Widower speaks of heartbreak after wife's murder
"Be a man, remain composed and never cry in front of people. Then when you are alone, cry to your heart's content because if you don't, it will kill you."
This is how Nelson Mandela Bay widower Monde Tyaliti described his mourning since losing his wife, Noluvuyo, who was murdered in their Motherwell home last week.
Although it had been a tough week for the Spring Rose Rugby Club coach, he said his late wife's sayings had sprung to mind and kept him going.
As friends and family peeled vegetables and prepared the meat for Noluvuyo’s funeral this morning, Monde spoke publicly for the first time since the tragedy last Tuesday.
Noluvuyo, 31, was strangled to death by three men who entered their Ngxangxosi Street. With her in the house was her sister, Busi, and their domestic.
“My life with Noluvuyo was very short, but it was a time that I will cherish forever,” Monde said.
"I cannot put it into words. It’s like seeing a beautiful picture that you can’t capture with words, only with your heart."
The couple had been married for two years and met through a work colleague in 2007.
Before Noluvuyo’s death, they were looking forward to the Christening of their 1-year-old daughter, Olwethu, but were awaiting a date from their church.
Fighting to hold back the tears, Monde told how his wife would always greet him with a kiss even after they had had a squabble.
“Like most couples, we would argue, but later talk it out after a few hours of not talking to each other, but I knew that I would always get my hello kiss,” he said.
“We never said goodbye to each other. It was always ‘I’ll see you later’.”
Monde’s uncle, Henry Tyaliti, said friends and family could not believe that Noluvuyo was dead.
“Through prayer, we were able to find some closure and accept that she was no longer with us,” he said.
“She was very sweet, friendly, accommodating and always willing to help. She fitted into our family like a glove and will be sorely missed.”
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Mellow
"Be a man, remain composed and never cry in front of people. Then when you are alone, cry to your heart's content because if you don't, it will k.ill you."................................................................................................................................
Sad indeed May her beautiful loving soul RIP
Just when you think you have it all and it all disappears life so cruel at times but memories keeps one going for sure
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SWEETYK
Said story.Report Abuse
MissBhakajuju
sounds fishy, they only stranged the w.i.f.e ? RIP ladyReport Abuse
Mokwepa
kesono mara ka xhosa this days.RIPReport Abuse
Mpolayeng
It is lifeReport Abuse
Ruralgirl
Aowa mara Sowetan.... details are lacking in this story! How can you tell us that she was with her sister and the helper but not inform us of what happened to these twoDid the killers target the wife only? Come on now guys.... better reporting will do please!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Otherwise a very sad story indeed! Such a young life taken away! RIP my sister!
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eisleben
I cry like it is a fashionable thing to do. Sometimes I cry like this other times I cry like that. The other times a cry like that one got me laid. Actually, I am planning on opening a School of Crying for men. And then I will also go on to campaign for winter, June 21st to be declared an World Men Crying Day. We have to do it in style; otherwise our paternalistic society will still continue to think we are sissies. Here, take this glass of beer and you will see how easy it is to get the tears rolling down those manly cheeks of yours.Report Abuse
Mas-culin
May her soul rest in peace. Let justice take it's cause...masculinnkosi@gmail.com
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Phunyukabemphethe
Smell a rat the article is incomplete but anyway RIPReport Abuse
SWEETYK
Policies Policies Policies.Report Abuse
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