"Instead of being excited at my pregnancy, he just vanished. He lied and said he was married. He also demanded a DNA test, which later proved that the child was indeed his"
Both id iots. Why have a kid when you are not married or at least living as a family. Also it is cowardly for this Bopape guy to abandon his own kid. No sense of responsibility but he was serving high up in government. Shocking behaviour. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
MommaC
You are together for 5 months only and you expected him to be happy about you having a baby? Good grief woman! That is ridiculous. You tried to trap him and he slipped the line, Get over it. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Mdala
This is the end result of opening your legs for this high flying political hang-outs. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
KGS000
Bopape told her he was Motlanthe's speech writer when they first met.
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Some woman mara just like that then you madly in love, o rata dilo thought you would fast track into the Deputy Presidents office. Report Abuse
kananelo donot lie sisi you knew from the start that he is marriage. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Papage
Le rata dilo, When are women going to wake up and smell Coffee intead of just opening their legds? Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Kaylae
Bopape told her he was Motlanthe's speech writer when they first met
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Here is the root of this problem,you heard of his high profile job and stop contraceptives cause you knew he will most definitely marry you not knowing really what kind of man he is.You refused the R300 that he said he can afford and now you are saying he didn't pay a cent.I understand your frustration that you are now unemployed and you strike me as a qualified somebody throw your CV and something will surely come up.All the best Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Sbokoboko
I pity u sister and guys yes it is possible to fall in love in that short space of time. Unless sistaz had other motives. Report Abuse
@Mosquer...you 100% right.......but the lotto numbers were wrong.... Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
THEmadame2B-BBEE
I am so disappointed in these ladies, who are quick to OPEN their legs for a man because of his title " like as if being a speech writer to Kglema, is the best thing in this world, and now she goes to the MEDIA and cries foul, Madame i'm sorry but here you are wrong, you must suffer the consequences
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true, see us women we need to start listening to a man, especially when he says 'He does not want to get married or have children', i know of a story of a high profile woman who was married to a RICH man and the husband told her not have children but instead she thought he was bluffing, she fell pregnant the first time and the husband forgave but she felt pregnant again and they divorced becuase of that....
Hoe, what an irresponsible id ********iot, even if you have your personal challenges this should not affect the child. He is not forced to marry you for the sake of the child, but it should be out of love. If the LOVE is no longer there or you differed to agree as partners, why does he let an innocent child to suffer, there is no one above the law in this country. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Nongoloza24
She now wants the man to pay for her lifestyle?Now that she is retrenched she runs to the media?This thing wants to use the man as a cash cow I hate women like this. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
imbabazane
If this woman is 30, then I am Michael Jackson's secrete love child.
She looks older than 30, 40 is more appropriate. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
MAWARAWARA
@Nongoloza24
is friday and you are still wearing the same shirt Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Shredder
@Papage
Le rata dilo, When are women going to wake up and smell Coffee intead of just opening their legs?
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They see a jackpot. Ching ching!! Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
MAWARAWARA
@Nongoloza24
is friday and you are still wearing the same shirt
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Shredder
and you too Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
THEmadame2B-BBEE
They were together for 5 months, i girl u didn’t' pick up that he was married, this Madame is an idiot, Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
malemaforpresident
If you want a man to vanish into thin air then tell him that you are pregnant But Motsamai why dint you you use contraseptions just to ask you knew what you were doing so carry your own cross and ftshek Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
THEmadame2B-BBEE
I decided to take matters into my own hands and email this matome dude, matome@po.gov.za
She is 30 looks 40 and stupid!Probably the dude is not married but doesnt want to marry you aswell,so what are you going to do,milk him????? and what if he is not loaded????Sidenge! Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Blackstone.lebs
His parents knew me, and he knew mine," Motsamai said
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Your elders should have approached his parents about the pregnancy before the child was born and just after birth, that's how it works. Relying on Matome to initiate negotiations won't help, he proved it when he went AWOL. While persuing the maintenance court route keep looking for another job, Sowetan won't feed your child.
Fa ntja e tlola legora e ja mae a 'koko tsa moagisani, mong wa mae o tshwanetse go rwala ditlhako a ye go begela mong wa ntja. Fa dipuisano di padile o begela bogosi, not vice versa Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Mdovu
Sho bathong ausi, 5months fling hleng and pregnant. Haai, South African Women Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Mara_Y
"with whom he had a five-month fling"
U just met someone n u throw away Protections & contraceptions because "he was Motlanthe's speech writer when they first met" sic.
B glad u still healthy after that stûpidity behaviour n running to the media shows ur inability to differentiate wrong n right Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
MorenaWaPolelo
Women with bad intensions the lad said I prepares speeches for Motlanthe wena wa bula and you paraded the speech preparer to your friends and family and sired the child now the guy is running and you run to sowetan. Setlatla sa mosetsana!!! Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
ThirdEye
But this guy is earning alot why he is not maintaining the child, I guess it goes with morals of the person then. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
KatakataEmaotoAditshepe
Aaah men of today are irresponsible why do you have to dump your own child,men must stop playing the ladies if you feela that you not ready to be a dad or get married stop bothering them.
Bopape must provide his kid with the necessities. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
pals
We alll know Sam being the Biggest player from Pentec, how can she be so stupid YENA rha u have no morals ntombazana after just 5months of dating a guy u NOGAL have the nerve to fall pregnant, where was a condom, this is how this virus get spread cos of stupid people like you, you get to know about his JOB Profile u open ur legs without putting using a plastic u fall pregnant, and u want to point fingers, if i was SAM i would also run for my life, i mean really now. Its about time we as woman we start taking responsibility of our actions and stop blamming man for all our stupi mistakes, NOW u will have to answer to that child what happened to the father, mxm inqondo ayikho apha kuwe shame u DOM ngathi awufundiswanga. NXA. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
mesip
Typical Black SA story. Black males not wanting to take responsibility. This is not surprising, they are continuing where their fathers left off - A never ending cycle. This is one saga that's going to flow from one generation to the next, until we teach our young the following - Males (never sleep with a woman if you know that should she get pregnant you will not be prepared to take responsibility; Females (respect your bodies as they are not meant to be a playground for all & sundry. Close those legs until that man puts the ring on your finger as you are too much of a princess to be treated as rubbish ). When oh when is a Black African child going to experience decent childhood!!!!
