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Nowelile Dotwana, 36, and her husband Ndobi Dotwana, 67
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Is she really 36? Iyooo and they have 6 kids? Not working? Living in a relatives shacks? Depending on grants? The husband needs to start looking for a job and fast while the w!fe looks after the kids getting a house is not a solution if they cant afford to take good care of this kids.

Are they saying we dont have good Dr's in SA? C'mon doctors like really now
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magebula

Jehovha a pfule ndlela shem swa vava leswi.
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Jenani

R800 on disposable nappies, what happened to getting towelling ones and washing them. People should not keep having children if they can't afford them. If the husband is 67 then he should be eligible for old age pension. This is getting to be a problem too many people wanting free handouts to make their lives easier.
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dimpho_4U

hopes good samaritans will help you..business people,musicians..charity begins at home, here is a perfect candidate..
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Mellow

@Jenani Exactly they can invest in those old washable nappies and the hubby can do some gardening around the block, I mean 800 is a lot especially if there's no source of income they need to save and already you can sense that there are some days that they go to bed without any food its horrible


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golly459

*tradiotionaly if the ralativers are so mixed up in a one house sometimes is the cause of the disease, cause you are not allowed to have sex in the bed of someone who is older than you or any relative of the relative that is older to you*
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@Jenani
R800 on disposable nappies, what happened to getting towelling ones and washing them
==============================exatly lazy to wash but good on having kids everyday.
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TheMrs01

@Jenani

Are you for real, tell me who must wash those towel napkins? We are talking about 2 adults they soil themselves and do you really expect their mother to wash those nappies cmon think... please good samaritans help this poor people with donations...
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dimpho_4U

@Jenani
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@golly459
indeed that's a good idea and it would help save the R800 every month as an option for food,..i wonder why they haven't done this, or maybe no one is willing to take the job of washing towel nappies everyday.....
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MommaC

TheMrs01

Why not?
I used cloth nappies for both my children AND washed the cloth nappies when my Aunt was bed ridden. There were nothing such a thing as disposable nappies when my Aunt was alive and I could not afford disposables when my children were babies (they were new on the market and hellish expensive). Every night it was over the bath tub with a bar of green sunlight soap. Never killed me. You kids today are just lazy.
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minezolo

Yho this is sad, but mama if you are living in Cape town (i'm not sure) if that is the case come back to the Eastern Cape at least life is a bit cheaper than living in the Western Cape.
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Rakgadi-Tabeya

Also, if there is fire who will take them (Siphosethu and Akhona) out? They will die."
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Stupid comment why would you think of that wena community member mxcm some people realy

31 age difference Nkosi yam hai le wena mme mara.

"I sleep on the couch with two children and my wife sleeps on the floor with the other children.
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Exactly how many kidz do they have this "cute" couple?
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@Mrs01 what do you know maybe this disposal nappies are the cause of their illness and nothing wrong with old washable cloth nappies it will save them money they can use the 800 for something else dear dont you think it will be best for her she's only 36 so she's still strong its her kids afterall so I dont see why it should be a problem
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K2A

The old timer by law should be getting thousand something odd rand plus they 2 should be getting disability grant so it amounts to something like R3000 plus.....as much as they did get someone to write this story they can apply for i grant lo sisi u stout u busy wenzela umkhulu abatwana when she support to do something better with her life.
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BRA-MAFUTHA

@Jenani
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@golly459
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Pray that your words dont hit back at you.....
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lillianm

@jenani are you making a joke or serious ,do you have a child .washing towel nappies for a child is a tough job sisi what about an adult .god pls make a plan to help this poor family ,you are our mighty lord no one is above you .somebody pls help them
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lillianm

The gods help then what helps themselves.
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imd

tju doing the maths she was 18 when she had the 18yr old aaand he was .............49yrs????
WTF?????
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TheMrs01

@lillianm
true that..
@mommac
Im not against her using towel nappies but damn its too much work guys..we are talking about two sick adults who need a 24hr attention... please give this young lady a break plus she's got other kids as well.... they must write to touching lives I think they will get help there.
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TheMrs01

I dont think any young woman in her right mind would get married to an old poor man,,, I think this lady is a victim of UKUTHWALA... Can you imagine marrying an old man who lives in a shack aowa noma bathi love is blind...
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MommaC

TheMrs01

Its not like she has a job to go to so it isn't going to cut into her work day - or hubbies for that matter. We also didn't tell her not to make use of FREE birth control.

