Sat May 18 21:13:45 SAST 2013

My husband's dishonesty has broken my heart

Aug 24, 2012 | Dear Dudu | 365 comments

"After a while I forgave him. The problem is that my forgiveness was just words. My heart is broken and I feel I will never recover"

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Sat May 18 21:13:46 SAST 2013 ::
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Aug 24, 2012

Dismooi

Make sure that every night you give him a blow job then he will tell you the truth. My sister you must know on how to play your card, please go out and smell the coffer.
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Aug 24, 2012

MommaC

So what did the SMS say?

Figure out what it will take to get closure and do it. Making him miserable is not the best way of making sure he doesn't start SMS-ing someone else soon
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Aug 24, 2012

januswanus

Hang him dead dead and get insurance policy monies and go ravaza it with your Ben10. Lady men do these things at some point in their lives. Look at where you might have loose the point and encourage him to do just that.
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Aug 24, 2012

maneater

why is your sister always looking at your husband to notice things you did not notice? you need to be very carefull of her and she needs to mind her own business.
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Aug 24, 2012

Nice1

He said he was in contact with her, but had no feelings for her. He said she had reached out to him because of problems she was having in her marriage and she had threatened to commit suicide. He said he was only offering her support.
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Who is he, Dr Phil? bloody lier.

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Aug 24, 2012

Mosquer

"After a while I forgave him. The problem is that my forgiveness was just words."

Your forgiveness is not complete.
As for your sister, she must mind her own business. Kgane yena nako ya batho ba gagwe o e hwetša neng ge a no dula a šetše taba tša monna yo mongwe morago.
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Aug 24, 2012

KejaKuKu_yadibloggers

just live with consequences of the sms, i'm telling u if u leave him u won't find ani beta man.....at least u haven't found them in bed.

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Aug 24, 2012

ntshware-ke-yawa

I have always believed that our relationship is perfect.
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That was your first mistake girl.Can someobody tell me why is it that when men buy women flowers,teddybear,lunch,clothes,women will normally conclude that the relationship is perfect,I mean for me nothing has ever been perfect under the sun we are living.
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Aug 24, 2012

Memme

" I love him, but I have no doubt that if we didn't have a child I would have left him."

Seriously????? This is your life and you must never feel oppresed to do something that your heart does not want and all because you are sharing a child. You know what you want out of life, for a moment stop thinking about anything else and focus on what you really want to do in this case, I mean sh!t happens, men do cheat everyday my sister and it's up to you to decide to live with a cheating man or you deserve better. I am not sure if he is only talking to that lady via SMSs & we'll never know the truth , he is the only one who knows what's really going on. Listen to that little voice at the back of your head and do what it says because it's never wrong.

It's your life and you desrve to be happy.. Never setlle for what you get, Ask yourself if he would have forgiven you if it was you who has done that.. Men are so heartless not all of them though.


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Aug 24, 2012

Danger1985

This other ladt reached out to yur hubby, so the question is why did yur man easily allow this other woman to access him?clearly sumtin has bin wrong in yur relationship, dats why he found it very easy to help another woman secretly...and u yur stroy isnt str8 at one tym u sayu hev a peferct relationship, aaah there isnt anything like a perfect relatiosnhip...then u say u do hurtful tings 2 each otha n au move on...woman u dont do hurtfuul tings 2 yur partner and move on just like that...there is no smoke woithout fire and clearly u have been living in a fantsy thinkin u hev moved on and yet u havent @ ol...it has taken yur sister 2 show u the light of the way...but then again we cant also rule out that even yur sister can be involvd wit yur man who knows its carzy world out there...u move our she moves in...2 address this my sister...like dudu sed hev a heart 2 heart and ascertain wer he stands...either u kip him n olwes hev in mind that there will olwes be a probability that he will cheat again...or u dump him n move life is 2 short...and if u kip him pliz address the issues that led him 2 be comforter of another woman...u told us half the story in any case so ol the best
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Aug 24, 2012

svavava

all men do that, so give it time, u'll knw when u have forgiven him
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Aug 24, 2012

ntshware-ke-yawa

Though he gave me an explanation and told me he loved me, I have lost all faith in him

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that's another problem you have to deal with yourself.I don't condone that he can sms other women while staying with you under one roof, but you grapping his cellphone from him,you were such a fool,deal with it sweety,you definately got more than what you bargained for.
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Aug 24, 2012

MAWARAWARA

Find a way to 4give him completly and move on, man will always do this things havent your mother or your aunties told you?
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Aug 24, 2012

Ntate_Moloi

Maybe your husband was sending the message to your sister coz she seems to monitor your hubby very closely
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Aug 24, 2012

Femi

"Sacrifices that life put us through", They either break us or make us much stronger.
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Aug 24, 2012

Flemza

Listen here my sister , 3 years in marriage thats nothing I have neen married for 18 years and out of those 18 years I have five sons and for the first 5 years of my marriage I had girlfriends left right and centre , but I did not leave my wife , single ladies they crave a young succesfull married man , hence they are after your man , thats normal in African , see whats happening with Zuma. You are lucky your man is only in love with one lady, besides you , so stop being a crying baby and grow up as a married woman , and stop reading your husband sms , they just gonna hurt you like right now , and the lady who is receiving these love sms she happy , smoching your man , my advise to you is do a self retrospective and see where are you not being a woman enough for another woman to entise your man
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Aug 24, 2012

asaowe

Question who doesn't cheat? my fone is mi fone if u hd respected that ths wuldn't hv happen,
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Aug 24, 2012

mbondo

You did n't find your husband fucking another woman damn you, it's only sms stupid bi8tch.
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Aug 24, 2012

Yogi

What where you doing with his phone in the first place ?? U busy chasing Ghosts and expect Angels, Im sure if he can do the same to you, he will collapse because what he will find in your phone...
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Aug 24, 2012

MsBlackberry

o ska nkiwa ke maikutlo ur husband has apologised so motshwarele and move on ,dont runwaway fom this marriage no one is perfect o tsebe the devil doesnt want to see marriages succeed
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Aug 24, 2012

Afrojoy

Be careful with your sister! What was she doing noticing that? Admiring your handsome husband? Or maybe here eyes were always on the bulge on his trouser?
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Aug 24, 2012

mbondo

This is a case of keep on knocking on the devils door sooner than later the devil will answer you.
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Aug 24, 2012

MAWARAWARA

you Mother and your anties were suppose to tell you that man are dogs and you must expect this things............@sowetan block my comment again nehhhh
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Aug 24, 2012

MommaC

asaowe
Question who doesn't cheat?my fone is mi fone if u hd respected that ths wuldn't hv happen

LOL
People who don't need to buy a vowel in order to write a sentence.
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Aug 24, 2012

Yogi

You are even lucky because he apologized , i still don't know why he did that! he would've turned the tables
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Aug 24, 2012

Sbokoboko

Your husband and your sister have something going on. She was just trying to give u a hint or brag about it. You should have noted down the number he was texting and test it, am 100% sure he was texting your sister. Bayajola bobabini.
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Aug 24, 2012

Ntate_Moloi

What you don't know won't hurt you

But you wanted to know now that you know otlo re tena


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Aug 24, 2012

MAWARAWARA

@Memme
you are talking as if you know that your boyfriend is not cheating>>>>>carefull mama
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Aug 24, 2012

Sokheshe1905

Golden rule: Stay away from your partner's cell phone.
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Aug 24, 2012

THEmadame2B-BBEE

ok, so
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Aug 24, 2012

Ntate_Moloi

You can leave him it's your choice

But remember the grass is not always greener on the other side
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Aug 24, 2012

Mosquer

svavava
all men do that, so give it time, u'll knw when u have forgiven him
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Ga se gore ge BF/man a sa fete ke nthepa wa tla wa re swantšha le yena
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Aug 24, 2012

QueenTT

I always think its a good thing to find out things about the person you are involve with at an early stage... At-least you haven't invested too much years into it, 4 years is not that long get out and make a new start...never make a child your reason to stay, you may end up resenting the child for you been stuck in unhealthy marriage...
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Aug 24, 2012

MophemeKoPitori

Dismooi
Make sure that every night you give him a blow job then he will tell you the truth. My sister you must know on how to play your card, please go out and smell the coffer.
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I totally agree with u dude... these ladies alway cry foul when u touch them but they don't mention when they refuse to give you attention especially SEX which is fundamental...

I won't stop having (di)Nyatsie
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Aug 24, 2012

Scorp

Sms??
Women see a lot out ther. tlogela o tepa
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Aug 24, 2012

KatakataEmaotoAditshepe

May be you guys dont talk about your dissatisfactions in your marriage because if you think or see changes is your right to know wht's the cause before it gets far.Sit down with your husband and ask him what's led him to that state of dishonesty.May be this was just the begin things didnt go far and you guys can still live the happiest life as you used to.
What he does is not ayoba!
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Aug 24, 2012

thabiso992000

Just tell him to atleat use a condom to avoid maitanance or aids since well, as a man, he wont change like all men, or just go to some sangoma o mo jese phetlha
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Aug 24, 2012

Femi

Once my sister told my wife which by then we were still dating that I am seeing someone but we sorted it out and our love grew much stronger to the point where we even got married and it has been seven years already however I forgave my sister but we never got along, for some other reasons though.