Bopape told her he was Motlanthe's speech writer when they first met.
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is that what makes you fall for him ...tsek. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
mbondo
@MommaC
Ha ha ha ha, you crack me up so early in the morning . I 100% agree with you strus God but hey I am still laughing. I like the line where you say(You tried to trap him and he slipped the line). Shame on her , she said she has been retrenched and she tried to cash in on him. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
KatakataEmaotoAditshepe
Monna ofe kapa ofe ya bapalang ka mosadii le ho lona ba mona ho Blog mamina a mmae. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
maditaba
Sesi le wena o rata dilo. Sent you elders to Sam's home. don't wait for him. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Ingxabano
Attention seeker yerrrreee! you opened your legs for him, he never raped you. So why your elders didn't take you to his elders. Will the media help you. Some ladies are really stupid sometimes. Where were the contraceptives you are Dom maan!!!! Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
eisleben
You put out too easily and too quickly. The baby is yours deal with it and stop playing a gold digger. I am sure he paid for Savannah (no wonder you were laid off) on the night he nailed you. He also dropped you at home using his petrol, whatmore do you want woman? Go home and bath your beautiful and innocent baby. Always remember, your baby was not there when you get laid, so, don't involve her in this publicity seeking morass of yours. Kananelo Motsamai, tsamaya. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Zee38
You know what I find quite ironic? People are up in arms about domestic violence against woman, sexual assault etc etc. Yet, how many of the abovementioned comments immediately condemn this woman, even suggesting she has loose morals? Do you know her? Or her personal circumstances? It more than likely was an unplanned pregnancy and perhaps her beliefs are against abortion. The issue here is that he is the father and he should pay maintenance. He has the right to say that he wants no part in this child's life, yet he should still owe up to his financial responsibility towards the child. If you do not want an unexpected pregnancy where a freaking CONDOM! No Glove No Love Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Zee38
Oops! Typo! It should have stated WEAR a condom :) Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
malemaforpresident
I am shocked how easy so many women are opening their legs and later cry foul in public Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
9janavy
It all depends on why both parties are dating each other.If you meet a guy and just open your legs without being sure he is really into you then you will be hurt badly.I met my wife in May and she got pregnant in June but i did not run away because we planned to get pregnant.We were both in love and the pregnancy further strengthened our love.We have been together for 8 years and our love boat is still sailing strong with no iceberg in sight.Like i mentioned early ,it is all about the interest of both individuals.It takes two to tangle but make sure you are tangling with right man or woman. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
siphok
Try again later, I can see you are late hence you just opened wide and he just deposited the baby... Anyway he is just an officer he dose not earn much, he attracted you by saying Im a speech writer people with careers never boast about what they do. wa phapha lewena ausi. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
RobinH
Oh dear, the president's open zipper condition appears to be contagious. What a role model. What a man! Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
AlbertEinstein
Another one bites the dust! Looks like she did it on purpose. A credit controller who was supposed to be hunting for a job is busy exposing her error of judgement and penchant for free ride to good life! Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Kaylae
Zee38
You know what I find quite ironic? People are up in arms about domestic violence against woman, sexual assault etc etc. Yet, how many of the abovementioned comments immediately condemn this woman, even suggesting she has loose morals? Do you know her? Or her personal circumstances? It more than likely was an unplanned pregnancy and perhaps her beliefs are against abortion. The issue here is that he is the father and he should pay maintenance. He has the right to say that he wants no part in this child's life, yet he should still owe up to his financial responsibility towards the child. If you do not want an unexpected pregnancy where a freaking CONDOM! No Glove No Love
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She is being condemned because "Sam Matome Bopape,with whom she had a five month fling" I quote again "Bopape told her he was Motlanthe's speech writer when they first met"
After reading these quotes you'll see why bloggers are condemning this kind of behaviour Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Mosquer
Go be go le monate jwang.
Tsatsi la mathomo ge re thlakana.
Efela o nhlanogetse
LADIES FYI only a handful of men get excited when hear of pregnancy. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
motswakozo
THIS SAM BOPAPE HAS ANOTHER CHILD WITH ANOTHER WOMAN IN PRETORIA NORTH. HE WAS ARRESTED FOR MAINTENANCE LAST MONTH. THE CHILD 6 MONTHS OLD AND THE LADY HE HAS A CHILD WITH IS A TSHWANE UNIVERSITY STUDENT. SHAME ON HIM!!!!! HE APPEARED IN THE PRETORIA NORTH HIGH COURT ON MAINTENANCE CHARGES A MONTH AGO!!! SHOOOO! HE'S A TYPICAL PLAYER AND A BABY MAKER!!!!!!!! SIES! Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
AlbertEinstein
@Mbeva...esp if they just boyfriends! Most of us are not wired for that kind of a responsibility. I guess this emanates from the fact that most of us grew up without our fathers, hence we tend to wave that kind of a responsibility and run to the nearest mountain at the mention of the pregnancy word. Casual sex is a big problem cos more than half the time boyfriends lie and are not ready for its consequences. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
MommaC
Zee38
This isn't about violence against women, To the best of our knowledge he didn't hit her and he didn't rape her,
Yes, I think she is stupid. If you want to play big people games then you take big people precautions, You don't just go around falling pregnant after knowing someone for 5 months then expect a good outcome, She was a credit controller so it isn't like she didn't have enough education to be able to read the instructions on the birth control tablets Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
McKena
bakushaye i one - nil (1-0) so now you are complaining . Deal with it. here you go , you got you Hight Profile something. Stop Spreading your legs. Spread a book . Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
THEmadame2B-BBEE
o tjatjarag, after five months you were not wearing a condom, sies, i’m so ashamed an i went to the same private school with her Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Kon-Tiki
@McKena
bakushaye i one - nil (1-0) so now you are complaining . Deal with it. here you go , you got you Hight Profile something. Stop Spreading your legs. Spread a book .
