrnd at 15 to me means something, awumameli qha. You ran away from home because ufuna uziphatha period.
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SWEETYK
Guys we are not the same and we don't think the same, there are people out there who can learn something out of this story so please let us not judge as she said she made lots of mistakes. I think what we need to do is to accept our situations at home and lastly pride helps. Ikgantshe ka bodidi ba gago then you'll survive in most cases.Report Abuse
Missjoy
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@Dubul'- How are you kodwa?
Oh ngi right yaz,and emsebenzini is not that busy so im always online,and wena kuhamba njani emsebenzini?
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Last week it was hectic, but this week we are on go slow and we are busy preparing for the year end function on Friday, I am going on leave on friday
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Lucky you,hope everything goes well.
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Thanx baba and in case we dont talk 2morow, I wish you a marry Christmas and a very very happy new year. take care of yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Dubul'Amanzi
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@Dubul'- How are you kodwa?
Oh ngi right yaz,and emsebenzini is not that busy so im always online,and wena kuhamba njani emsebenzini?
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Last week it was hectic, but this week we are on go slow and we are busy preparing for the year end function on Friday, I am going on leave on friday
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Lucky you,hope everything goes well.
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Thanx baba and in case we dont talk 2morow, I wish you a marry Christmas and a very very happy new year. take care of yourself!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Thanks you too, mind if I give u my "fake" email then will give you the correct one later?
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TheGenius
Fikile should be honest and tell us that "My boyfriend and I would always fight when we were drunk." Why do all these so-called celebrities blame all the people for their past mistakes except themselves.For the record, Fikile still drinks heavily and she fights when she is drunk. Who is she going to blame now?
We are tired of people who want us to feel sorry for them by blaming other people but themselves. The fact is: Wena Fikile you ran away to live with you boyfriend because you get drunk very well together, and you still drink to this day, and now you claim to be an angel - a drinking angel. At the moment when your boyfriend slept with you, what were you doing? Crying abuse? Drinking?
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Dubul'Amanzi
TheGeniusFikile should be honest and tell us that "My boyfriend and I would always fight when we were drunk." Why do all these so-called celebrities blame all the people for their past mistakes except themselves.
For the record, Fikile still drinks heavily and she fights when she is drunk. Who is she going to blame now?
We are tired of people who want us to feel sorry for them by blaming other people but themselves. The fact is: Wena Fikile you ran away to live with you boyfriend because you get drunk very well together, and you still drink to this day, and now you claim to be an angel - a drinking angel. At the moment when your boyfriend slept with you, what were you doing? Crying abuse? Drinking?
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Lol are really a genius.
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Mokwepa
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Missjoy
Thanks you too, mind if I give u my "fake" email then will give you the correct one later?**************************************************************************
ungihlekiselani kangaka lol?
Lets just say u will give me the correct one next year. ( 14/01/2013) never mind the 'fake one'
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Serene
Miraculously, my baby survived until at one fight we had, she died on the scene___________________________________________________________________
but this sound different from what u said on metro fm a few weeks ago in a onterview with Thami?
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Dubul'Amanzi
MissjoyThanks you too, mind if I give u my "fake" email then will give you the correct one later?
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ungihlekiselani kangaka lol?
Lets just say u will give me the correct one next year. ( 14/01/2013) never mind the 'fake one'
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Lol ok then but I don't think I can give my correct email here on Sowetan unfortunately.
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Phuphethakatha
There is too much exploitation and abuse of kids from poor families.Report Abuse
TheGenius
Dubul'AmanziTheGenius
Fikile should be honest and tell us that "My boyfriend and I would always fight when we were drunk." Why do all these so-called celebrities blame all the people for their past mistakes except themselves.
For the record, Fikile still drinks heavily and she fights when she is drunk. Who is she going to blame now?
We are tired of people who want us to feel sorry for them by blaming other people but themselves. The fact is: Wena Fikile you ran away to live with you boyfriend because you get drunk very well together, and you still drink to this day, and now you claim to be an angel - a drinking angel. At the moment when your boyfriend slept with you, what were you doing? Crying abuse? Drinking?
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Lol are really a genius.
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Dubul' Amanzi nsizw' enye ngiyazibongela bhung' elisha. Phela iqiniso abalifuni laba onontandwakubukwa. Nami ngisho engikwaziyo. Kungenzeka nje kwale interview wayenza ebukhile...
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MSG_S
SWEETYKNo my love, as for me I am sick and tired of this abuse abuse abuse nonsense. They are just trying to steal the limelight about this ABUSE sh!t.
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SereneBut this sound different from what u said on metro fm
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I can still maintain that the lady is taking chances how do you sleep and have sex while nursing your injuries then have a miscarriage where was the police station far such that one wont manage to walk to report the abuse some people are too opportunistic where were her friends, colleques and passersby priests teachers to report the abuse wa re gafela wena ngwanyana ftsheek
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Garanteni
@ The Genius, kwaaaaaaaaak, thats why celebrities run away from your likes cos you blocking their way of milking the unsuspecting public by being explicit in telling the truth, I am just wondering when did she became a star? Fikile and her like wants to use gospel ukukhuthuza abantu.Report Abuse
Nongoloza24
SWEETYKGuys we are not the same and we don't think the same, there are people out there who can learn something out of this story so please let us not judge as she said she made lots of mistakes. I think what we need to do is to accept our situations at home and lastly pride helps. Ikgantshe ka bofebe ba gago then you'll survive in most cases.