The point I'm trying to make is that the truth always has a funny way of coming out, whether from our siblings or not, even if your sister wa phapha perhaps she saved you coz what if they went along to the point where you would have caught them in bed, I am not condoning what I did nor what your husband did but he sound very remorseful and if you two put your heads together and be there for each other, with time you will feel much better.

Like I have said Sacrifices that life put us through, they either break us or make us much stronger.
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Aug 24, 2012

Hosh6

Men cheat all the time I don't understand why this woman is unhappy.
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Aug 24, 2012

And-Then

"I have always believed that our relationship is perfect"

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i stopped reading right there...........THAT RIGHT THERE IS THE PROBLEM WITH ALL OF US HUMANS IN THIS WORLD......NO ONE...AND NOTHING IN THIS LIFE IS PERFECT.


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Aug 24, 2012

Chaluza

*I love him, but I have no doubt that if we didn't have a child I would have left him*
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Love is the propotion of hate that does not matter,love is the appetite for rubbish you can handle.
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Aug 24, 2012

Hosh6

She didn't find him in bed with that woman...she should just get over herself.
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Aug 24, 2012

Mnikazi

1st your sister must keep her nose out of your marriage . . . . .. cause non-of this would have happened.
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Aug 24, 2012

Secretary

Dudu just tell this lady to open her legs wider. The husband is tired to bonk thighs all the time.
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Aug 24, 2012

Voetzek

Thats serves you right because when you spend the whole day on watzup and facebook he doesnt complain
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Aug 24, 2012

swona

dump him! bt chances are, u'll meet me, I'll do the same! so its up to you!
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Aug 24, 2012

Makhosini0408

Good morning

I think that there are unwritten laws about cellphones in relationships.

1. Terms and conditions apply. If in the first place, you are comfortable answering and fidling with each other phones, by all means.

2. The wife was ignoring the husband's obsession with the phone, until her sister brought it to her attention and she acted impulsive, which ended hurting her.

3. I am not saying the husband is right, our marriages are dying because of over indulgence to facebook and whatsup.

Our conversation about what happened at work are interrupted about addiction to gadgets.

The wife must make up her mind, if she still wants to be in this marriage or else the marriage becomes another casualty owing to cellphone.
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Aug 24, 2012

Onthatile

I just dont trust men, including my own father and brothers, nothing is not perfect especially with men involve, they dont know what they want, nothing will never satisfy them, i am better off without men, ive been lied, cheated, hurt, betrayed by men, i am not going back then, the most mistake that we ladies do is that once we fall inlove with them we give them everything, we give them our life, the take over everything we even forget about our own happiness and focus more on theirs, so my sisters, walk out and find yourself, your life doesnt not revolve around him, and you better off without him, he will keep on cheating no matter what, YES he might be telling the truth whn he say he loves u by y does he lied and cheat if he does, mxm M-E-N!!!!!!!!!!!
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Aug 24, 2012

And-Then

Memme

you sound bitter......!!!
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Aug 24, 2012

Britata

u are just his door mat...use korobela he will only see u as a woman and others as sisters
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Aug 24, 2012

Ntate_Moloi

Ba re gola o di bone

Nyala o nnyele

Lahla re tope( That's what your sister is doing )

Get over it
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Aug 24, 2012

And-Then

i have a solution.

the sooner us men realise that woman are better off left alone with each other......the sooner the world will become a better place for all of us......woman dont trust us at all......but yet they chase after us.

solution.....dont marry them....nava get married.....just bonk them good...so they can cum back for more......cos once you married....the younger ones and emotional insecure & irrational once....will chase after you........!!!!
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Aug 24, 2012

Hosh6

Onthatile
Babe not all men are the same...take me and I'll prove that to you.
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Aug 24, 2012

Mamase123

Man will never content, you will cook for him, take a good care of his kids, look good, love and take care of his parents, respect and cherish him and give him a blow job if he wants to cheat he will.
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Aug 24, 2012

mfanomncane

maneater
why is your sister always looking at your husband to notice things you did not notice? you need to be very carefull of her and she needs to mind her own business.

100% correct she must mind her business. Sithi isizulu indlu yegagu iyanetha.
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Aug 24, 2012

Mjava

Rules of a Happy Marriage:
1. There are two types of men those who cheat and those without options.
2. Never , i repeat never go through your patners emails,cellphone,diaries n so forth unless you building a watertight case for divorce.
3. A happily married woman understands that a man is a natural born Kuku hunter, so he will not stop hunting, he might suspend hunting but not stop completly.
4. When a man cheats on you it doesnt mean he no longer loves you or there something wrong with you he's just caring out hes natural mandate.
5. In conclusion, if your man no longer loves you he will leave you,he loves you and you are his Queen, that is why you are the wife. Stop comparing yourself to ama-touchups and take your rightful place as a Queen.Stop checking his phone ,you are so worked up over nothing(a touch-up) now.
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Aug 24, 2012

Makhosini0408

Let us go on with the tirade of blaming and painting all men with the same brush, after all, it will make us feel better?
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Aug 24, 2012

mfanomncane

Sister you got what you wanted why are paging your husband's phone in the first place?
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Aug 24, 2012

mfanomncane

Pho uma eqonyiwe inkinga ikuphi ngoba nabo babona lento nawe owayibona?
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Aug 24, 2012

Mnyakazo258

A man must never allow the inlaws to come and live in your house
A woman must never page her husband's cell phone.
A woman need to be very wild in the bedroom.......................

The road to happiness in the marriage will never be easy and no one is perfect and there is no such thing called 'perfect patners' in this world, people pretend to be perfec/ madly in lovet but inside they are full of cracks.
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Aug 24, 2012

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

Hosh6
Men cheat all the time I don't understand why this woman is unhappy.


Just because it's become a norm - it doesn't mean is easy to accept! It's still a bitter pill to swallow when you find that your man is involved with someone else.
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

Ntate_Moloi
Ba re gola o di bone

Nyala o nnyele
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Ntate Moloi my frend used to say THLALA O THLALEFE how is this one?
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Aug 24, 2012

Bizzabo

Onthatile
Just be careful you do not become a couger because all the man would have been taken when you do decide to date again. get over yourself maan! are we in heaven?
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Aug 24, 2012

Moffdat

Any woman who leaves a good man for cheating is an id!ot.
Any man who stays with a good woman after cheating is an id!ot.

so says Moffdat and i am the LAW!!!!
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Aug 24, 2012

Ntate_Moloi


@SWEETYK

It's her choice hun
no one said life/marriage would be easy hun each pose a a different challenge that one needs to face head on
If she wants an easy way out she's a coward
She needs to get over it
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Aug 24, 2012

Ntate_Moloi

@Onthatile

Don't let you past determine your future

To Be Old And Wise First You Must Be Young And Tupid
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Aug 24, 2012

LekgowaHBK

He apologised, what more you want from him. Don't be too western sesi, "Monna ke selepe reya adimishana".
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Aug 24, 2012

Eraser

@ntshware-ke-yawa
I have always believed that our relationship is perfect.
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That was your first mistake girl.Can someobody tell me why is it that when men buy women flowers,teddybear,lunch,clothes,women will normally conclude that the relationship is perfect,I mean for me nothing has ever been perfect under the sun we are living.
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There is not such thing aas a perfect relationship
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Aug 24, 2012

Bizzabo

Moffdat
Any man who stays with a good woman after cheating is an id!ot.



Ad hmm, no matter how good she can be? no matter the reasons that pushed her to cheat?

sad
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Aug 24, 2012

Shenene

it was just am sms get over it lady....
hehehe rena re bone mathata shema i once caught my ex in bed with another woman and i mean they were having sex with sounds but i forgive and forget.if you in marriage you've got to try by all means to hold your man even if he's cheating you have to fight back to get him back to your arms why give-up so early aow ,nothing good comes easy maan stand your ground like a woman and let him do what he wants wena just make sure you open your legs whenever he wants some cause thats the only weapon to hold them to us lady...
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Aug 24, 2012

Moffdat

Bizzabo

Women don't cheat with their bodies buddha!
I have had my fair share of married women or women who are in a relationship and by the time we hit the sheets i know their partners so well that looking at them makes me laugh. When a man cheats it's just s.3x. Physical hard throbbing superficial. Call it what you want but i when i cheat the woman i am cheating with will never utter my woman name without my permission and i know a lot of guys who operate in the same way!!!!
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Aug 24, 2012

McLoving

All women should know by now that,men are naturally polygomous,it's within their genetic makeup.
You must never touch your husband's,boyfriend's or partners mobile.If you want trouble then ilandele u zo ithola yinto o'ifunayo.[sic]
O ta shikuma le shi o she lavayo[sic]...