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Man 1-0 Woman (It was an away game for the man) Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
RobinH
Kontiki: "an away game for the man" I LOVE IT!!!!! BRILLIANT! Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
GODESS
Sistaz...othlabisa kgala ngwaneso, 5 months and you are already preggies sommar onyaka lenyalo gona mowe, entlik wa nye*la shem...grow some tits, look for a job, keep your legs closed if you decide to open them let it with protection and out of love not out "who the guy is" .....uyanginyanyisa maaan, you letting women down, GOLDDIGGER...O GO LAYILE NONDINDWA. NOW GO AND MIX DOMESTOS, JIK AND JEYES FLUID, DRINK AND O TLABA STRONG LIKE GEMMER. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
THEmadame2B-BBEE
I better be careful of this Matome guy, jerrr di sperme di strong.lol, they don't waste time they knocked out the contraceptive pill dead, KWAAAAAAAAAAA Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
McKena
@Kon-Tiki
An Away game , as in Tashhh ?
LMAO Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
AlbertEinstein
Eh! This Matome guy o fertile mos! I'm sure ke tse tse jang di peanuts le di half done eggs le bo Mageu for protein overload! Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Ayobas
Let the bleksem pay from day 1 of the child into this earth. sue his sweet-funky assssss Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
BlackSeed
I still fail to understand women who just fall pregnant because they are in Love. That is just a ridiculous reasoning.
And the guys that indulge naked and still expect no pregnancy? Why would you do that if you know that you intend not to proceed with the relationship? That is just irresponsible and selfish of these guys.
But anyway, people will continue to ignore the known basic rules like don’t indulge outside Marriage.
The good thing about life is that there will always be eye witnesses and consequences to our actions
"...............NOW GO AND MIX DOMESTOS, JIK AND JEYES FLUID, DRINK AND O TLABA STRONG LIKE GEMMER.........."
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tjeeeew uyathakatha strong wena hayi Im scared of you Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
GODESS
Dandan
@GODESS
"...............NOW GO AND MIX DOMESTOS, JIK AND JEYES FLUID, DRINK AND O TLABA STRONG LIKE GEMMER.........."
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tjeeeew uyathakatha strong wena hayi Im scared of you
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She is in desperate need of advises, this is the best solution to her woes. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
sgubhusenkwishi
Women have to understand well the concept of gender equality, equal rights, equal renumerations at work. These items are important and give us power, indepednancy and good decision making capacity without reliance, dependency and blame games or finger pointing games.
As equals , we enjoy sex the same and we have to take decisions as individuals and be prepared to account thereafter. The old world is over when women were dependant on men, in decisions making. These are the things which renders women struggle for equality and campaign against women abuse null and void. cause they are politically equal to men, but on the ground they are still the same old dependant women to men in everything. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
malemaforpresident
motswakozo
THIS SAM BOPAPE HAS ANOTHER CHILD WITH ANOTHER WOMAN IN PRETORIA NORTH. HE WAS ARRESTED FOR MAINTENANCE LAST MONTH. THE CHILD 6 MONTHS OLD AND THE LADY HE HAS A CHILD WITH IS A TSHWANE UNIVERSITY STUDENT. SHAME ON HIM!!!!! HE APPEARED IN THE PRETORIA NORTH HIGH COURT ON MAINTENANCE CHARGES A MONTH AGO!!! SHOOOO! HE'S A TYPICAL PLAYER AND A BABY MAKER!!!!!!!! SIES!
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HEEEI LADIES WATCH OUT THIS MAN SAM BOPAPE IS NOT USING A CONDOM Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
MAWARAWARA
THEmadame2B-BBEE
o tjatjarag, after five months you were not wearing a condom, sies, i’m so ashamed an i went to the same private school with her
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what does private school has to do with this? uyabhonyelwa neh//////// Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
RobinH
malletjie4prez: And now for something vaguely sane!!! Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
GeneralSpecific
Up until the skewed law that pepertrates women as victims when it comes to human replication, there will always be idiots like Kananelo who seem to think that raising children is the sole responsibility of the father, forgetting that she is equally responsible. That you went to the media for such a mundane issue thinking that you are exposing the equally irresponsible Bopape simply confirms for me that both of you are spineless swines ready to engage in procreation bar the requisite consequences. Go look for a job and stop seeking attention for your indescretion...think for your child rather than yourself. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
RobinH
GeneralSpec: A Man that ducks his paternal responsibility is utterly despicable. Nobody is talking about sole responsibility. She simply wants him, 1) to acknowledge his child, and 2) to contribute reasonably, according to his earning capacity as is common in SA law, as one would expect from any decent man. What your remark says about you speaks volumes. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
GODESS
Sam Bopape...ignorant idiota. Kani, there are a lot of women out there raising kids on their own, i for sure my pride is too big to can go and waste my precious time at maintenance courts, raise that little angel, dont stoop that low, keep you head and be a woman of virtue. Sam is laughing about you with his friends while drinking their expensive cognag....rise woman rise! Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
THEmadame2B-BBEE
Mawara.....haai chief eeuuw is that Vanac, sorry i don't understand what you are trying to say Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
sgubhusenkwishi
Maintainancy court is ilrellevant in nowadays and needs to close down the shop, we are all paying taxes torwards grants to maintain the illegal kids regardless of our detatchment to child procreators who cannt take responsibility. So why should people claim maintainancy fee and grants for the same child, that is corruption, this children are not the resultants of rapes, people engage in sex with intentions, ignoring all the available options,ranging from abstainancy, condomising and contraceptions. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
GeneralSpecific
RobinH, You disunderstand me, I you read succinctly what I wrote you would have picked up what I mentioned about both their irresponsible behaviour, all that I am saying is this woman irrespective of her circumstance she is equally responsible. Learn to read in context before you apportion any blames. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
RobinH
General: I "disunderstand" you not in the least. Consider that persons in high positions are in a position to stall or derail the usual processes, and as it appears that the man has consistenely avoided paying, it is obvious that the normal court channels were not working. She therefore had no choice but to go to the media. If the gent wished to keep looking sqeaky clean, he should have shouldered his respopnsibility immediately. There is no excuse for delinquincy. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Catswhiskers
Don't these people know how to prevent pregnancies!! Report Abuse
RobinH, I hear you and believe me there is no excuse for not mainitaining children, my main issue of contention here is this woman does not have the interest of the child at heart, I reached this conclusion simply because there is no way one can circumvent the law albeit the process takes long he will have his day in court and he will eventually be garnished if he continues not to pay, my main issue of contention is why go to the media? Now this process has the potential to stigmatize the innocent child for the mere indescretion of the parents in a nutshell should the child suffer the consequences of the parents? Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
RobinH
General, Just like in the case of the HAWKS guy, who seems to have managed to get application after application to disappear. I have absolutely no faith in the integrity of anyone in any way attached to the presidency or the ANC cabinet. Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
BlackSeed
mesip
What happens when he or you divorce him?
