Good Lord! This lady is really traumatised beyond believe. Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Mellow
Shame so she kept it as evidence since she is afterall a victim and she ended up being arrestedas a suspect? On which bloody ground exactly? So does anyone at all give a damn about the pain she went through and is still going through? Did police ever really bothered to investigate at all?! Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Mellow
@Myskat Its sad really and she is really traumatised and scared if she still cares to prove that it was his child haai the things women go through sometimes
@Mellow agree she is a victim and the police should not waste precious state resources, its good that they did not charge her, what they need to pursue is a case of assault against the ex-boyfriend. Nawe sisi please no more babies with boyfriends, linda umshado manje. Report Abuse
How damaged can one woman be?
He cats around and tries to stab her then he assaults her so badly that she has a miscarriage but all she wants is to prove he is the father? Geez, what did he do to her to reduce her to that state? Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Voetzek
That serves the police right, a person beat the sh***t out of you and you go to report to the station but there is always mampara who will be saying nywe nywe nywe "suspect" nywe nywe "evidents" and nywe nywe "witness" Report Abuse
Mellow> I agree this is just so sad, and it has clearly had a profound effect on her mind.
ntebo: Let's lose that tribal nonsense, shall we. Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Kon-Tiki
Dear lady, you intention was good but the plan was not neat. The way you went on about you preparations on proving your lover that he was wrong was wrong. I hope the courts and prosecutors will understand. Good luck. Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
ThirdEye
I hope they will not arrest her but go after the guy. Even though her actions are beyond normality but there is logic to her explanation. Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Mellow
@Mzarane and knowing how our justice system works it aint gonna happen its such a shame
@MommaC Me thinks a woman who have lost all hope in our police system will go to that length bear in mind that it wasnt just to prove the bustard was the father but she actually kept it as evidence since we know how how the law in SA works no evidence no case finish and klaar
@ Mellow but for three months why not go straight to the police after taking the baby from the hospital. I think the police have every right to take her for questioning remember she was not charged Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
MommaC
meanwhile ..... in another article ....
"Daveyton is not a violent place, so you don't ever hear nasty stories about it."
he must be tswana, pedi or sotho they are weak and always try to look strong by picking on women Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
MommaC
Mellow
Our poor sisters. This is now what they expect. Saddest of all is that they put up with it. We need to do something about this nonsense Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Di-Anne
I feel sori for the poor lady because if you do not have enough evidence the justice system will fail you and as for men can you see what you are doing to us women, May God help this poor lady, this is very sad, I can feel her frustration Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Mellow
@Seribe True but do not forget this is the woman who lost her child through abuse so what if she was still mourning her loss? What if her seeing the foetus everyday made her feel better or what if she still wanted to hold onto it? Its unfortunate and just sad hey I know its kind of weird but I believe she is in pain soo much pain that her actions shouldnt be taken lightly. She needs professional help
@MommaC I know why cant they just up and leave? Why subject yourself to this kind of behaviour, what are they planning to teach their kids? True women must take a stand Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Blackstone.lebs
These are things that our women go through...sad. One wonders where the investigating officer was for the past three months. Some cops just don't give a hoot about complainants' grief. Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
D-liciousLips
after the fight that led to her loosing her baby, the only important thing was proving the child is actualy dat of this bastard boyfriend of hers. lerato ke mathata Report Abuse
Sjooo, this woman is brave..keeping the foetus in a freezer since August..Goshhhh-:) Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
GUNCENCE
and this happened in Daveyton and i just read an article praising the place now that it doesnt have crime, now we see y because the police are not doing anything Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
joyful
what a sad story .......
I hope they apprehend this abusive men, charge him with attemted murder.......
though it can never erase the pain of losing a child! sad hey........... Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Missjoy
@ntebo> ntebo
*not her real name
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Must be Zulus or Xhlosas,, they see women as properties
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I cant believe u just said that Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Missjoy
I Just wonder ukuthi beka fila kanjani everytime when she open the fridge, poor woman i feel for her Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Blackstone.lebs
@joyful
what a sad story .......
I hope they apprehend this abusive men, charge him with attemted murder......
+++++++++++++++++++++
Hopefully with media coverage they may pull up their socks and charge the sucker, but the poor woman's been waiting for three months already. Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
BabyNono87
@ntebo
not her real name
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Must be Zulus or Xhlosas,, they see women as properties
cc, where does tribe fit in all this, your comment is stupid beyond belief!!!