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Aug 24, 2012

Onthatile

Bizzabo
Onthatile
Just be careful you do not become a couger because all the man would have been taken when you do decide to date again. get over yourself maan! are we in heaven?
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I doubt it will happen soon bru, done with men PERIOD!!!!!
Think will go for lesbians for now, because when a woman loves, she loves for real...
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Aug 24, 2012

Mnikie

its very hurt to check your man cell phone cause you will see what you want to see.so stop checking his phone gal,i have experience of what u r crying of,dis article make me remember of the past,

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Aug 24, 2012

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

@McLoving

"naturally polygomous" my a.ss!! Please...that's some old drummed up cliche; which men throw in women's faces for their own shorty comings and infidelities!
What i fail to understand is why men think that when they do it we must just grin and beart it, but when the shoe is on the other foot - men are killing us, our children and themselves! WTF is wrong with this picture???

And wena Moffdat

Women don't cheat with their bodies?? Which cloud are you living on?? I know of some women who love their husbands deeply...but have these younger little boys who are just there to "take care of the physical business" ...and who knows these women who you have "sexual relations with could just be using you for your body! But would there be anything wrong with that???
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Aug 24, 2012

imd

one piece of advice for you : If you cant beat 'em ...JOIN 'em!
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Aug 24, 2012

Onthatile

Ntate_Moloi
@Onthatile

Don't let you past determine your future

To Be Old And Wise First You Must Be Young And Tupid
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I am not going back there dude, ive nearly lost my life because of men, thats why ive decided to be single and guess what im happily single, i dont need liars or chetares im just better off without them, im doing fine without men its been 3 years now..
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Aug 24, 2012

nEVUS414

now its the end of your marriage thanks to your sister.
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Aug 24, 2012

Lipgloss

My Zuzu uyajola
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Aug 24, 2012

mmasbono

@McLoving
All women should know by now that,men are naturally polygomous,it's within their genetic makeup.
You must never touch your husband's,boyfriend's or partners mobile.If you want trouble then ilandele u zo ithola yinto o'ifunayo.[sic]
O ta shikuma le shi o she lavayo[sic]... -
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@Mcloving diz is so true *what you dont know will nvr hurt you*..nna ive learnt to play very far frm my man 's phone coz i really dnt wanna die young..smtms man can jus take another woman s phone numbrs & chat with dem ,but just for the fun of it ..nothing much*evn if dey tell dem dat dey love dem just knw dat he"ll nvr leave you for a five minutes thing UNLESS YOUR ALSO PUSHING HIM AWAY WITH YOUR ACTIONS *
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Aug 24, 2012

Kgaitsedi-ya-Genaro

I have always believed that our relationship is perfect.
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Are u sure u r living in the same planet as all of us, coz if u r u'll know that perfect things happens only in fantasy land not in real world. U r an adult surely u can find a way to administer this situation. Gudlak!


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Aug 24, 2012

Mamase123

So opening your legs will make him stay or faithfull. Bull. We woman cry when this happens to us and yet promoting this rubbish mambo jambo manners from our husbands. When is this gonna stop? Sadly AIDS kills the sooner we put a stop to this the better for the next generatiion, if we keep forgiving and 4getting we will die and our grand children will die and so what? We are human beings we are not God and just 4give and 4get, true we can do that but as woman we must not take cheaters back. Let him go and be with other cheaters and taste his own medicine and see. Man won't 4give us for cheating and why should we. I personnaly will 4give my husband for cheating but I will kick his ass and move on.
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Aug 24, 2012

Bizzabo

Onthatile

You are using the same brush i see. on a serious note though, i dont think it is fair for you to say men are all the same.

I have a very succesful friend who has not been lucky in the relationship department. he has been a one woman man since our tertiary days and we ( the boys) failed to understand why? he is still trying up to this day, guess what? he is with the most beautiful woman, down to eart, caring, loving and our friend is the happiest ever. patience pays.

in your case being lesbian will not change the fact that you were once straight. I dont think you will feel as happy as you felt when you were in hete-relationship.

just hang in there
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Aug 24, 2012

REAREND

Tell your sister to mind her bloody buss. If she didn`t tell you to check your hubby, everything would still be okay. Blame her!!
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Aug 24, 2012

legrado

next time respect your men's privacy. his phone is his not yours
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Aug 24, 2012

naughtynaughty

Guyz whether yu r a man or a woman please please please please DONT TOUCH YO PARTNERS PHOWN (BOTH SIDE) if yo partner is outside just leave it like dat if its a friend or yo inlaw they will call yofown also - if he/she is outside yu call him or just leave it like dat. Dere r more Breakups bcoz of CellFowns. to b on a safeside or stressless leave it its not yoz


2. Can please please both of us tell our Rollons not to call after hours / 6 - like when yu r next to yo Spouse

3. Can Abomakhwapeni stop calling guys infront of their wives especially Girls 18 - 35, He can do everything 4 yu, spoil yu give yu money but the fact remains He is married He is using yu Nizolimala - He is Legally singned wit dat Lady u underestimating.



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Aug 24, 2012

Bizzabo

Moffdat

ja, that is the fckd up part...you will be driving and other people will be talking about you. if my woman has to cheat, she must at least tell the nig**ga to keep it to himself.
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Aug 24, 2012

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Aug 24, 2012

mmasbono

there is nothing perfect ka relationship...its a game so just play along *le wena find a way to revenge*if u feel u cant take the pain anymore...ssmtms man dnt want to be cheated but dey enjoy hurting us so nna i knw a way to put a man down & hurt him 5tyms dan he did to me ...call me il tell you how*lol*
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Aug 24, 2012

LESSON-1

"After a while I forgave him. The problem is that my forgiveness was just words. My heart is broken and I feel I will never recover"
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Go and drink Diesel and mix it ka Gear oil ( o tlaba strong )
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Aug 24, 2012

naughtynaughty

nd in dis storys case If dis man was honest enough to de wife - He shud not been comforting his LadyFriend @de back of the wife , the LadyFriend shud b both their friend not her secrete comforter.
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Aug 24, 2012

Intomb'omxhosa

Healing takes time my sister eventually you will forgive him BUT in future rather play with his balls that paging his phone.
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Aug 24, 2012

Moffdat

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o
You are lying. When women cheat there is a pshycological reason behind it. WE ARE NOT THE SAME! i am speaking from experience because women cheat or mess around as a reaction to something... your man is not there for you. your father wasn't around etc etc molested..

Men cheat as an action not a reaction!!!!

Onthatile
Stop lying there is not such thing as happily single ngwanyana. you are lying to yourself
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Aug 24, 2012

Bizzabo

You leave her phone when it rigs, you dont even use it to phone even if your battery is dead...just to show that you want nothing to do with her phone. Nooo, yena she wants to call he r friends , her mum, she wants to see pictures and all. now one is forced to go take a shower with the phone because if it rings she will pick up.

They will go as far as telling you that their phones have no pin codes, for what? so that I can remove mine?

Tlogelang di phone tsa batho maan
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Aug 24, 2012

And-Then

the battle of the sexes i see......am loving it
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Aug 24, 2012

LESSON-1

@mmasbono
there is nothing perfect ka relationship...its a game so just play along *le wena find a way to revenge*if u feel u cant take the pain anymore...ssmtms man dnt want to be cheated but dey enjoy hurting us so nna i knw a way to put a man down & hurt him 5tyms dan he did to me ...call me il tell you how*lol*
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your name says it all...
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Aug 24, 2012

teesytee_12

@Shenene,

it was just am sms get over it lady....
hehehe rena re bone mathata shema i once caught my ex in bed with another woman and i mean they were having sex with sounds but i forgive and forget.if you in marriage you've got to try by all means to hold your man even if he's cheating you have to fight back to get him back to your arms why give-up so early aow ,nothing good comes easy maan stand your ground like a woman and let him do what he wants wena just make sure you open your legs whenever he wants some cause thats the only weapon to hold them to us lady...
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Very wise lady, Yep! make sure even if he cheats he know where HOME is!!! Open them Legs (Safely so tho).
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Aug 24, 2012

LESSON-1

@Shenene

Wa reng daar so- how is your friday ?
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Aug 24, 2012

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

Moffdat
I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o
You are lying. When women cheat there is a pshycological reason behind it. WE ARE NOT THE SAME! i am speaking from experience because women cheat or mess around as a reaction to something... your man is not there for you. your father wasn't around etc etc molested..


@Moffdat
You even say: "We are not the same!!" Yes , there are some women who are unhappy about their relationships, and yada, yada and cheat for psychological reasons.