Also, what guarantees responsibility within Marriage?
Marriage is not a financial refugee
Giving birth does not qualify both donors to be parents; parenting is a different to being just donors.
For as long as some women continue to give birth for the wrong reasons; this will never stop.
And besides, who said parenting requires both donors?
Parenting simply considers taking care of the child until they can take care of themselves.
Let me ask you this Mesip – if your child’s Father was working abroad but supporting the child financially; does he qualify to be called a Parent?
THEmadame2B-BBEE
I hate it when men do this. I don't even understand how someone could do this to their child!
Love i miss you weitse sowetan e busy blocking me from sending a comment! Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
Moffdat
RobinH
swona: And what about loose men
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trust you to be the guy trying to make right an eternal conception Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
swona
RobinH
swona:
dont like men who are after every skirt, with AIDS killing people in this days! Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
MSG_S
Mzansi Social Mathematical Formula :
Presidency + women x sex
= (conflict+babies)
= salary + salary + increase - papgeld
=Taxpayer - income
=corruption Report Abuse
Sep 21, 2012
sgubhusenkwishi
Women must approach love space with a responsible attitude, than parasite approach. It takes two to love as in tango dance and both parties are active participants and beneficials to it. Love involves risks that participants should always be aware of and be prepared to handle. Victimology play is a non starter, mothers has to teach the young girls about love risks before falling into love traps.
The problem is all about this gender equality description, which doesnot match with reality, than theory. We can confuse ourselves with equality of genders for political correctness, but the fact is men dont fall pregnant, hence gender equality is non realistic dream at the end of a day.
But if women they stick with values to control their exposure to love, men would automatically behave upto the required expectation. unlike pushing an unrealistic competition between different genders, hoping to touch the untouchable horison. Report Abuse
Sep 22, 2012
spatch
Bopape is expected to appear in the maintenance court on September 25.
Stupid you to open your legs for a man just because he said he's in the presidential office.. Report Abuse
Sep 23, 2012
Mzabalazo
SEP 21, 2012
MommaC
You are together for 5 months only and you expected him to be happy about you having a baby? Good grief woman! That is ridiculous. You tried to trap him and he slipped the line, Get over it.
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My brother you cannot blame the woman alone, it was also Bopape's responsibility not to impregnant the woman if he knew he was not going to be happy, it not a solely woman's responsibility that the child is not created , it is high time that men has to take responsibility.
What about HIV/AIDS would it has been a woman's fault if this stupid man was infected or they were both reinfected?
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Men should start taking responsibility of the children they bring on this earth, it is not wise to deliberately increase the numbers of the disadvantage children, when their father earn enough to raise and educate 10 children without denting their salary. The maintanance court should start to very hard for people who create havoc to the lives of the innocent. Pay or zip it. Report Abuse
Sep 23, 2012
Mzabalazo
Male chauvinst can only see a woman been wrong here, they forget that this is the responsibility of both male and female, they even fail to see the unjust been done to the child, all they are concern with is women opening their legs and nothing else. I recon that they also have children they do not support so thus the spirit of camaraderie to Bopape's . Guys women are your sisters, cousin, mothers, lovers and some your children, you cannot attack them as if they are a different alien species and fail to see your own responsibilities. When do you addresses the irresponsibility of your male species? Why can't males use condoms as players and cheaters? Why is the simple social issues are not addressed accordingly. You know that the majority of you are players so why do you not take the responsibility of not impregnating "stupid girls" that we are? You are bringing suffering to your own offsprings,mthen are your kids even if they are born by "stupid girls who just open their legs". You never learn, as long as you do not take responsibility then Africa will remain in a civilized darkness, where you wear ties with no brains Report Abuse
Sep 24, 2012
MommaC
Mzabalazo
Yes, men do have to take responsibility but women have spent decades fighting for our rights to determine our OWN reproductive ownership. Until a sister understands that it is necessary to take big girl precautions when playing big girl games, she is undermining us all. The chances of falling pregnant with birth control AND condoms is less than 0.01%. Even if she wasn't intelligent enough to use birth control, she should have understood the danger of not using a condom. She is lucky she only got a baby and not a nasty disease. Report Abuse
Sep 24, 2012
sgubhusenkwishi
@ Mzabalazo, stop politicising the non political issues and accept technical failures by women as they are, with their merits. An abuse would hold if the woman is underage or raped. But a matured woman failing to take a responsibility for herself , should account for the consequences without political indictments.
Women are goal keepers responsible for the winning or lost to their teams. If she let balls to her net, she definately wont be a blessing to her team, but if she takes her responsibility serious and protect the net, all the blessings go to her favour. A referee cannot penelise the goal scorer for the recklessness of the poor goal keeper. So let us level our field well for the match without political prejudice.he he he he!
When did a man in question say , he needed a child? I cant find this from the above statement, maybe my glasses are not good enough, please if you find this quotation, come back to me, i beg you. Report Abuse
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Pointman
Both id iots. Why have a kid when you are not married or at least living as a family. Also it is cowardly for this Bopape guy to abandon his own kid. No sense of responsibility but he was serving high up in government. Shocking behaviour.Report Abuse
MommaC
You are together for 5 months only and you expected him to be happy about you having a baby? Good grief woman! That is ridiculous. You tried to trap him and he slipped the line, Get over it.Report Abuse
Mdala
This is the end result of opening your legs for this high flying political hang-outs.Report Abuse
KGS000
Bopape told her he was Motlanthe's speech writer when they first met.************************************************************
Some woman mara just like that then you madly in love, o rata dilo thought you would fast track into the Deputy Presidents office.