@Missjoy - Wa veza something I did not think about. Tjo vele how did she feel? But I think she is emotionally and psychologically damaged, hence she could do this in the first place. Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Mmini
@ntebo
not her real name
=======================
Must be Zulus or Xhlosas,, they see women as properties
Sometimes with the word* DUE TO LACK OF EVIDENCE* that we hear every day in police station and court room, It can end up pushing you to do staff like this.
A woman was assaulted, as the result of an assault she lost her baby and she did the right thing by reporting to the police but nothing happen. So she decided to keep the evidence all by herself since the police does not care.(Love will always blind for many women) no more babies Ausie!!
Like for really... the still man that beat woman suka.... he mast try woman like me... i will show him heel... i will beat him back and him won't be able to go to the police. coz he will know that when he cums back i will beat him more... Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Shredder
@MommaC
How damaged can one woman be?
He cats around and tries to stab her then he assaults her so badly that she has a miscarriage but all she wants is to prove he is the father? Geez, what did he do to her to reduce her to that state?
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MommaC I was wondering. This is just a mess. I wonder if this story is real or one of those Dear Dudu.
Hawu Sowetan spelling error so vroeg'She found out that the man was cheating on here "......I hope she finds peace and closure and move on. Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Galfrend
That woman is emotionally damaged. Thanx to her scum bag bf nx!!!!
Something is amiss in this story!!! Why would police not act to reports of an assault of any kind let alone one that resulted in miscarriage? Is there a medical report that reconciles these two? When did the assault take place? When did the miscarriage take place?
Her reason for keeping the deceased baby in her home is not plausible either for a reasonable person!!! Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Winilen
Only is SA... I dont think she is ok upstairs some screws are loose. Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Tsek
Mellow
Shame so she kept it as evidence since she is afterall a victim and she ended up being arrestedas a suspect? On which bloody ground exactly? So does anyone at all give a damn about the pain she went through and is still going through? Did police ever really bothered to investigate at all?!
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Mel Mel Mel...did u read the article??she was not arrested my skat they took her for questioning nje, no charge nothing my pumpkin..... Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
MommaC
Shredder
Certainly doesn't sound too logical but some women go nuts in an abusive relationship and a dead baby on top of that may well have made her crazy enough to store the baby next to the frozen peas. Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
MommaC
MGEEZ
Wrong country, M, Here a woman is a boxing bag and the cops don't get involved. Report Abuse
@Tsek Oohh my bad I missed a part where it states that she got an invite from the popo to come have some coffee and cupcakes to discuss her mental state duuhhh flip it man I couldnt care less what you call it fact is she ended up in jail being questioned about all this while the bustard who abused her is still out there Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Zimzalabam1
She needs some damn good counselling for someone to do that she must not have been in her right state or she should be refferd to a psycologist. Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
OhBoy
"She found out that the man was cheating on here and had a baby with another woman." Correction "She found out that the man was cheating on "HER" and had a baby with another woman." Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
EMJay_001
I think the poor woman is (was) still mourning. This is the same ritual as a night vigil - only extended.
Her explanation for keepint the body for evidence may be her rationalising things for the police...
Two things stand out: she says he beat her up as if fighting another man. Would it have been ok had the beatings been less intense? Secondly, the guy is an ex-boyfriend - who denied paternity - yet she still feeld compelled to prove her fidelity to him....
The police and the Sowetan reporter (who ratted her out) should have organsied counselling for her as she clearly is struggling to come to terms with her loss and the way it happened. Secondly the ex-boyfriend should be arrested immeadiately and charged with assault gbh. Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
EMJay_001
Mellow, you are spot on.
She is the victim her and deserved to be trated with sensitivity! Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
candilious
@MGEEZ- What bugs me is shekept it for 3months ,then only when her lawyer alerted her its illegal. naai man something not right with this story. As you mentioned a medical report should have resulted in an arerrest as she already has a case of assult against the slime ball.