But the time for women to hide away from their sexual nature is over my friend! Women enjoy sex just as much as men do...and if she's not satiesfied in the house sexually - then she'll go and find it somewhere else.
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

What I don't like about we wom3n, we tend to forget and forgive so easily and we forget about our happiness. In this marriage there won't be any trust I'm telling you guys, if she can't stand the heat she must just leave the kitchen.
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Aug 24, 2012

And-Then

stop getting married people......its just a waste of everybodies time - energy and money.
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Aug 24, 2012

Mokwepa

Present!!
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Aug 24, 2012

Moffdat

Bizzabo
Moffdat

ja, that is the fckd up part...you will be driving and other people will be talking about you. if my woman has to cheat, she must at least tell the nig**ga to keep it to himself.
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I had this famous girl who was dating this SA rapper kid. Daai babie nna bolela di horror!!!!
As we speak i am messing around with office manager mo spaneng. haven't hit the sheets but i didn't need to know that her husband can't do it right... eish di secret tsa daai maan haunt my dreams. I know that she is the breadwinner, that he sucks in bed, His business is liquidated and he owes SARS in excess of 3m. Ke mo lebela byang daai groot man ka respect!
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Aug 24, 2012

LESSON-1

m.asende a gago setlatla t0we
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Aug 24, 2012

MsKinkyakaKamaSutra

He said he was in contact with her, but had no feelings for her. He said she had reached out to him because of problems she was having in her marriage and she had threatened to commit suicide. He said he was only offering her support.
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@Disappointed and dismayed

Why is your husband comforting another man's wi.fe??? . If the sho.e was on the other foot, I think he would have moered you and or accused of a lot things (unprintable). You husband is shagging the woma.n's prpblems away...........


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Aug 24, 2012

LESSON-1

Tsamaya o botse bana ba creche manyala a we..........
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Aug 24, 2012

Makhosini0408

It is sad when we try and justify cheating as a norm. Cheating is betrayal of the highest degree.
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Aug 24, 2012

And-Then

Makhosini0408
It is sad when we try and justify cheating as a norm. Cheating is betrayal of the highest degree.

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according to what laws of our country is cheating wrong and betrayal of the highest degree...?
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Aug 24, 2012

KatakataEmaotoAditshepe

Tlohelaang ho robala ka dipihama le lona basadi,you turn us off.
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Aug 24, 2012

Nincompoop

There is no perfect relationship or marriage mama, until you catch him in bed with another woman, you have nothing against him. Move on and stop snooping on your partner's cellphone. Nxa
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Aug 24, 2012

Bizzabo

Moffdat

exactly my probelem...o tlo molebella bjang.

maybe you are right, if your good woman cheats...just move on. chances are she is also emotionally attached to the bugger. as for us it is just the action.

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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

@Sweetyk,
Hala frendo hala!!!
This article is me frendo, this good lady must do like i did and leave without looking back. It hurts but with time she will be fine.
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Aug 24, 2012

Moffdat

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

No doubt. I know women enjoy s.3x even more than men. But you cannot run away from our current psyhcology as people.

When women have s.3x they are conditioned to believe they are giving away something!!!
When men get some they are conditioned to believe they recieve/gain something.

For now that is a fact...Stop running a way from the truth. A woman can only be a woman in a man's world and vice versa. You cannot win playing by our rules, you need to create your own!!!!
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Aug 24, 2012

LESSON-1

Cheating is Gud - I'm cheating my GF with her Mom.......
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Aug 24, 2012

LESSON-1

Wena fokof o tlo re tena at the end le meno a ma yellow....
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Aug 24, 2012

Mokwepa

Ladie tlogelang di phone tsabanna
banna tlogelang di phone tsa basadi.
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Aug 24, 2012

mmasbono

LESSON-1
@mmasbono
there is nothing perfect ka relationship...its a game so just play along *le wena find a way to revenge*if u feel u cant take the pain anymore...ssmtms man dnt want to be cheated but dey enjoy hurting us so nna i knw a way to put a man down & hurt him 5tyms dan he did to me ...call me il tell you how*lol*
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haahhahahahaha jus saying, some woman fail to thnk u knw maan,nna i wont sit nd cry da whole day n nite bcoz of sms okare ke hlokafaletswe ke monna ...il play along nd see how he feelz ...lol

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Aug 24, 2012

Makhosini0408

And-Then
Makhosini0408
It is sad when we try and justify cheating as a norm. Cheating is betrayal of the highest degree.

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according to what laws of our country is cheating wrong and betrayal of the highest degree...?
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I did not say its a crime. But maybe you will understand, if the table are turned and you are the victim or you lose someone that you truly love.
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Aug 24, 2012

Moffdat

Bizzabo
Moffdat

exactly my probelem...o tlo molebella bjang.

maybe you are right, if your good woman cheats...just move on. chances are she is also emotionally attached to the bugger. as for us it is just the action.
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If a good woman cheats i believe she was not a good woman to begin with.
A good woman would dum.p your dum @ss first! Then go out on the town.
They say if you pillow talk with the women that are sr3wing you just know that she is going to tell another guys when sh's through with you!!
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Aug 24, 2012

LESSON-1

@mmasbono
@LESSON-1
@mmasbono
there is nothing perfect ka relationship...its a game so just play along *le wena find a way to revenge*if u feel u cant take the pain anymore...ssmtms man dnt want to be cheated but dey enjoy hurting us so nna i knw a way to put a man down & hurt him 5tyms dan he did to me ...call me il tell you how*lol*
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haahhahahahaha jus saying, some woman fail to thnk u knw maan,nna i wont sit nd cry da whole day n nite bcoz of sms okare ke hlokafaletswe ke monna ...il play along nd see how he feelz ...lol
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You sound like a very strong woman but Eish your name maan JEEEER how big?

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Aug 24, 2012

And-Then

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

dont forget the emotional aspect of females when it comes to sex......you woman act on emotions.....which is a major stumbling block in your decision making process.

Men act on facts, logic and quite frankly...our sexual needs.
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Aug 24, 2012

Ary

PLEASE please Give her ADVICE instead of saying KAK.......!!! Lady see professionals they will help you...
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Aug 24, 2012

MsKinkyakaKamaSutra

@Mamase123
Man will never content, you will cook for him, take a good care of his kids, look good, love and take care of his parents, respect and cherish him and give him a blow job if he wants to cheat he will.
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Even fukc him the karma sutra or like a por.n star, he will still stray.............

My grandmother gave advice: one you can solve the mystery of why homosapien males have a tail in front and and not at the back like other animals.............. then you will be able to understand and know why men do the things that they do.
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Aug 24, 2012

Moffdat

Batho babang ba utlhwa ka nyaope hierso...
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Aug 24, 2012

Mokwepa

LESSON-1
@Coldcurry
i luv anal but i'm not gay
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e e ethis guy LESSON-1? what kind of man are u?
y do u have to spoil everything on the blog? no no no no no no....Sowetan needs to findout who you are and block you. haaay!!
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Aug 24, 2012

Hosh6

Skopokopo
Are you the one who wrote to sis dudu?Even if you left oksalayo uk'dlile.
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Aug 24, 2012

Mokwepa

All Bloggers
can we all send message to the editor and complain about LESSON-1, he uses excessive abusive language and its not funny.
ANY SUPPORT ON THIS 1?
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Aug 24, 2012

And-Then

Makhosini0408

Agreed, cheating is not a crime.......but why do society and woman like to play the victim when they are cheated on.....you can only be a victim if a crime has been commited againt you....that is law my brother......you are not a victim if i cheated on you....it was my choice to do it....so why and how are you the victim, when i am the one cheating.


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Aug 24, 2012

Onthatile

@Moffdat
Onthatile
Stop lying there is not such thing as happily single ngwanyana. you are lying to yourself
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I really dont have to convince you dude because i know the truth, do me a favour and believe whatever makes you sleeps better at night, i have been single for 3 years and im happy very happy i dont need men to complete me and doing just fine without them!!!!!
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Aug 24, 2012

PKing

Next time you'll learn to give your man space on his phone, because it is too personal. And you Mr. Man you should stop being Dr. Phil and offer your offer all she needs. Use your vuvuzela on her, if you feel erotic, mo.ron.
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Aug 24, 2012

Uncle-Lu

Cheating for me is easy as i work with travel agencies and my phone rings 24/7 and my wife is used to it, i sometimes get calls at night that bookings didnt go well or no car was given to a minister ,i have to wake up n go attend,sometimes our romantic dinner get spoiled when phone keeps ringing because i would talk for hours or make other arrangemets through phone I cant switch it off - so my phone is my work if she interferes with my phone she interferes with my work - PERIOD
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Aug 24, 2012

McLoving

@I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

I sense you are in a great deal of pain.Sorry love!
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Aug 24, 2012

PKing

@Onthatile, if you once had someone and know the taste of i-vors, then we are suspicious how you get help at times of ovulation, because there is no way that you just switch-off. But good for you.
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Aug 24, 2012

LESSON-1

@Mokwepa
All Bloggers
can we all send message to the editor and complain about LESSON-1, he uses excessive abusive language and its not funny.
ANY SUPPORT ON THIS 1?
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i saport it - When they say ppl are jajarag ba ra bath0 ba swanang le wena (M0nkey)
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Aug 24, 2012

PKing

@svava, you are lying by generalising that all men do that. Well I don't, my vuvuzela can only be used to the one and Only of that particular time.
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Aug 24, 2012

Lesoba-Le-Boya

Wanyela o ne o batlang ko mohaleng wa Monna.
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Aug 24, 2012

Mokwepa

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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

Hosh6
Skopokopo
Are you the one who wrote to sis dudu?Even if you left oksalayo uk'dlile
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No im not, oksalayo uyang'khalela nd cant get me
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Aug 24, 2012

PKing

@Memme, relationships have highs and lows, it so dum.p of you to encourage her to divorce. They can solve their issue and live happily, is not like they are just gal and boy-frineds, my foot. they got married for a reason and they can sort things out.
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Aug 24, 2012

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

McLoving
@I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o
I sense you are in a great deal of pain.Sorry love!