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MAWARAWARA
bagotabotse my sisterReport Abuse
Mosquer
Motsamai though she hit a jackportReport Abuse
Tsope'
kananelo donot lie sisi you knew from the start that he is marriage.Report Abuse
Papage
Le rata dilo, When are women going to wake up and smell Coffee intead of just opening their legds?Report Abuse
Kaylae
Bopape told her he was Motlanthe's speech writer when they first met_______________________________________________________________
Here is the root of this problem,you heard of his high profile job and stop contraceptives cause you knew he will most definitely marry you not knowing really what kind of man he is.You refused the R300 that he said he can afford and now you are saying he didn't pay a cent.I understand your frustration that you are now unemployed and you strike me as a qualified somebody throw your CV and something will surely come up.All the best
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Sbokoboko
I pity u sister and guys yes it is possible to fall in love in that short space of time. Unless sistaz had other motives.Report Abuse
Mosquer
thoughtReport Abuse
THEmadame2B-BBEE
Yeah ne, HIT AND RUNReport Abuse
tpaz
@Mosquer...you 100% right.......but the lotto numbers were wrong....Report Abuse
THEmadame2B-BBEE
I am so disappointed in these ladies, who are quick to OPEN their legs for a man because of his title " like as if being a speech writer to Kglema, is the best thing in this world, and now she goes to the MEDIA and cries foul, Madame i'm sorry but here you are wrong, you must suffer the consequences..................@2shy,
true, see us women we need to start listening to a man, especially when he says 'He does not want to get married or have children', i know of a story of a high profile woman who was married to a RICH man and the husband told her not have children but instead she thought he was bluffing, she fell pregnant the first time and the husband forgave but she felt pregnant again and they divorced becuase of that....
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mashima?
Hoe, what an irresponsible id ********iot, even if you have your personal challenges this should not affect the child. He is not forced to marry you for the sake of the child, but it should be out of love. If the LOVE is no longer there or you differed to agree as partners, why does he let an innocent child to suffer, there is no one above the law in this country.Report Abuse
Nongoloza24
She now wants the man to pay for her lifestyle?Now that she is retrenched she runs to the media?This thing wants to use the man as a cash cow I hate women like this.Report Abuse
imbabazane
If this woman is 30, then I am Michael Jackson's secrete love child.
Awu, singafa phela....ey kudlaliwe ngathi!
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Shredder
She looks older than 30, 40 is more appropriate.Report Abuse
MAWARAWARA
@Nongoloza24is friday and you are still wearing the same shirt
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Shredder
@PapageLe rata dilo, When are women going to wake up and smell Coffee intead of just opening their legs?
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They see a jackpot. Ching ching!!
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MAWARAWARA
@Nongoloza24is friday and you are still wearing the same shirt
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Shredder
and you too
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THEmadame2B-BBEE
They were together for 5 months, i girl u didn’t' pick up that he was married, this Madame is an idiot,Report Abuse
malemaforpresident
If you want a man to vanish into thin air then tell him that you are pregnant But Motsamai why dint you you use contraseptions just to ask you knew what you were doing so carry your own cross and ftshekReport Abuse
THEmadame2B-BBEE
I decided to take matters into my own hands and email this matome dude, matome@po.gov.zaI said on the email......Keep on keepin' on
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Nantseka
She is 30 looks 40 and stupid!Probably the dude is not married but doesnt want to marry you aswell,so what are you going to do,milk him????? and what if he is not loaded????Sidenge!Report Abuse
Blackstone.lebs
His parents knew me, and he knew mine," Motsamai said++++++++++++++++++++
Your elders should have approached his parents about the pregnancy before the child was born and just after birth, that's how it works. Relying on Matome to initiate negotiations won't help, he proved it when he went AWOL. While persuing the maintenance court route keep looking for another job, Sowetan won't feed your child.
Fa ntja e tlola legora e ja mae a 'koko tsa moagisani, mong wa mae o tshwanetse go rwala ditlhako a ye go begela mong wa ntja. Fa dipuisano di padile o begela bogosi, not vice versa
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Mdovu
Sho bathong ausi, 5months fling hleng and pregnant. Haai, South African WomenReport Abuse
Mara_Y
"with whom he had a five-month fling"U just met someone n u throw away Protections & contraceptions because "he was Motlanthe's speech writer when they first met" sic.
B glad u still healthy after that stûpidity behaviour n running to the media shows ur inability to differentiate wrong n right
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MorenaWaPolelo
Women with bad intensions the lad said I prepares speeches for Motlanthe wena wa bula and you paraded the speech preparer to your friends and family and sired the child now the guy is running and you run to sowetan. Setlatla sa mosetsana!!!Report Abuse
ThirdEye
But this guy is earning alot why he is not maintaining the child, I guess it goes with morals of the person then.Report Abuse
KatakataEmaotoAditshepe
Aaah men of today are irresponsible why do you have to dump your own child,men must stop playing the ladies if you feela that you not ready to be a dad or get married stop bothering them.Bopape must provide his kid with the necessities.
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pals
We alll know Sam being the Biggest player from Pentec, how can she be so stupid YENA rha u have no morals ntombazana after just 5months of dating a guy u NOGAL have the nerve to fall pregnant, where was a condom, this is how this virus get spread cos of stupid people like you, you get to know about his JOB Profile u open ur legs without putting using a plastic u fall pregnant, and u want to point fingers, if i was SAM i would also run for my life, i mean really now. Its about time we as woman we start taking responsibility of our actions and stop blamming man for all our stupi mistakes, NOW u will have to answer to that child what happened to the father, mxm inqondo ayikho apha kuwe shame u DOM ngathi awufundiswanga. NXA.Report Abuse
mesip
Typical Black SA story. Black males not wanting to take responsibility. This is not surprising, they are continuing where their fathers left off - A never ending cycle. This is one saga that's going to flow from one generation to the next, until we teach our young the following - Males (never sleep with a woman if you know that should she get pregnant you will not be prepared to take responsibility; Females (respect your bodies as they are not meant to be a playground for all & sundry. Close those legs until that man puts the ring on your finger as you are too much of a princess to be treated as rubbish ). When oh when is a Black African child going to experience decent childhood!!!!Report Abuse
ntshware-ke-yawa
Bopape told her he was Motlanthe's speech writer when they first met.**********************************************
is that what makes you fall for him ...tsek.