Maybe she gone all cookoes by then eish just does not add up 3 months Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
MSG_S
Boyfriend is worse than worst animal, but why did she keep the foetus for so long without taking any step to prove the partenity side?. If she was in a traumatised state of mind yet could think of proving a point, why did she keep mum to everyone and yet she could have with much ease asked the doctor for tests there and then?. Abuse is something that is done persistently and the guy is still walking the streets thanks to her indifferent nature. Now she lost her baby and still want to prove something to this bug. I feel bad inside my sister anyway. Sory man. It's not the end. Report Abuse
Any you come and claim D-Town is Cool? Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Mellow
@Candilious Clearly the woman is depressed and how people question her keeping the foetus for 3months is somehow irrelevant given her state of mind , we know ppl react differently to diff situations she was abused by the very same person who denied being the father and miscarried in the process sure its crazy and weird but am sure going through soo much pain anger and resentment she wasn’t able to make sound decisions.
I wonder if this happened in KZN will the comments still be "shame she was damaged" or will it be " zulus at it again" * hides* Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
candilious
@Mellow-I am with you in conclusion she went totally of the rails as she easily could have gone into post natal depression as we all know depression can kill and cause Schizophrenia, she probably was in her own world of hell no1 will know honestly Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
Virgin.after.sex
@asaowe & winilen...not only in SA. Same thing happened in Germany and the US. This woman is sick. Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
KatakataEmaotoAditshepe
This lady was torturing herself that wasnt a wise action to take. Report Abuse
Oct 23, 2012
KatakataEmaotoAditshepe
@KUKHULU
I wonder if this happened in KZN will the comments still be "shame she was damaged" or will it be " zulus at it again" * hides*
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Haaaaa that's you.
Men are very cruel, assualting a pregnant woman????????? Report Abuse
Oct 26, 2012
SWEETSOUR
Well it just goes to show that you cant trust our police to do their work..it just show the extent people are willing to go through to gather evidence to prove their cases.Poor soul cant even beging to imagine the trauma she is going through. Report Abuse
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asaowe
Only in SAReport Abuse
Myskat
Good Lord! This lady is really traumatised beyond believe.Report Abuse
Mellow
Shame so she kept it as evidence since she is afterall a victim and she ended up being arrestedas a suspect? On which bloody ground exactly? So does anyone at all give a damn about the pain she went through and is still going through? Did police ever really bothered to investigate at all?!Report Abuse
Mellow
@Myskat Its sad really and she is really traumatised and scared if she still cares to prove that it was his child haai the things women go through sometimesReport Abuse
Mrazane
@Mellow agree she is a victim and the police should not waste precious state resources, its good that they did not charge her, what they need to pursue is a case of assault against the ex-boyfriend. Nawe sisi please no more babies with boyfriends, linda umshado manje.Report Abuse
MissBhakajuju
@ nteboLOL.....
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MommaC
How damaged can one woman be?He cats around and tries to stab her then he assaults her so badly that she has a miscarriage but all she wants is to prove he is the father? Geez, what did he do to her to reduce her to that state?
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Voetzek
That serves the police right, a person beat the sh***t out of you and you go to report to the station but there is always mampara who will be saying nywe nywe nywe "suspect" nywe nywe "evidents" and nywe nywe "witness"Report Abuse
mphephethwane
hectic.Report Abuse
RobinHH
Mellow> I agree this is just so sad, and it has clearly had a profound effect on her mind.ntebo: Let's lose that tribal nonsense, shall we.
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Kon-Tiki
Dear lady, you intention was good but the plan was not neat. The way you went on about you preparations on proving your lover that he was wrong was wrong. I hope the courts and prosecutors will understand. Good luck.Report Abuse
ThirdEye
I hope they will not arrest her but go after the guy. Even though her actions are beyond normality but there is logic to her explanation.Report Abuse
Mellow
@Mzarane and knowing how our justice system works it aint gonna happen its such a shame@MommaC Me thinks a woman who have lost all hope in our police system will go to that length bear in mind that it wasnt just to prove the bustard was the father but she actually kept it as evidence since we know how how the law in SA works no evidence no case finish and klaar
@RobinHH Traumatising hey
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seribe
@ Mellow but for three months why not go straight to the police after taking the baby from the hospital. I think the police have every right to take her for questioning remember she was not chargedReport Abuse
MommaC
meanwhile ..... in another article ...."Daveyton is not a violent place, so you don't ever hear nasty stories about it."