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Spoken like a real maakgosha #smh#
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HoneyBoo
mmmh y do i feel like she hav now edited her story..Anywhr wat happend in the past shud remain there find peace and surround urself with that positive energy my sista God hav blessed u with such a beautiful voice use that and move forward..Nobody deserves to go thrw wat u went thrw..Stay strongReport Abuse
SWEETYK
@MSG_SThat's the only problem with our celebrities, we don't know when they lie or not but in most cases this things do happen serious for real and the course is people don't want to accept that their parents can't afford 1 2 3. I know other lady in my neighbourhood ko habo they are struggling and she went to leave with her boyfriend coz ko habo ke bighouse and you know what the guy is abusive coz he knows that the lady won't leave the chicken and salads for pap and cabbage. We need to have pride guys.
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SWEETYK
@ ALLSkatana se around let me kutsa sharp ke baleya RAMATLHAPA, HLOKOLOZA24
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Dubul'Amanzi
@TheGeniusDubul' Amanzi nsizw' enye ngiyazibongela bhung' elisha. Phela iqiniso abalifuni laba onontandwakubukwa. Nami ngisho engikwaziyo. Kungenzeka nje kwale interview wayenza ebukhile...
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Ngiyavuma injalo nje wayephuzile.
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Mathutha
Talking of emotional abuse, I know this!!!! It kills You. Happy you finally came out of all these abuses.Report Abuse
RastaP2
Hai why is it all gospel st*rs have been through an emotional phases, so if they hadn't been through these "abuse" they would have been singinghip/house/kwaito? i fail to understand them
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MSG_SSWEETYK
No my love, as for me I am sick and tired of this abuse abuse abuse nonsense. They are just trying to steal the limelight about this ABUSE sh!t.
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Celebrities and people in the limelight have managers and spin-doctors. I think her record label and manager thought this will be good for records sales but also to inform the public about abuse. Whether it is the truth or not, we can only guess. I would prefer that anyone who raises an alarm about abuse must also name the person(s) that abused them ( name and shame ). If not, the whole thing just becomes a useless exercise.
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madamx
Aowa bathong! This lady is being talking about the same old thing forever now.What happened to moving on?
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Pencil
You will be fine.Report Abuse
HerRoyalDivaness
Haibo kante at what age must people starte dating? moving in with your boyfriend at 15 is taboo, but having one isnt bad....well better than the 12 years olds I've seen in mys street snogging in school uniformReport Abuse
Unpredictable123
Don't mean to be insensitive but her story now is not the same as she told a crowd of people attending a gospel concert in cape town 4 years ago, that the boyfriend beat her until she was admitted in hospital, upon returning from hospital she learnt that the boyfriend had killed the child.Anyway I don't want to excuse the boyfriend's behavoiur but a lot of people are poor, do they resort to cohabitation especially at that young age. Me thinks she stayed with the boyfriend because she was rebellious not poor.
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ntswembu
Joh who is this dude now?Report Abuse
Ratadilo
Reading through some of the comments here makes me feel so sad to see that South Africans are so used to abuse such that they generalise it,especially men's comments & they are even the ones who are perpetrators of violence in our society. So there's no sympathy whatsoever for whatever the sister has gone through? situations can push you to do certain things in life especially when you're still young with no proper guidence.The LORD shall strengthen you sister stay stronger.
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BlackWomen
My sister i know wat ur going through bcos i have been thr myself, at the age of 19 i fell inlove with a wrong guy, i moved in with him wen i completed my tertiary studies at 21, beleive me he wuld go on cheating and drinking with his galfrnds from Friday until sunday, wen he come back he will beat me until i faint.July 2007 at the age of 23 i fell pragnant with his baby, by then i was in that relationship for 2 n a half years, i came back home sick from work that day on the 24 July 2007, then he took me to a dr wer thy said m prg, afta 2 days he started beating me up until i started bleeding, then i lost the bby, still i ddnt go, until 2009 wen i received a call frm a women that she is slyping with my man n she is evn prag, thats wen i confirmd it n realize its enough, i left him, my job n evrything n came back home, now m working, moved on with my life but i cnt forget wat he did nd 2day m turning 28 bt still no kids, no man i cn love. nd he died early this year.
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BlackWomen
@ All,u wuldn't knw cos u were neva in a situation lyk that, sumtyms poverty make ppl do certain things, most of the abused women are frm poor family wereby u think moving in with a bf will give u a beta lyf,
pls dnt jugde, she might b telling the same story ova n ova again but thats wat happend and its breaking her heart, at the same tym she is trying to make other woman aware that abuse ga se gore bf wa go rata.
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THEOZA
@ Blackwomen so we are judgemental when we blame someone for moving in with a guy at 15? She shouldn’t have done that in the first place and give an excuse of being poor? More than 70% of black families are poor, so what you are saying here is that girls born in such families should just go cohabitate? & wena you also want us to sympathise with you and stop “judging”, as you fondly put it, when you went and moved in with a guy when you, yourself had a privileged life than most , you finished your tertiary studies and instead of making life better for yourself you moved in with a guy? What you don’t tell us is that your parents might have warned you against moving in with a guy and you went on and did that.We are so tired of people who are not wise enough to learn from other people’s mistakes and just out of ignorance & inkani just do things which will harm them in the end and then will come back and say “we must not judge”
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