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mbondo
@MommaCHa ha ha ha, you crack me up so early in the morning . I 100% agree with you strus God but hey I am still laughing. I like the line where you say(You tried to trap him and he slipped the line). Shame on her , she said she has been retrenched and she tried to cash in on him.
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KatakataEmaotoAditshepe
Monna ofe kapa ofe ya bapalang ka mosadii le ho lona ba mona ho Blog mamina a mmae.Report Abuse
maditaba
Sesi le wena o rata dilo. Sent you elders to Sam's home. don't wait for him.Report Abuse
Ingxabano
Attention seeker yerrrreee! you opened your legs for him, he never raped you. So why your elders didn't take you to his elders. Will the media help you. Some ladies are really stupid sometimes. Where were the contraceptives you are Dom maan!!!!Report Abuse
eisleben
You put out too easily and too quickly. The baby is yours deal with it and stop playing a gold digger. I am sure he paid for Savannah (no wonder you were laid off) on the night he nailed you. He also dropped you at home using his petrol, whatmore do you want woman? Go home and bath your beautiful and innocent baby. Always remember, your baby was not there when you get laid, so, don't involve her in this publicity seeking morass of yours. Kananelo Motsamai, tsamaya.Report Abuse
Zee38
You know what I find quite ironic? People are up in arms about domestic violence against woman, sexual assault etc etc. Yet, how many of the abovementioned comments immediately condemn this woman, even suggesting she has loose morals? Do you know her? Or her personal circumstances? It more than likely was an unplanned pregnancy and perhaps her beliefs are against abortion. The issue here is that he is the father and he should pay maintenance. He has the right to say that he wants no part in this child's life, yet he should still owe up to his financial responsibility towards the child. If you do not want an unexpected pregnancy where a freaking CONDOM! No Glove No LoveReport Abuse
Zee38
Oops! Typo! It should have stated WEAR a condom :)Report Abuse
malemaforpresident
I am shocked how easy so many women are opening their legs and later cry foul in publicReport Abuse
9janavy
It all depends on why both parties are dating each other.If you meet a guy and just open your legs without being sure he is really into you then you will be hurt badly.I met my wife in May and she got pregnant in June but i did not run away because we planned to get pregnant.We were both in love and the pregnancy further strengthened our love.We have been together for 8 years and our love boat is still sailing strong with no iceberg in sight.Like i mentioned early ,it is all about the interest of both individuals.It takes two to tangle but make sure you are tangling with right man or woman.Report Abuse
siphok
Try again later, I can see you are late hence you just opened wide and he just deposited the baby... Anyway he is just an officer he dose not earn much, he attracted you by saying Im a speech writer people with careers never boast about what they do. wa phapha lewena ausi.Report Abuse
RobinH
Oh dear, the president's open zipper condition appears to be contagious. What a role model. What a man!Report Abuse
AlbertEinstein
Another one bites the dust! Looks like she did it on purpose. A credit controller who was supposed to be hunting for a job is busy exposing her error of judgement and penchant for free ride to good life!Report Abuse
Kaylae
Zee38You know what I find quite ironic? People are up in arms about domestic violence against woman, sexual assault etc etc. Yet, how many of the abovementioned comments immediately condemn this woman, even suggesting she has loose morals? Do you know her? Or her personal circumstances? It more than likely was an unplanned pregnancy and perhaps her beliefs are against abortion. The issue here is that he is the father and he should pay maintenance. He has the right to say that he wants no part in this child's life, yet he should still owe up to his financial responsibility towards the child. If you do not want an unexpected pregnancy where a freaking CONDOM! No Glove No Love
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She is being condemned because "Sam Matome Bopape,with whom she had a five month fling" I quote again "Bopape told her he was Motlanthe's speech writer when they first met"
After reading these quotes you'll see why bloggers are condemning this kind of behaviour
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Mosquer
Go be go le monate jwang.Tsatsi la mathomo ge re thlakana.
Efela o nhlanogetse
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Mbeva
LADIES FYI only a handful of men get excited when hear of pregnancy.Report Abuse
motswakozo
THIS SAM BOPAPE HAS ANOTHER CHILD WITH ANOTHER WOMAN IN PRETORIA NORTH. HE WAS ARRESTED FOR MAINTENANCE LAST MONTH. THE CHILD 6 MONTHS OLD AND THE LADY HE HAS A CHILD WITH IS A TSHWANE UNIVERSITY STUDENT. SHAME ON HIM!!!!! HE APPEARED IN THE PRETORIA NORTH HIGH COURT ON MAINTENANCE CHARGES A MONTH AGO!!! SHOOOO! HE'S A TYPICAL PLAYER AND A BABY MAKER!!!!!!!! SIES!Report Abuse
AlbertEinstein
@Mbeva...esp if they just boyfriends! Most of us are not wired for that kind of a responsibility. I guess this emanates from the fact that most of us grew up without our fathers, hence we tend to wave that kind of a responsibility and run to the nearest mountain at the mention of the pregnancy word. Casual sex is a big problem cos more than half the time boyfriends lie and are not ready for its consequences.Report Abuse
MommaC
Zee38This isn't about violence against women, To the best of our knowledge he didn't hit her and he didn't rape her,
Yes, I think she is stupid. If you want to play big people games then you take big people precautions, You don't just go around falling pregnant after knowing someone for 5 months then expect a good outcome, She was a credit controller so it isn't like she didn't have enough education to be able to read the instructions on the birth control tablets
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McKena
bakushaye i one - nil (1-0) so now you are complaining . Deal with it. here you go , you got you Hight Profile something. Stop Spreading your legs. Spread a book .Report Abuse
THEmadame2B-BBEE
o tjatjarag, after five months you were not wearing a condom, sies, i’m so ashamed an i went to the same private school with herReport Abuse
Kon-Tiki
@McKenabakushaye i one - nil (1-0) so now you are complaining . Deal with it. here you go , you got you Hight Profile something. Stop Spreading your legs. Spread a book .