the irony
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lindsay
@Ntebohe must be tswana, pedi or sotho they are weak and always try to look strong by picking on women
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MommaC
MellowOur poor sisters. This is now what they expect. Saddest of all is that they put up with it. We need to do something about this nonsense
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Di-Anne
I feel sori for the poor lady because if you do not have enough evidence the justice system will fail you and as for men can you see what you are doing to us women, May God help this poor lady, this is very sad, I can feel her frustrationReport Abuse
Mellow
@Seribe True but do not forget this is the woman who lost her child through abuse so what if she was still mourning her loss? What if her seeing the foetus everyday made her feel better or what if she still wanted to hold onto it? Its unfortunate and just sad hey I know its kind of weird but I believe she is in pain soo much pain that her actions shouldnt be taken lightly. She needs professional help@MommaC I know why cant they just up and leave? Why subject yourself to this kind of behaviour, what are they planning to teach their kids? True women must take a stand
Report Abuse
Blackstone.lebs
These are things that our women go through...sad. One wonders where the investigating officer was for the past three months. Some cops just don't give a hoot about complainants' grief.Report Abuse
D-liciousLips
after the fight that led to her loosing her baby, the only important thing was proving the child is actualy dat of this bastard boyfriend of hers. lerato ke mathataReport Abuse
THEmadame2B-BBEE
this woman ke mopedi klaarReport Abuse
Punkies
Sjooo, this woman is brave..keeping the foetus in a freezer since August..Goshhhh-:)Report Abuse
GUNCENCE
and this happened in Daveyton and i just read an article praising the place now that it doesnt have crime, now we see y because the police are not doing anythingReport Abuse
joyful
what a sad story .......I hope they apprehend this abusive men, charge him with attemted murder.......
though it can never erase the pain of losing a child! sad hey...........
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Missjoy
@ntebo> ntebo*not her real name
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Must be Zulus or Xhlosas,, they see women as properties
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I cant believe u just said that
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Missjoy
I Just wonder ukuthi beka fila kanjani everytime when she open the fridge, poor woman i feel for herReport Abuse
Blackstone.lebs
@joyfulwhat a sad story .......
I hope they apprehend this abusive men, charge him with attemted murder......
+++++++++++++++++++++
Hopefully with media coverage they may pull up their socks and charge the sucker, but the poor woman's been waiting for three months already.
Report Abuse
BabyNono87
@ntebonot her real name
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Must be Zulus or Xhlosas,, they see women as properties
cc, where does tribe fit in all this, your comment is stupid beyond belief!!!
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Mrazane
@Missjoy - Wa veza something I did not think about. Tjo vele how did she feel? But I think she is emotionally and psychologically damaged, hence she could do this in the first place.Report Abuse
Mmini
@ntebonot her real name
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Must be Zulus or Xhlosas,, they see women as properties
Please go get a life!!!!!
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golly459
Sometimes with the word* DUE TO LACK OF EVIDENCE* that we hear every day in police station and court room, It can end up pushing you to do staff like this.A woman was assaulted, as the result of an assault she lost her baby and she did the right thing by reporting to the police but nothing happen. So she decided to keep the evidence all by herself since the police does not care.(Love will always blind for many women) no more babies Ausie!!
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Mmini
Like for really... the still man that beat woman suka.... he mast try woman like me... i will show him heel... i will beat him back and him won't be able to go to the police. coz he will know that when he cums back i will beat him more...Report Abuse
Shredder
@MommaCHow damaged can one woman be?
He cats around and tries to stab her then he assaults her so badly that she has a miscarriage but all she wants is to prove he is the father? Geez, what did he do to her to reduce her to that state?
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MommaC I was wondering. This is just a mess. I wonder if this story is real or one of those Dear Dudu.
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Mmini
@MissjoyI Just wonder ukuthi beka fila kanjani everytime when she open the fridge, poor woman i feel for her
Tjo Nami i wonder...
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ntyantya
Hawu Sowetan spelling error so vroeg'She found out that the man was cheating on here "......I hope she finds peace and closure and move on.Report Abuse
Galfrend
That woman is emotionally damaged. Thanx to her scum bag bf nx!!!!She needs help ,love and support.
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picccolo
yaaa neeReport Abuse
MGEEZ
Something is amiss in this story!!! Why would police not act to reports of an assault of any kind let alone one that resulted in miscarriage? Is there a medical report that reconciles these two? When did the assault take place? When did the miscarriage take place?Her reason for keeping the deceased baby in her home is not plausible either for a reasonable person!!!
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Winilen
Only is SA... I dont think she is ok upstairs some screws are loose.Report Abuse
Tsek
MellowShame so she kept it as evidence since she is afterall a victim and she ended up being arrestedas a suspect? On which bloody ground exactly? So does anyone at all give a damn about the pain she went through and is still going through? Did police ever really bothered to investigate at all?!
