BLACK women live in a society that constantly reminds them they are not human enough. For every pain and violence against their bodies, society always finds an excuse of why it happened.

 We are constantly blamed for being raped, that it is our fault; we asked for it. No one sits and asks themselves how we manage to cope with all of this.

Black women have wounds that will never heal because they are told to forgive and endure when they do not even get justice.

Justice to a black woman is a foreign concept that seems far-fetched. Being a black woman means fighting for your life every day, living in fear of what might happen. We are not safe in our homes, in the streets we are not safe.

Either you are taught how to escape rape or how to defend yourself when that time comes. No one tells rapists not to rape! Male privilege shields and protects men beyond our imagination. If a man rapes you, you were drunk or wore a short skirt so you asked for it. Men are never wrong. It is always a woman's fault.

Rape culture is the normalisation of rape in our society. Rape culture is violence against a woman's body. Rape culture is when we say to a child "do not report it, it is an embarrassment to the family".

It is when we question the victim if she's sure she got raped or was it just rough sex. Rape culture is not only penetration but the undressing and sexual comments made by males when you pass by them or a when your boss feels the need to say something about your sexuality or how you dress.

Rape culture is victim blaming. Rape culture is when we say to a married women he did not rape you, you are his wife therefore he is entitled to have sex with you. Rape culture is when we ask a victim whether she screamed or not? Rape culture is when we say your "NO" was not strong enough as if there is a measurement of how a "NO" should be.

Black women have been silenced about rape, they have been blamed for all the pains that emerge from the rape culture and have been left to pick up their own broken pieces.

When a woman has been raped, society tries to get smart about rape, ascribing rape to how she was dressed, how drunk she was and the people she was with, forgetting that at the crux of the matter is rape, lies consent. Women have been made to feel guilty of how they dress, who they decide to associate with and how they choose to have fun by the same society that views rape as a normal culture.

Part of the problem women are faced with is when they voice their problems, they hear people saying "but men get raped too".

That is rape culture because at that moment a person is making rape seem normal. We will continue to feel suffocated by rape as long as we still associate the struggle of fighting against rape to a certain gender, as long as we continue ripping each other apart and not coming together as one to fight this horrible giant called rape.

Rape culture can only end if males stop supporting us only on Facebook or Twitter but run their own campaigns to end rape. Rape culture can end the day women believe another women when she says she has been raped without a premise of "Guilty until proven innocent".

Rape culture can end when we stop making women feel ashamed for reporting rape because policemen throw comments as to how she was dressed.

Rape culture will end when society stops teaching males that a woman's body is their property to own and a woman is there to satisfy men sexually. Rape culture will stop when society stops justifying men's brutality against women's bodies. Rape culture will end the day we dismantle patriarchy.

We are frustrated and dying because of rape culture. We are suffocating because of patriarchy.

Isasiphinkosi is part of the ACTIVATE! Change Drivers' Network of more than 2000 young leaders. Mtyingizane describes herself as a tired young black woman.