I worked full day, came home, cooked, cleaned, did the washing and ironing and then got over the bath and washed cloth nappies for two kids. Why can't she?
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Mzanzibar

the man is 67 years old. when you say he must go find work, where do you suggest he goes? maybe he can do somthing himself to generate income, but formal employment yona i doubt it.
its a difficult situation nje because taking care of all these kids must be a lot of work. In theory, the nappies should be washed, but when we are being practical its a very hard task to do. baby poo stinks horrible, what more the poo of an adult? wena would you wash an adult's nappy?

conspiracy theory: babaloyile. i dont suppose this man was single before he married this woman who is half his age. he probably left his old wife for a younger woman and now they are feeling the wrath of a woman scorned...
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@Mommac
And again we are talking about washing powder and sta soft of which maybe its something they cant afford,, in your case its different you were working and for you washing powder was always there,, we are talking about towel nappies that must be washed daily.. i personally wouldnt do the washing, I wouldnt use a towel nappies if I was in her shoes, yes she's not working but I also think she deserves a break caring for these kids is a tough job itself..
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apelele

mara @Jenani how can this lady wash nappies for 16 and 18 year olds? these are adults not kids, uyayazi ukuba inuka kangakanani lokaka? Shame but this lady @36 with 6 kids is it possible? I hope there is good samaritan in CT who can help them.
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TheMrs01

You don't use washing powder and sta soft on nappies. You use a bar of green sunlight soap. If you use sta soft, the baby gets nappyrash easier and if you use washing powder, your nappies go grey. Now are you REALLY trying to tell me that a bar of green soap is more expensive than a week's supply of nappies?

Yes, I was working and I STILL found time to do the washing. She is NOT working so she has no excuse
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MommaC

I've come to the conclusion that 'poor' in this country means 'not having what I want, when I want it'. Nobody is willing to make sacrifices, do without or put in a bit more effort. Instead they simply cry about being 'poor'. Hells bells, when I was broke, I could NEVER have survived if I had wasted money on disposable nappies and other extravagant luxuries
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BRA-MAFUTHA
@Jenani
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@golly459
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Which part exactly must we pray for? Reading its a skill and reading to understand is very crucial I suggest you go back and re-read our comments before getting all emotional on us

@Mrs01 powder soap and sta-soft on the washable nappies? they need all purpose sunlight bar soap.C'mon the woman is only 36 she doesnt work, she has plenty of time to look after the kids and start veggie garden as well in the yard, they can sell them veggies too
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@Apelele i think we all agree that this ppl needs help for the sake of their ill kids however in the meantime we coming up with suggestions that will enable them to save them money. As much as 16 and 18 are old to you to them as parents they are kids just kids with special needs and every need cost money so really dear 800 is a lot of money maybe not to some but really its just a lot to spend on nappies from where am sitting nappies are a luxury to this ppl which they cant afford

@MommaC I conquer with you on this one, they can do without some of this things and save money
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Nzwere

dimpho_4U
@Jenani
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@golly459
indeed that's a good idea and it would help save the R800 every month as an option for food,..i wonder why they haven't done this, or maybe no one is willing to take the job of washing towel nappies everyday.....
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Good people stop having fun out of other people's misseries. and be warned, this phenomenon is not unique to that house hold, it might, jut might visit you or you relative one day. please have hearts, if you cant help, just pray for them maybe a good samaritan will come accross and help them financially in order for them to access good medical support.
We pray and wish that God will hear and answer their prayers. Mabaphole balulame abantwana...