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Man 1-0 Woman (It was an away game for the man)
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RobinH
Kontiki: "an away game for the man" I LOVE IT!!!!! BRILLIANT!Report Abuse
GODESS
Sistaz...othlabisa kgala ngwaneso, 5 months and you are already preggies sommar onyaka lenyalo gona mowe, entlik wa nye*la shem...grow some tits, look for a job, keep your legs closed if you decide to open them let it with protection and out of love not out "who the guy is" .....uyanginyanyisa maaan, you letting women down, GOLDDIGGER...O GO LAYILE NONDINDWA. NOW GO AND MIX DOMESTOS, JIK AND JEYES FLUID, DRINK AND O TLABA STRONG LIKE GEMMER.Report Abuse
THEmadame2B-BBEE
I better be careful of this Matome guy, jerrr di sperme di strong.lol, they don't waste time they knocked out the contraceptive pill dead, KWAAAAAAAAAAAReport Abuse
McKena
@Kon-TikiAn Away game , as in Tashhh ?
LMAO
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AlbertEinstein
Eh! This Matome guy o fertile mos! I'm sure ke tse tse jang di peanuts le di half done eggs le bo Mageu for protein overload!Report Abuse
Ayobas
Let the bleksem pay from day 1 of the child into this earth. sue his sweet-funky assssssReport Abuse
BlackSeed
I still fail to understand women who just fall pregnant because they are in Love. That is just a ridiculous reasoning.And the guys that indulge naked and still expect no pregnancy? Why would you do that if you know that you intend not to proceed with the relationship? That is just irresponsible and selfish of these guys.
But anyway, people will continue to ignore the known basic rules like don’t indulge outside Marriage.
The good thing about life is that there will always be eye witnesses and consequences to our actions
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Dandan
@GODESS"...............NOW GO AND MIX DOMESTOS, JIK AND JEYES FLUID, DRINK AND O TLABA STRONG LIKE GEMMER.........."
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tjeeeew uyathakatha strong wena hayi Im scared of you
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GODESS
Dandan@GODESS
"...............NOW GO AND MIX DOMESTOS, JIK AND JEYES FLUID, DRINK AND O TLABA STRONG LIKE GEMMER.........."
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tjeeeew uyathakatha strong wena hayi Im scared of you
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She is in desperate need of advises, this is the best solution to her woes.
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sgubhusenkwishi
Women have to understand well the concept of gender equality, equal rights, equal renumerations at work. These items are important and give us power, indepednancy and good decision making capacity without reliance, dependency and blame games or finger pointing games.As equals , we enjoy sex the same and we have to take decisions as individuals and be prepared to account thereafter. The old world is over when women were dependant on men, in decisions making. These are the things which renders women struggle for equality and campaign against women abuse null and void. cause they are politically equal to men, but on the ground they are still the same old dependant women to men in everything.
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malemaforpresident
motswakozoTHIS SAM BOPAPE HAS ANOTHER CHILD WITH ANOTHER WOMAN IN PRETORIA NORTH. HE WAS ARRESTED FOR MAINTENANCE LAST MONTH. THE CHILD 6 MONTHS OLD AND THE LADY HE HAS A CHILD WITH IS A TSHWANE UNIVERSITY STUDENT. SHAME ON HIM!!!!! HE APPEARED IN THE PRETORIA NORTH HIGH COURT ON MAINTENANCE CHARGES A MONTH AGO!!! SHOOOO! HE'S A TYPICAL PLAYER AND A BABY MAKER!!!!!!!! SIES!
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HEEEI LADIES WATCH OUT THIS MAN SAM BOPAPE IS NOT USING A CONDOM
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MAWARAWARA
THEmadame2B-BBEEo tjatjarag, after five months you were not wearing a condom, sies, i’m so ashamed an i went to the same private school with her
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what does private school has to do with this? uyabhonyelwa neh////////
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RobinH
malletjie4prez: And now for something vaguely sane!!!Report Abuse
GeneralSpecific
Up until the skewed law that pepertrates women as victims when it comes to human replication, there will always be idiots like Kananelo who seem to think that raising children is the sole responsibility of the father, forgetting that she is equally responsible. That you went to the media for such a mundane issue thinking that you are exposing the equally irresponsible Bopape simply confirms for me that both of you are spineless swines ready to engage in procreation bar the requisite consequences. Go look for a job and stop seeking attention for your indescretion...think for your child rather than yourself.Report Abuse
RobinH
GeneralSpec: A Man that ducks his paternal responsibility is utterly despicable. Nobody is talking about sole responsibility. She simply wants him, 1) to acknowledge his child, and 2) to contribute reasonably, according to his earning capacity as is common in SA law, as one would expect from any decent man. What your remark says about you speaks volumes.Report Abuse
GODESS
Sam Bopape...ignorant idiota. Kani, there are a lot of women out there raising kids on their own, i for sure my pride is too big to can go and waste my precious time at maintenance courts, raise that little angel, dont stoop that low, keep you head and be a woman of virtue. Sam is laughing about you with his friends while drinking their expensive cognag....rise woman rise!Report Abuse
THEmadame2B-BBEE
Mawara.....haai chief eeuuw is that Vanac, sorry i don't understand what you are trying to sayReport Abuse
sgubhusenkwishi
Maintainancy court is ilrellevant in nowadays and needs to close down the shop, we are all paying taxes torwards grants to maintain the illegal kids regardless of our detatchment to child procreators who cannt take responsibility. So why should people claim maintainancy fee and grants for the same child, that is corruption, this children are not the resultants of rapes, people engage in sex with intentions, ignoring all the available options,ranging from abstainancy, condomising and contraceptions.Report Abuse
GeneralSpecific
RobinH, You disunderstand me, I you read succinctly what I wrote you would have picked up what I mentioned about both their irresponsible behaviour, all that I am saying is this woman irrespective of her circumstance she is equally responsible. Learn to read in context before you apportion any blames.Report Abuse
RobinH
General: I "disunderstand" you not in the least. Consider that persons in high positions are in a position to stall or derail the usual processes, and as it appears that the man has consistenely avoided paying, it is obvious that the normal court channels were not working. She therefore had no choice but to go to the media. If the gent wished to keep looking sqeaky clean, he should have shouldered his respopnsibility immediately. There is no excuse for delinquincy.Report Abuse
Catswhiskers
Don't these people know how to prevent pregnancies!!Report Abuse
RobinH
swona: And what about loose men?Report Abuse
GeneralSpecific
RobinH, I hear you and believe me there is no excuse for not mainitaining children, my main issue of contention here is this woman does not have the interest of the child at heart, I reached this conclusion simply because there is no way one can circumvent the law albeit the process takes long he will have his day in court and he will eventually be garnished if he continues not to pay, my main issue of contention is why go to the media? Now this process has the potential to stigmatize the innocent child for the mere indescretion of the parents in a nutshell should the child suffer the consequences of the parents?Report Abuse
RobinH
General, Just like in the case of the HAWKS guy, who seems to have managed to get application after application to disappear. I have absolutely no faith in the integrity of anyone in any way attached to the presidency or the ANC cabinet.Report Abuse
BlackSeed
mesipWhat happens when he or you divorce him?