Debate with me...but don't be condescending. It's an insult to my intelligence.
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Aug 24, 2012

MOTHUBANNYO

O ne o batlang celphounung ea hae ?
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Aug 24, 2012

And-Then

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

why are selective in your responses......?
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

Skopokopo
@Sweetyk,
Hala frendo hala!!!
This article is me frendo, this good lady must do like i did and leave without looking back. It hurts but with time she will be fine.
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Hala hala frendo, good, nice, perfect, excellent move my friend. If you can read this article again frendo this lady said they have 4 years together (1year dating and 3 in marriage), you know Lala there are people ba movang on after 16years in relationship? Please guys let us not justify this thing maan sies, it wasn't a his to job to comfort this LADY, where is the person who made her feel the way she felt, and who is going to comfort his own wife this is bullsh!t maan. HOW ARE YOU LALA?
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Aug 24, 2012

Hosh6

Skopokopo
But he got the ultimate price which is your cake...it's no big deal that you left him.
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Aug 24, 2012

Moffdat

Onthatile

Being single is lonely and not having someone to share your life with is not part of the human experience. I think i would believe you if you weren't reacting to some hurt you experienced. The western ways have put things in your mind which are against nature and this is what is destroying the world now!
Do not live by standards which are humanly impossible.
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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

Hosh6
Skopokopo
But he got the ultimate price which is your cake...it's no big deal that you left him
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It is to him because he is after me, cant he get another? or he does but not fulfilled. let him Go. Sidlene!!!
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Aug 24, 2012

mmasbono

LESSON-1
@mmasbono
@LESSON-1
@mmasbono
there is nothing perfect ka relationship...its a game so just play along *le wena find a way to revenge*if u feel u cant take the pain anymore...ssmtms man dnt want to be cheated but dey enjoy hurting us so nna i knw a way to put a man down & hurt him 5tyms dan he did to me ...call me il tell you how*lol*
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haahhahahahaha jus saying, some woman fail to thnk u knw maan,nna i wont sit nd cry da whole day n nite bcoz of sms okare ke hlokafaletswe ke monna ...il play along nd see how he feelz ...lol
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You sound like a very strong woman but Eish your name maan JEEEER how big?
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very flat ....its not dat big*tltltltltllltltltltlt
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Aug 24, 2012

LESSON-1

@Skopokopo

(makhi) dn't entertain m0nkeys like Hosh6--- akere ?

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Aug 24, 2012

Makhosini0408

And-Then
Makhosini0408
Agreed, cheating is not a crime.......but why do society and woman like to play the victim when they are cheated on.....you can only be a victim if a crime has been commited againt you....that is law my brother......you are not a victim if i cheated on you....it was my choice to do it....so why and how are you the victim, when i am the one cheating.
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You are raising and important point. Women take cheating personal because they see the hurt that their mothers endure owing to some fathers and men. They hope that the cycle does not continue. Surely we cannot raise our daughters with the same mentality that "men are dogs". Surely they deserve better and they do not need a man, so that we can say they have arrived. Cheating is a choice and those that practise it must face the consequences.

Women becomes most victims because they were brought up by a society and a community that has double standards. It is okay for men to cheat but an abomination if women follow suit. Until men and women are looked and judged with the same lenses, the better for all of us.

Yes, and I believe we still have brothers in our midst that do not subscribe to the notion of cheating as a way of boosting one's ego or manhood. That in my own book is called maturity.

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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

LESSON-1
@Skopokopo

(makhi) dn't entertain m0nkeys like Hosh6--- akere ?
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Oh yes, my dearest Makhi
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

Skopokopo
Hosh6
Skopokopo
Are you the one who wrote to sis dudu?Even if you left oksalayo uk'dlile
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No im not, oksalayo uyang'khalela nd cant get me
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Don't let him wena my friend cause when you do that mistake, you are going to cry for the rest of your life. It'll be revenge nothing else, phela Lala you illustrated gore wena you are capable of what. Big up babes we need sistas like you. There are people out there who can treat you like a Queen.
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Aug 24, 2012

Moffdat

SWEETYK

Ureng my skad. *smiles*
why are you giving bad advise to other women mara??
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Aug 24, 2012

LESSON-1

@mmasbono

Mmasbono- dn't you want a BF - i know some1 on this blog and he's perfect for u? respond but will talk later


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Aug 24, 2012

CYBORICO

Whenu guys spoke about it the first time remember that it was in the heat of the moment, looking at what u say he said about the whole issue indicates he told both partial trutha nd lies, he might have wanted to confes and ended up trying to make it sound better or he just put some truth in it cause he has been caught.

Now u need to take him down again and speak to him about it, tell him your position, how this affects oyur stand on the relationship and how difficult it has been for u, tell him if u willing to forgive him and give the conditions for such forgiveness and then ask him again whats up, if he lies again Sisi start planing for a life without him, and never consider coming back no matter what he will say in the future, just make sure the kid doesnot become colateral damage of the situation
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Aug 24, 2012

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

And-Then
I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o
why are selective in your responses......?


Don't worry...i"m still coming to you...strategising my attack!
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Aug 24, 2012

Mokwepa

@LESSON-1
today u r posting for the last time. from monday u r bloccked and u have to register with another name.
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Aug 24, 2012

Uncle-Lu

Skopokopo
Hosh6
Skopokopo
But he got the ultimate price which is your cake...it's no big deal that you left him
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It is to him because he is after me, cant he get another? or he does but not fulfilled. let him Go. Sidlene!!!



You sound so heart broken:don't worry he just donated sp3rms in you that's a legacy he left for you,lmfao
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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

SWEETYK
Skopokopo
Hosh6
Skopokopo
Are you the one who wrote to sis dudu?Even if you left oksalayo uk'dlile
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No im not, oksalayo uyang'khalela nd cant get me
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Don't let him wena my friend cause when you do that mistake, you are going to cry for the rest of your life. It'll be revenge nothing else, phela Lala you illustrated gore wena you are capable of what. Big up babes we need sistas like you. There are people out there who can treat you like a Queen.
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im doing fine frendo nd you?, you are so right chomi.

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Aug 24, 2012

G-ruff

This sister of your is really suspicious******
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Aug 24, 2012

salvation911

I had the same situation girl and all i did was pray for my husband, he admitted his faults and agreed that we go for councelling with the pastor, it wasnt easy. i must say the devil will never be happy that you married, he will challenge you and you have to fight for your marraige.listen u cant give up on him because of this, theres no so called perfect man. im sure he regrets what he did, it was a moment of weakness for him. forgive him and really forgive him. dont every try to make another woman take over because thats what you'll be doing if you live your man, love him more than you've ever loved him and yes give him more sex, buy the sex bible and some sexy underwears, do some roleplays once in a while your husband will forever run home after work just to be with his better half than these cheap, disrespectful sluts. God bless you and i hope you find closure
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Aug 24, 2012

spekepeke1

Mxm
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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

Mokwepa
@LESSON-1
today u r posting for the last time. from monday u r bloccked and u have to register with another name
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Kwepi why doing this to my Makhi mare hey?
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Aug 24, 2012

McLoving

@I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

It's evidence based that women are more intelligent than men.Even at school girls used to get top marks than boys.Wether we like it or not it's a known fact.When it comes to relationships I think women always loose the plot.
I have seen many women bloggers on the site been against polygamy..but you ask yourself,,,with whom does a man get into a polygomous relationship..answer is ...a woman.we have seen women falling for married men ,,not that they found out later, knowing very well but they still get involved with married men.
Another eg.We have seen women campaiging against nudity that's on the media and telly..but you ask yourself again ,,,who pose naked in the media? you find very same women half naked and most of all the explicit material on the media, women are involved...
Now we do we draw the line?