God bless you Ba4thu.........
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MommaC

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I am getting very tired of people who act like babies who can do nothing for themselves.
My roof needs fixing, I get up there and fix it. My children need food, I get out there and grow some. My budget gets tight then I do without. South Africans have always been 'maak 'n plan' before so why are they now sitting around and demanding everything?
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@Nzwere Am not sure what you define as fun and where do you actually see fun in any of our comments. What do you define as having heart? Sitting there and feeling pity for them? No one is saying they deserve this am not sure how you lot understand plain english really

@MommaC Sad part is they continued having them kids yet none of them is working why do we like making things harder for ourselves unnecessarily? I feel for the woman especially if she's indeed 36 with 6 kids of which 2 are very sick and are high maintenance but surely there must be something they can do, I dont even wanna think how this situation is affecting the other 4kids its just an unhealthy environment really and to be squashed in a shack like that haaibo

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Nzwere
dimpho_4U
@Jenani
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@golly459
indeed that's a good idea and it would help save the R800 every month as an option for food,..i wonder why they haven't done this, or maybe no one is willing to take the job of washing towel nappies everyday.....
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Good people stop having fun out of other people's misseries. and be warned, this phenomenon is not unique to that house hold, it might, jut might visit you or you relative one day. please have hearts, if you cant help, just pray for them maybe a good samaritan will come accross and help them financially in order for them to access good medical support.
We pray and wish that God will hear and answer their prayers. Mabaphole balulame abantwana...

God bless you Ba4thu.........
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please stop TWISTING statements,actually who is having FUN at the expense of whom...and you become sentimental by saying these will visit our families, instead of through a ''Pity-party " for yourself find a solution for problems...that's what we saying ..gain grow up!
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Nzwere

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@Nzwere Am not sure what you define as fun and where do you actually see fun in any of our comments. What do you define as having heart? Sitting there and feeling pity for them? No one is saying they deserve this am not sure how you lot understand plain english really
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understanding English has never been a per-requisite to understanding the subject matter or the context. I must say you are making a good point right there, that people need to do something about their lives, but there is no mention anywhere in the article that they are doing nothing to correct the situation. having two very sick children is not a joke. maybe your problem is the manner in which you are trying to put your point accros.

@dimpho_4U
please stop TWISTING statements,actually who is having FUN at the expense of whom...and you become sentimental by saying these will visit our families, instead of through a ''Pity-party " for yourself find a solution for problems...that's what we saying ..gain grow up!
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Wena he ausi, you need to gather some facts befor you comment, period.
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dimpho_4U

@nzwere di facts tsa eng..kekopa o ska ipoqa!
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kudi

@Their mother added: "I wish I could get them a decent house because they need enough space to move around. We can't even take them out because there is no space. We have to put them on our backs when we take them to the car on the road."

oooooooooh just say you need a house
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@Nzwere Again you just trying to make us look like bad ppl and stop blaming us for gamors and playing a saint at our expense if you actually did read the article then you would've picked up that they arent doing anything to better the situation but then again maybe we understand things differently and you completely misunderstood our comments, what we are raising are valid points and no Sir none of us thinks having sick kids is a joke or that this ppl's situation is a joke for that matter so no need to be all emotional and unreasonable on us geezz and leave Dimpho alone mannn yerrrr
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Nzwere

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@Nzwere Again you just trying to make us look like bad ppl and stop blaming us for gamors and playing a saint at our expense if you actually did read the article then you would've picked up that they arent doing anything to better the situation but then again maybe we understand things differently and you completely misunderstood our comments, what we are raising are valid points and no Sir none of us thinks having sick kids is a joke or that this ppl's situation is a joke for that matter so no need to be all emotional and unreasonable on us geezz and leave Dimpho alone mannn yerrrr
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you are the one who gets all worked up and emotional. so forget I ever mentioned your name. thia was just a friendly comment on a friendly article. um outa here, moja....
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