Widower speaks of heartbreak after wife's murder
"Be a man, remain composed and never cry in front of people. Then when you are alone, cry to your heart's content because if you don't, it will kill you."
This is how Nelson Mandela Bay widower Monde Tyaliti described his mourning since losing his wife, Noluvuyo, who was murdered in their Motherwell home last week.
Although it had been a tough week for the Spring Rose Rugby Club coach, he said his late wife's sayings had sprung to mind and kept him going.
As friends and family peeled vegetables and prepared the meat for Noluvuyo’s funeral this morning, Monde spoke publicly for the first time since the tragedy last Tuesday.
Noluvuyo, 31, was strangled to death by three men who entered their Ngxangxosi Street. With her in the house was her sister, Busi, and their domestic.
“My life with Noluvuyo was very short, but it was a time that I will cherish forever,” Monde said.
"I cannot put it into words. It’s like seeing a beautiful picture that you can’t capture with words, only with your heart."
The couple had been married for two years and met through a work colleague in 2007.
Before Noluvuyo’s death, they were looking forward to the Christening of their 1-year-old daughter, Olwethu, but were awaiting a date from their church.
Fighting to hold back the tears, Monde told how his wife would always greet him with a kiss even after they had had a squabble.
“Like most couples, we would argue, but later talk it out after a few hours of not talking to each other, but I knew that I would always get my hello kiss,” he said.
“We never said goodbye to each other. It was always ‘I’ll see you later’.”
Monde’s uncle, Henry Tyaliti, said friends and family could not believe that Noluvuyo was dead.
“Through prayer, we were able to find some closure and accept that she was no longer with us,” he said.
“She was very sweet, friendly, accommodating and always willing to help. She fitted into our family like a glove and will be sorely missed.”