Also, what guarantees responsibility within Marriage?
Marriage is not a financial refugee
Giving birth does not qualify both donors to be parents; parenting is a different to being just donors.
For as long as some women continue to give birth for the wrong reasons; this will never stop.
And besides, who said parenting requires both donors?
Parenting simply considers taking care of the child until they can take care of themselves.
Let me ask you this Mesip – if your child’s Father was working abroad but supporting the child financially; does he qualify to be called a Parent?
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Moffdat
@SowetanWhy are you blocking MOFFDAT?
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Moffdat
THEmadame2B-BBEEI hate it when men do this. I don't even understand how someone could do this to their child!
Love i miss you weitse sowetan e busy blocking me from sending a comment!
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Moffdat
RobinHswona: And what about loose men
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trust you to be the guy trying to make right an eternal conception
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swona
RobinHswona:
dont like men who are after every skirt, with AIDS killing people in this days!
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MSG_S
Mzansi Social Mathematical Formula :Presidency + women x sex
= (conflict+babies)
= salary + salary + increase - papgeld
=Taxpayer - income
=corruption
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sgubhusenkwishi
Women must approach love space with a responsible attitude, than parasite approach. It takes two to love as in tango dance and both parties are active participants and beneficials to it. Love involves risks that participants should always be aware of and be prepared to handle. Victimology play is a non starter, mothers has to teach the young girls about love risks before falling into love traps.The problem is all about this gender equality description, which doesnot match with reality, than theory. We can confuse ourselves with equality of genders for political correctness, but the fact is men dont fall pregnant, hence gender equality is non realistic dream at the end of a day.
But if women they stick with values to control their exposure to love, men would automatically behave upto the required expectation. unlike pushing an unrealistic competition between different genders, hoping to touch the untouchable horison.
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spatch
Bopape is expected to appear in the maintenance court on September 25.I thought he vanished?
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mopediTwiiiiii1988
Stupid you to open your legs for a man just because he said he's in the presidential office..Report Abuse
Mzabalazo
SEP 21, 2012MommaC
You are together for 5 months only and you expected him to be happy about you having a baby? Good grief woman! That is ridiculous. You tried to trap him and he slipped the line, Get over it.
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My brother you cannot blame the woman alone, it was also Bopape's responsibility not to impregnant the woman if he knew he was not going to be happy, it not a solely woman's responsibility that the child is not created , it is high time that men has to take responsibility.
What about HIV/AIDS would it has been a woman's fault if this stupid man was infected or they were both reinfected?
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Men should start taking responsibility of the children they bring on this earth, it is not wise to deliberately increase the numbers of the disadvantage children, when their father earn enough to raise and educate 10 children without denting their salary. The maintanance court should start to very hard for people who create havoc to the lives of the innocent. Pay or zip it.
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Mzabalazo
Male chauvinst can only see a woman been wrong here, they forget that this is the responsibility of both male and female, they even fail to see the unjust been done to the child, all they are concern with is women opening their legs and nothing else. I recon that they also have children they do not support so thus the spirit of camaraderie to Bopape's . Guys women are your sisters, cousin, mothers, lovers and some your children, you cannot attack them as if they are a different alien species and fail to see your own responsibilities. When do you addresses the irresponsibility of your male species? Why can't males use condoms as players and cheaters? Why is the simple social issues are not addressed accordingly. You know that the majority of you are players so why do you not take the responsibility of not impregnating "stupid girls" that we are? You are bringing suffering to your own offsprings,mthen are your kids even if they are born by "stupid girls who just open their legs". You never learn, as long as you do not take responsibility then Africa will remain in a civilized darkness, where you wear ties with no brainsReport Abuse
MommaC
MzabalazoYes, men do have to take responsibility but women have spent decades fighting for our rights to determine our OWN reproductive ownership. Until a sister understands that it is necessary to take big girl precautions when playing big girl games, she is undermining us all. The chances of falling pregnant with birth control AND condoms is less than 0.01%. Even if she wasn't intelligent enough to use birth control, she should have understood the danger of not using a condom. She is lucky she only got a baby and not a nasty disease.
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sgubhusenkwishi
@ Mzabalazo, stop politicising the non political issues and accept technical failures by women as they are, with their merits. An abuse would hold if the woman is underage or raped. But a matured woman failing to take a responsibility for herself , should account for the consequences without political indictments.Women are goal keepers responsible for the winning or lost to their teams. If she let balls to her net, she definately wont be a blessing to her team, but if she takes her responsibility serious and protect the net, all the blessings go to her favour. A referee cannot penelise the goal scorer for the recklessness of the poor goal keeper. So let us level our field well for the match without political prejudice.he he he he!
When did a man in question say , he needed a child? I cant find this from the above statement, maybe my glasses are not good enough, please if you find this quotation, come back to me, i beg you.
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