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He lied, forced me to abort, then dumped me

By Dear Dudu | 2012-02-03 07:51:17.0 | COMMENTS [ 555 ]

I feel guilty that I killed my baby and heartbroken that this man is so heartless

I AM 21 years old and my boyfriend is 29. We have known each other since we were little children, but after he left school we lost touch.

Our families live in the same area, but he moved to Durban to study and work. I never stopped thinking about him because I have always loved him.

He then got married and had two children.

Although I was heartbroken, I decided to move on with my life. In June last year, he returned to his family home.

He is in the process of getting a divorce. We met and while we were talking, he mentioned that he had always loved me and that he should have married me.

We met a few times and then he returned to Durban.

I then found out that I am pregnant. I contacted him and told him. He was very quiet and said he would see me at the weekend.

When he arrived, he was very angry. He said he was trying to work out his marriage because he had two children to consider and that he was not prepared to complicate his life any further.

He then said he had made arrangements for me to have an abortion and that he was taking me immediately.

I did not have a chance to discuss this with him at all. He took me to a woman and the next thing I knew I was walking out of her home.

By the time he dropped me at home, I was bleeding badly. I told my mom that I was not feeling well and went to bed.

This happened three weeks ago and I am still bleeding and I am suffering from terrible stomach aches.

There are times when I can hardly move because I am in such pain.

I have been hiding this from everyone, even friends. I don't want anyone to find out because it will cause trouble between our families and I know that my mom will probably never talk to me again.

I have tried to phone this man and he will not take my calls. He sent me a message saying he never wants to see or talk to me again.

I am trying to go about my life as if nothing is wrong, but I feel so alone and so sick.

I feel guilty that I killed my baby and heartbroken that this man is so heartless.

I don't know what to do with myself, so can you please help me? Broken and sad, Kempton Park


I am sorry that you have suffered so terribly and I can understand how helpless and sad you are feeling.

I urge you to talk to your mom and tell her what has happened to you. Yes, it will be hard and she probably will be angry, but only because she loves you and wants the best for you.

If you feel that you cannot talk to her, then you must confide in another adult whom you trust, someone in your church, at a clinic or hospital.

You have had a serious medical procedure under questionable circumstances and by someone who is certainly not qualified to undertake this.

All sorts of complications could arise from this, so you need to be checked by a doctor.

Don't waste another minute of your time on this man.

He is an absolutely irresponsible and unfeeling scoundrel. He cheated on his wife, lied and treated you as if you were worthless.

One thing I do know about life is that the way you treat other people is the way you will be treated, so I am sure he will have his day!

The only thing you are guilty of is that you were naïve and too trusting and I am sure you have learnt valuable lessons from this experience.

It won't be easy getting through this and that is why you need the support of your mom, so please talk to her.

You must also go for counselling and possibly should be referred by a doctor.

You could be suffering from depression and you need medical help to overcome this.

Ask the doctor to refer you to a psychologist for help in coming to terms with the guilt and grief you are suffering. You need to forgive yourself so that you can start living your life again.

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2012-02-03 13:38:02.0 | 0 replies

I just saw this woman at the mall l!cking an ice cream , OMG she can really l!ck n suck bathong Tjo !

2012-02-03 13:58:16.0 | 0 replies

Guys how do u ever forgive n forget that your spouse has ever cheated on u n confessed to have had an affair with some1 and that some1 has died of undisclosed deceases

2012-02-03 13:58:19.0 | 0 replies


mara BIBLE dont feel what the pain

2012-02-03 13:59:19.0 | 0 replies

this goes to the love of my life...LOVE U BABE..mchwaaaaaaaa

2012-02-03 14:00:51.0 | 0 replies

@Maezo he does go out with his mate but I am his best mate, lol and jus cuz he spends a lot of time with me doesn't mean we are having sex all the time, or am getting pregnant all the time he is not Seal you know?

2012-02-03 14:01:22.0 | 0 replies

why wast your energy on me?
defend it or nt....cld u change that zulu man are tax drivers?the answer is NO.So dnt try to play smart wth cz who cares?

2012-02-03 14:02:24.0 | 0 replies

Ke duma blow-job....can’t wait to go home ko ja Marete a Pi*nk o kare a kolobe. Panty yaka e meetse....e nkga di-seamen. Ke totetse bohloko!

2012-02-03 14:02:57.0 | 0 replies



2012-02-03 14:03:05.0 | 0 replies

Ke duma kwai ya hubby ye strong o kare ya Rhino plus e pi*nk ka color.

Geeezz p*nk, ke albino? so ke p!nk rhino albino then LoL he is a protected specie

P!nk Rhino yoiyoooo.

2012-02-03 14:03:27.0 | 0 replies

@SexLoo-Loo plse write in English or Xhosa cause you really are speaking in tongues!

2012-02-03 14:03:47.0 | 0 replies