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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

@Spekkie,
hala hala lovy, how are you doing?
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Aug 24, 2012

Mokwepa

@salvation911
I had the same situation girl and all i did was pray for my husband, he admitted his faults and agreed that we go for councelling with the pastor, it wasnt easy. i must say the devil will never be happy that you married, he will challenge you and you have to fight for your marraige.listen u cant give up on him because of this, theres no so called perfect man. im sure he regrets what he did, it was a moment of weakness for him. forgive him and really forgive him. dont every try to make another woman take over because thats what you'll be doing if you live your man, love him more than you've ever loved him and yes give him more sex, buy the sex bible and some sexy underwears, do some roleplays once in a while your husband will forever run home after work just to be with his better half than these cheap, disrespectful sluts. God bless you and i hope you find closure
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wow thats inspirational.....thank you sister. amofe yone
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Aug 24, 2012

Hosh6

Skopokopo
He wants you for the cake nothing else...maybe you know how to give it to him as opposed to other women.
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Aug 24, 2012

Tsatsatsa

Abafazi abayeke amaPhones amadoda. Angithi uyitholile into obuyifuna kwiphone....jabula ke phela. Usisi wakho umxabanisi ufana noMalema. If you leave him, the first person that will be celebrating is your sister...uzithanda kabi izindaba zabantu I bet uwumjendevu (impohlo yomuntu wesimame) and she can't keep a man.
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Aug 24, 2012

Vhamsanda

STAY AWAY FROM OTHER PEOPLE's CELL PHONES FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR HEALTH.
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Aug 24, 2012

Moffdat

MEN CHEAT BECAUSE... MEN CHEAT BECAUSE... I don't know but it is not because we don't care!!!
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Aug 24, 2012

MaezizstoAgain4sure

Test
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

Hosh6
Skopokopo
But he got the ultimate price which is your cake...it's no big deal that you left him.
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@ Skopokopo

Frendo who will tell gore he ate your cake, where is the sign, the slip or documents? Eating someone's cake isn't a position or promotion the fact remains is you are happy without him. Lala when we have sex we both feel different but nice and it takes 2 to tango. Tlogela HOSHKOSH aka KOLOI YA KGALE he wants you to feel small nxa!!.
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Aug 24, 2012

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

And-Then
I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o
Men act on facts, logic and quite frankly...our sexual needs.

Look...men are act on their sexual needs period!!! Most times logic, and facts go straight out the window - and all that becomes paramount is release! How does that make a man logical??

Really And-Then!! Lets get over yet another cliche gore women are "emotional thinkers"!The stone age is over and so arethe warped little ideas you men seem to have about us women! If i wanted sex now...I'd just have to play my feminine wiles on some man...and I'd get what i wanted - emotions aside!

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Aug 24, 2012

CYBORICO

Salvation 911

I dont agree with what u r saying, God brought us here so we can leave here, hence we need to apply earthly solutions to our problems, god believes that he gave u everything for u to be able to fend for yourself on earth, the reason why he wants u to keep contact is for your spiritual needs and strengthening, not to seek solution to your problems, if he wanted us to go to him for every problem he would have ommited the brains from his creation. So i find it misleading to tell the lady to forgive just because its good in the eyes of the lord, we all need to learn to forgive those that want to be forgiven, u cannot allow people to play u just because u r a person of the lord and u forgive those who done u wrong.
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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

Hosh6
Skopokopo
He wants you for the cake nothing else...maybe you know how to give it to him as opposed to other women.
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Aug 24, 2012

spekepeke1

skopi

hi dear m good n wena?
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

Moffdat
SWEETYK

Ureng my skad. *smiles*
why are you giving bad advise to other women mara??
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You are not a women don't take this advise and I was telling m0tho o batlang go utlwa.
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Aug 24, 2012

And-Then

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o
And-Then
I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o
why are selective in your responses......?


Don't worry...i"m still coming to you...strategising my attack!
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typical woman.....just wana attack for no reason
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Aug 24, 2012

McLoving

@Tsatsatsa

Hahahahahahahahaha!!!!! hey wena wa ndibulala wazi...McLoving likes!!!!!!
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

@ Mokwepa

Nkabe ke ya go supporter love yanong o ntatlhile.
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Aug 24, 2012

And-Then

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o
And-Then
I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o
Men act on facts, logic and quite frankly...our sexual needs.

Look...men are act on their sexual needs period!!! Most times logic, and facts go straight out the window - and all that becomes paramount is release! How does that make a man logical??

Really And-Then!! Lets get over yet another cliche gore women are "emotional thinkers"!The stone age is over and so arethe warped little ideas you men seem to have about us women! If i wanted sex now...I'd just have to play my feminine wiles on some man...and I'd get what i wanted - emotions aside!

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in a nutshell....you will seduce to get what you want.....so why cant I......why is it wrong when i do it....but not when you do it......?
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Aug 24, 2012

MaezizstoAgain4sure

Ke ya exile ga ke jika I am blocked ya life e bothebelele neh

SWEETYK-Dumela sfefenki santse ke batla go ja nyy0 ya gago e be ke e konopa ka legwenya ga ke fetsa kikikikikikikikkikkikikikik

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Aug 24, 2012

spekepeke1

SWEETYK

I'm dumedising you and wena you decide to didimala on me
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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

spekepeke1
skopi

hi dear m good n wena?
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Im gud thanx spekkie.

@Galfrend nd @eKapa
I miss you guys!!!!!
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Aug 24, 2012

And-Then

salvation911

A christian, need I say more, I respect your believe, but dont agree with it at all.
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

@ Ladies

Ke kopa go le bolella ntho ione.

Lalas shebang love + trust= Healthy relationship

Communication and Respect ke cherry on top.
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Aug 24, 2012

Moffdat

SWEETYK

My skad why give advise that is going to do more harm than good.
I tend to think favouring chiefs is not the only wrong decision you have made.
Don't fight the system my skad. Kea go rata en ge ke cheata doesn't take away from that okay!!!!

Kea go verstana sani wautlhwa!!!!!
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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo


MaezizstoAgain4sure
You were blocked again kikikikikiki ke sono ka wena maan kikikikikiki Maeziagain4sure
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Aug 24, 2012

Hosh6

Skopokopo
Isn't it you who said you were a virgin yesterday...I told you it's impossible for you to be a virgin dude.

SWEETYK
The won't be any sign that he ate the cake...but fact is he would know and she would know...geez dude you reason like a confused bitter scorned teenager.
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Aug 24, 2012

CYBORICO

@Incognito
And-Then
I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o
Men act on facts, logic and quite frankly...our sexual needs.

Look...men are act on their sexual needs period!!! Most times logic, and facts go straight out the window - and all that becomes paramount is release! How does that make a man logical??


Lady i will also disagree with the above, just like we cannot generalise on women behaviour it is wrong to generalise about men, many a man r good man out there, the problem with us humans is we fail to tell each other the truth or something that builds us.

Men act the way they act because they convince each other on such issues, those who know the truth end up not saying it because the majority of his friend see the bad as good(have been convinced so) the same aplies to women, u guys and your friend give each other the wrong advices on relationship issues and this end up being seen as anormal behaviour/solution for all face by that problem.

so the solution here is either u consult a professional person for all your relatinship issues or you just shut up about it. the best solution will be to know which of your friend r for nice times and which realy care about u, those for nice time should never b asked for advice, cause they either give u what u want or a solution that will put u in the same position as them. I also dont trust family when it comes to relationship issues they alwys say something that sound right when u still angry only to realise many yers down the line that famill gave u a biased solution
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Aug 24, 2012

KB_DUPS

Hey go to hell, u illtreat him,you will see...there so many women that need men out there. They will take the opportunity...This is nothing compared to what is happening out there...i wish you were my wife...maybe u r looking very far...your sister is doing with him,how can she recognize the change...wake up...
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Aug 24, 2012

cat$

love him, but I have no doubt that if we didn't have a child I would have left him.
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you sound like a typical black woman- if you want to leave then do that and stop making excuss by the way,if you cheated he was going to leave u with that child. and now he knows that even if he cheats on you again you will never leave him---typical BLACK WOMAN-
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

MaezizstoAgain4sure
Ke ya exile ga ke jika I am blocked ya life e bothebelele neh

SWEETYK-Dumela sfefenki santse ke batla go ja nyy0 ya gago e be ke e konopa ka legwenya ga ke fetsa kikikikikikikikkikkikikikik

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Aaaaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh DIEZI aka MPANDLANA KASHISHIBOYA long time long hear. Ao bathong TWEBA YA SENATLA, make sure gore o nka MANYAZINI ga o ya exile gore ga o tshwarwa ke ................. o nwe MAGONATSOTLHE. VOTSEK ka Seswati.
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Aug 24, 2012

nEVUS414

fede boy hai tsa go gwenya di back payyy.
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Aug 24, 2012

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

@And then

Why do you take every word i utter/write literally??

"strategising attack" figure of speech! Now i know - i should "tackle" you with kid gloves!

My seduction scenario...was just an example of how some women are out there! Not necessarily me...but there are female sharks out there who don't tap into the "emotional" aspect that you guys delude yourselves about women with. They are all about their sexual gratification...period!


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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

spekepeke1
SWEETYK

I'm dumedising you and wena you decide to didimala on me
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Iyoooooooooo Skepe wheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee o reng feela Lovies, no I didn't utlwa you I'm very sorry my love. Ba teng ba bantsi yang mo blogong ba nkaba irang yalo for wena ga kena reason to do that.
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Aug 24, 2012

spekepeke1

Skopokopo

I'm out - have a gr8 weekend
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Aug 24, 2012

LESSON-1

@Skopokopo
Leave Mokwepa and his Report Abuse day shift, he just got paid 2day via shop-rite money market and he’s feeling so excited cos he's gonna buy a new pair of kayo star-

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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

@ Skopokopo
Frendo who will tell gore he ate your cake, where is the sign, the slip or documents? Eating someone's cake isn't a position or promotion the fact remains is you are happy without him. Lala when we have sex we both feel different but nice and it takes 2 to tango. Tlogela HOSHKOSH aka KOLOI YA KGALE he wants you to feel small nxa!!.
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There wont be a slip frendo becos it happens when you are both sharing love and affection. When its over its over frendo. We do it because we agree on it. Why does others make you feel small because you are no more with a person?
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

Hosh6
Skopokopo
Isn't it you who said you were a virgin yesterday...I told you it's impossible for you to be a virgin dude.