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Mel Mel Mel...did u read the article??she was not arrested my skat they took her for questioning nje, no charge nothing my pumpkin.....
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MommaC
ShredderCertainly doesn't sound too logical but some women go nuts in an abusive relationship and a dead baby on top of that may well have made her crazy enough to store the baby next to the frozen peas.
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MommaC
MGEEZWrong country, M, Here a woman is a boxing bag and the cops don't get involved.
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Phuphethakatha
Geez, some men are evil!!!Report Abuse
Mellow
@Tsek Oohh my bad I missed a part where it states that she got an invite from the popo to come have some coffee and cupcakes to discuss her mental state duuhhh flip it man I couldnt care less what you call it fact is she ended up in jail being questioned about all this while the bustard who abused her is still out thereReport Abuse
Zimzalabam1
She needs some damn good counselling for someone to do that she must not have been in her right state or she should be refferd to a psycologist.Report Abuse
OhBoy
"She found out that the man was cheating on here and had a baby with another woman." Correction "She found out that the man was cheating on "HER" and had a baby with another woman."Report Abuse
EMJay_001
I think the poor woman is (was) still mourning. This is the same ritual as a night vigil - only extended.Her explanation for keepint the body for evidence may be her rationalising things for the police...
Two things stand out: she says he beat her up as if fighting another man. Would it have been ok had the beatings been less intense? Secondly, the guy is an ex-boyfriend - who denied paternity - yet she still feeld compelled to prove her fidelity to him....
The police and the Sowetan reporter (who ratted her out) should have organsied counselling for her as she clearly is struggling to come to terms with her loss and the way it happened. Secondly the ex-boyfriend should be arrested immeadiately and charged with assault gbh.
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EMJay_001
Mellow, you are spot on.She is the victim her and deserved to be trated with sensitivity!
Report Abuse
candilious
@MGEEZ- What bugs me is shekept it for 3months ,then only when her lawyer alerted her its illegal. naai man something not right with this story. As you mentioned a medical report should have resulted in an arerrest as she already has a case of assult against the slime ball.Maybe she gone all cookoes by then eish just does not add up 3 months
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MSG_S
Boyfriend is worse than worst animal, but why did she keep the foetus for so long without taking any step to prove the partenity side?. If she was in a traumatised state of mind yet could think of proving a point, why did she keep mum to everyone and yet she could have with much ease asked the doctor for tests there and then?. Abuse is something that is done persistently and the guy is still walking the streets thanks to her indifferent nature. Now she lost her baby and still want to prove something to this bug. I feel bad inside my sister anyway. Sory man. It's not the end.Report Abuse
scrapprat
The woman is sick she need helpReport Abuse
JYZEE
Speechless I give up reallyReport Abuse
Papage
Any you come and claim D-Town is Cool?Report Abuse
Mellow
@Candilious Clearly the woman is depressed and how people question her keeping the foetus for 3months is somehow irrelevant given her state of mind , we know ppl react differently to diff situations she was abused by the very same person who denied being the father and miscarried in the process sure its crazy and weird but am sure going through soo much pain anger and resentment she wasn’t able to make sound decisions.Report Abuse
KUKHULU
I wonder if this happened in KZN will the comments still be "shame she was damaged" or will it be " zulus at it again" * hides*Report Abuse
candilious
@Mellow-I am with you in conclusion she went totally of the rails as she easily could have gone into post natal depression as we all know depression can kill and cause Schizophrenia, she probably was in her own world of hell no1 will know honestlyReport Abuse
Virgin.after.sex
@asaowe & winilen...not only in SA. Same thing happened in Germany and the US. This woman is sick.Report Abuse
KatakataEmaotoAditshepe
This lady was torturing herself that wasnt a wise action to take.Report Abuse
KatakataEmaotoAditshepe
@KUKHULUI wonder if this happened in KZN will the comments still be "shame she was damaged" or will it be " zulus at it again" * hides*
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Haaaaa that's you.
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Tobby
Men are very cruel, assualting a pregnant woman?????????Report Abuse
SWEETSOUR
Well it just goes to show that you cant trust our police to do their work..it just show the extent people are willing to go through to gather evidence to prove their cases.Poor soul cant even beging to imagine the trauma she is going through.Report Abuse
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