SWEETYK
The won't be any sign that he ate the cake...but fact is he would know and she would know...geez dude you reason like a confused bitter scorned teenager.
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Open yesterday's article where Skopo told us that she is a virgin and read her comment where she answered my question about being a virgin!! then o tla didimala.

As for nna, nna teng ke tlhapile matsogo ga ke rate bana ba tshamekang ka dilo tsa batho ba bagolo. Bye ke ya go bona gore o NGODO. VOTSEK ka language ya kwalona if you know it.
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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

spekepeke1
Skopokopo

I'm out - have a gr8 weekend
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Why so early spekkie?
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

Moffdat
SWEETYK

My skad why give advise that is going to do more harm than good.
I tend to think favouring chiefs is not the only wrong decision you have made.
Don't fight the system my skad. Kea go rata en ge ke cheata doesn't take away from that okay!!!!

Kea go verstana sani wautlhwa!!!!!
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Moffkak

What is that advise? e go etsang o be o kenye chiefs mo gare.
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Aug 24, 2012

Moffdat

@Ladies

You have been brain washed by the west, selling you fairytales and promises of golden rainbows sold by a people who cannot exercise the truth of their illusions. Come back to earth where spiritual principals like integrity and trust have nothing to do with the physical.
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Aug 24, 2012

CYBORICO

Moffdat
MEN CHEAT BECAUSE... MEN CHEAT BECAUSE... I don't know but it is not because we don't care!!!


a good example of what i just said, Moffdat is a clever guy(i found out through reading what he posts here) but look at what he has to say about relationships, Moffdat cannot one second know the truth and then the next become blank, many of the things that he know to be right r subject to aproval by his friend especialyy social issues, if Moffdat is not the dorminant guy in his group of friend he is likely to toss out all the right things he know and gor for conformity soas to stay cool with his friends

the behaviour of conformity(call peer presure when we was still young) is a very common thing in humans, look at the corruption, everyone knows its a wrong thing, but fear of being labeled a fool for passing a chance for a quick buck leads to people doing all sorts of corruption

This blogs also provide a good example of conformity, where peopl will just agree with certain people becoz either they know them, have better status than them, or to please others, or based on fear of being on the other side while everyone is across, some agree just because ke mkhaya who spoke,

Moffdat I hope u dont take offence here, i just used your post as an example of what we do everyday, throw out the values to stay cool with certain people
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Aug 24, 2012

And-Then

Makhosini0408
Thank you my brother, woman are victims because of the society & communities they were brought up in, not because of my actions and how I choose to live my life. Are you aware that woman agree with men that they can cheat with them, I can tell a woman right now to her face that i am in a committed relationship, she will say its fine and we can continue the affair, but then turn around and say i am messing with her feelings and emotions, knowing that the facts has been brought to her attention, why then am I still seen as the bad one, when i was honest & open with you from the beginning.
Lastly, woman should start taking full responsibility for relationships/marriages that has broken down and/or are failing as well. Society allows woman to shift the blame completely over to the man for a broken marriage and plays pity party with her, knowing full well that she was also at fault for the relationship issues....Why are woman being given so much leeway in marriages....I dont believe in marriage...but i will not be told how to live my life either......if i wana eat....i will eat....and there is nothing she can do about....bcos she is aware and i was honest with her.

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Aug 24, 2012

McLoving

@I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o
I have had a married woman texted me messages that she had a dream making love to me.Now at first I did'nt know how to react or say to her.
She became impatient that I was not able to read the book.Then she sent me another text and said."when are we going to....." she left the blank space for me to complete..I was not sure about her innuendos..but after a couple of days going out with her ,,it was blatantly obvious that there was no spark in her marriage.
I don't know who is using who for sex now..Women as intelligent as they are sometimes baya baiza straight,,nna ke ya ja now ,,baie goed nie bietjie nie..married women make the world go round in circles.
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Aug 24, 2012

And-Then

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o
@And then

Why do you take every word i utter/write literally??

"strategising attack" figure of speech! Now i know - i should "tackle" you with kid gloves!

My seduction scenario...was just an example of how some women are out there! Not necessarily me...but there are female sharks out there who don't tap into the "emotional" aspect that you guys delude yourselves about women with. They are all about their sexual gratification...period!

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agreed.......now for that kissing lesson you promised....?
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

Hosh6

SWEETYK
The won't be any sign that he ate the cake...but fact is he would know and she would know...geez dude you reason like a confused bitter scorned teenager.
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This reasoning is from Bra Dudu wa ko Zimbabwe.
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Aug 24, 2012

spekepeke1

Skopokopo

Will be waiting on that in our pozi
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Aug 24, 2012

LESSON-1

@Moffdat

Tell me are you married, or o sa jola jola around ?
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Aug 24, 2012

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

@McLoving
@I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o
It's evidence based that women are more intelligent than men.Even at school girls used to get top marks than boys.Wether we like it or not it's a known fact.When it comes to relationships I think women always loose the plot.
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We don;t lose the plot! We just become over passionate in the feelings you guys evoke in us. What needs to happen is that some women need to understand thatmen work on a different dynamic to women! Once we can achieve that...then we'll find some common ground!


I have seen many women bloggers on the site been against polygamy..but you ask yourself,,,with whom does a man get into a polygomous relationship..answer is ...a woman.we have seen women falling for married men ,,not that they found out later, knowing very well but they still get involved with married men.
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Well i'd be surprised if a man got involved in a polygomous relationship with another man...but don't discount it - it could still happen!

I seriously belive that women who find themselves in relationships with married men, or in polygomous relationships suffer some form of self esteem issues or are just pushing their own agenda! Not that it's a fact - just running my mouth with my own oppinion! Any sane thinking person would never find themselves in that type of situation unless money was a factor or psychological woes!

Another eg.We have seen women campaiging against nudity that's on the media and telly..but you ask yourself again ,,,who pose naked in the media? you find very same women half naked and most of all the explicit material on the media, women are involved...
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In regards to this point...i can't give you an answer - cause as much as i think a women's nude body is beautiful - i wouldn't find myself posing for nudy pics or sending pics of myself to anyone!
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Now we do we draw the line?

Yep! I think we can do that......line drawn__________________________________________!
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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

LESSON-1
@Skopokopo
Leave Mokwepa and his Report Abuse day shift, he just got paid 2day via shop-rite money market and he’s feeling so excited cos he's gonna buy a new pair of kayo star-
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But Makhi nawe you swaer too much maan. Makhi who is the Gogo with induku was leaving your house this morning? i saw you looking around as if you were checking no one sees her when she leaves? i saw her makhi.
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

@ Speke

You see now, I'm dumedising you back you didimal.
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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

spekepeke1
Skopokopo

Will be waiting on that in our pozi
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going there
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

Skopokopo
LESSON-1
@Skopokopo
Leave Mokwepa and his Report Abuse day shift, he just got paid 2day via shop-rite money market and he’s feeling so excited cos he's gonna buy a new pair of kayo star-
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But Makhi nawe you swaer too much maan. Makhi who is the Gogo with induku was leaving your house this morning? i saw you looking around as if you were checking no one sees her when she leaves? i saw her makhi.
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Gogo MaDhlamini kikikikikikikikikikiki tltltltltlttltllttlltlt frendo o ndaba kante. LOL
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Aug 24, 2012

TKay

You are a stupid and insecure married woman, why was your sister too observant of your husband? you listened to her and acted and now she is the very same person who is telling you to get over yourself. Rule number 1, you must never check your partners phone if you are not willing to live them after you find out the bad news, rule number 2, dont act on what people say, rule number 3, have a backbone. now like your sister said, the very same one who made you aware of your husband obsertion with his cellphone - get over yourself if you are not willing to live him
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Aug 24, 2012

LESSON-1

@Skopokopo
@LESSON-1
@Skopokopo
Leave Mokwepa and his Report Abuse day shift, he just got paid 2day via shop-rite money market and he’s feeling so excited cos he's gonna buy a new pair of kayo star-
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But Makhi nawe you swaer too much maan. Makhi who is the Gogo with induku was leaving your house this morning? i saw you looking around as if you were checking no one sees her when she leaves? i saw her makhi.
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She claims to be your lost granny and i took her to Khumbul'Ekhaya's offices- so be prepared
Skopo swear to who if i may ask ?
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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

But Makhi nawe you swaer too much maan. Makhi who is the Gogo with induku was leaving your house this morning? i saw you looking around as if you were checking no one sees her when she leaves? i saw her makhi.
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Gogo MaDhlamini kikikikikikikikikikiki tltltltltlttltllttlltlt frendo o ndaba kante. LOL
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Kikikikikikikikik i saw her makhi, i was opening my curtains frendo kikikikiki Makhi is a player!
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Aug 24, 2012

And-Then

Skopokopo and Spekepeke1

i think its quite obvious you are the same person
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Aug 24, 2012

Moffdat

daai moesk0nd u buile!!!
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I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

McLoving
@I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o
I have had a married woman texted me messages that she had a dream making love to me.Now at first I did'nt know how to react or say to her.
She became impatient that I was not able to read the book.Then she sent me another text and said."when are we going to....." she left the blank space for me to complete..I was not sure about her innuendos..but after a couple of days going out with her ,,it was blatantly obvious that there was no spark in her marriage.
I don't know who is using who for sex now..Women as intelligent as they are sometimes baya baiza straight,,nna ke ya ja now ,,baie goed nie bietjie nie..married women make the world go round in circles.
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Prime example of my point McLoving!

All she wants to have you do is bonk her brains out...is there any emotional attachment or psychological impairment! Nope, just a woman who's experiencing a high libido and needs to be tapped...thank God that there's men like you, McLoving who can step up to the plate and take on that responsibilty!
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Aug 24, 2012

salvation911

@MOKWEPA

and you know they say manyalo a young people never last but i dissagree im 24 married at 21 to a 25yr old and i am planning to stay married for many more years to come, it wont be easy i know.

@CYBORICO
look im not holding a gun to her head to forgive her husban, if she feels she doesnt want to then so be it. and the bible doesnt say forgive those that wants to be forgiven anyway thats your opinion and i respect that. she wont find peace if she doesnt forgive the guy and going through divorce wont be an easy way either coz she loves him. if you say she must stay mad and hurt then wow i dont know what to say, she cant purnish herself or her husband for this forever. and what u saying are not fact my brother they are your opinions. i trust God to give me solutions and he always does

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Aug 24, 2012

LESSON-1

@Moffdat

Tell me are you married, or o sa jola jola around ?

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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

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She claims to be your lost granny and i took her to Khumbul'Ekhaya's offices- so be prepared
Skopo swear to who if i may ask ?
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To many here Makhi
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Aug 24, 2012

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

@And -Then
agreed.......now for that kissing lesson you promised....?

I'm not going to make it easy for you. Sorry!
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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

And-Then
Skopokopo and Spekepeke1
i think its quite obvious you are the same person
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No we are not
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Aug 24, 2012

Hosh6

SWEETYK
I wasnt evens talking to you why are you f*ucking replying to my comments...who made you Skopokopo's spokesperson...you f*ucking irritating dude.

Skopokopo
I like your honesty...you a good woman.
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Aug 24, 2012

Makhosini0408

And-Then
Makhosini0408
Thank you my brother, woman are victims because of the society & communities they were brought up in, not because of my actions and how I choose to live my life. Are you aware that woman agree with men that they can cheat with them, I can tell a woman right now to her face that i am in a committed relationship, she will say its fine and we can continue the affair, but then turn around and say i am messing with her feelings and emotions, knowing that the facts has been brought to her attention, why then am I still seen as the bad one, when i was honest & open with you from the beginning.
Lastly, woman should start taking full responsibility for relationships/marriages that has broken down and/or are failing as well. Society allows woman to shift the blame completely over to the man for a broken marriage and plays pity party with her, knowing full well that she was also at fault for the relationship issues....Why are woman being given so much leeway in marriages....I dont believe in marriage...but i will not be told how to live my life either......if i wana eat....i will eat....and there is nothing she can do about....bcos she is aware and i was honest with her.
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I hear you loud and clear. Your honesty is much appreciated. Thanxs.

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Aug 24, 2012

MGEEZ

Girlllllllll; you driving me crazy as i am reading your letter!!! Why are you stillthere???Leave the Bastard; he does not deserve you!!!
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Aug 24, 2012

And-Then

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

My type of woman, did u see my post on the article about female turn off's,if not, here goes!

If a woman is horny in my presence, i will do the manly thing and satisfy her needs to the best of my ability, not all the time, just randomly. At the same time an easy to get woman is a major turn off for me, I luv a woman who makes me work for it, who pushes me to be creative, who allows me the oppotunity to get to know her, all of her, thats my type of woman. Not a horny one
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Aug 24, 2012

hiddengold

I have always believed that our relationship is perfect.
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This is the problem right here no one is perfect if you realised in the people that people naturally make mistakes it would not be so difficult to forgive your husband.
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LESSON-1

@Skopokopo

so, you dnt mean 2day- you mean for the p@st d0nkeys days ago ?C'mon now
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Hosh6

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o
I also can help you....hala at me should you need any help...Oom Mcloving isn't the only one who has a high sex drive.
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hiddengold

She is going to stay with him I know these women they like to be called Mrs. no matter how unhappy they are
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And-Then

Makhosini0408

Very diplomatic I must add......do you believe in divorce...?
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babyfats

lol sowetan final u did change dat picture yaaa ne uyamamela maan
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SWEETYK

Hosh6
SWEETYK
I wasnt evens talking to you why are you f*ucking replying to my comments...who made you Skopokopo's spokesperson...you f*ucking irritating dude.

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Batho ba go tshwana le w3na ke ya baitsi ga ke qala go utlwa ka w3na mo blogong o qadile o carra taba tsaka now today ke w3na o llang Votsek maan HOSSH!!!TTT
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salvation911

@hiddengold

This is the problem right here no one is perfect if you realised in the people that people naturally make mistakes it would not be so difficult to forgive your husband.

THANK YOU GIRL! and even if she can go to another man, he wil also make mistakes and at the end you'll have slept with 50 men looking for a perfect non existing guy
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Skopokopo

@Hosh6

Skopokopo
I like your honesty...you a good woman.
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Thanks, i know what you said is what all men think all the time, it doesnt matter i ate cake, forgetting the cake was eaten out of love.


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I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

@And-Then

I saw it!
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Moffdat

CYBORICO
No offence taken!
I think you will find what is considered right and wrong amongst a group of people depends on what is 'contra bona mores'.
I consider living in the real world an element of myself i highly admire and my greatest strength.
I believe my comments are a reflection of the world we all live in and i feel i am the only one willing to accept this as a blessing! By the look of everyone elses comments it seems they are the ones conforming.

I will not judge you for your beliefs and principals. Even though I may not willfully comprehend your philosophy but i do not impede you practice. The question is... will you extend me the same courtesy!
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Kitsoboswa

Men are all the same, tame him, better the devil you know than the angels you never met. The problem with us ladies it making noise, just keep quite and pretend nothing happened, then you will see what happens. He will be home at 1700hrs after knocking off at 1630hrs.
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Moffdat

SWEETYK

u lathla bana babang
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LESSON-1

@Moffdat

Tell me are you married, or o sa jola jola around ?


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Makhosini0408

And-Then
Makhosini0408

Very diplomatic I must add......do you believe in divorce...?
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Yes baba. It is a fact that some marriages unfortunately will end in a divorce. It is better than being in a loveless marriage. I think Isaac Hayes hit the nail when he sings about a one big unhappy family, that is too proud to let it show. I also do not subscribe to the outdated knowledge that one needs to persevere in marriage. I refuse to settle for less.
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And-Then

I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o

you actually dont come across as a challenge either.
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Moffdat

my laaitie ureng son?
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CYBORICO

McLoving
@I.n.c.o.g.n.i.t.o
I have had a married woman texted me messages that she had a dream making love to me.Now at first I did'nt know how to react or say to her.
She became impatient that I was not able to read the book.Then she sent me another text and said."when are we going to....." she left the blank space for me to complete..I was not sure about her innuendos..but after a couple of days going out with her ,,it was blatantly obvious that there was no spark in her marriage.
I don't know who is using who for sex now..Women as intelligent as they are sometimes baya baiza straight,,nna ke ya ja now ,,baie goed nie bietjie nie..married women make the world go round in circles.


its stuff like this that u dont post here, the millions of fools on the blogs will be saying, that Mcloving guy alwys have good things to post on the blogs but confesed to cheating, hence evry baru can cheat as we all have weaknesses, cheating is something u dont go around talking about, corruption is another that u keep to youself
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MGEEZ

I say Divorce the player and ignore those who claim that men are all the same, because by that ignorant statement alone, they have just proven that indeed they know not what they are talking about!!!
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Moffdat

LESSON-1
@Moffdat

Tell me are you married, or o sa jola jola around ?
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ke sa jola jola le mmao!!!! mogwethe!!!! None of your business my homosexual hobo
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SWEETYK

Moffdat
SWEETYK

u lathla bana babang
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Ka eng ga o sa arabe this time o tla nthola gantle ka gore you're accusing me.
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DarkAngel29

yaaah neh,Sistas we can all say what ever we wanna say but decision is yours.is about time u use your brains not heart then you take a decision.and dont listen to everything ye e bolelago ke batho.ba bagwe mo bona haaa o kare ba advicer ka *******.kganthe botho ke ntho ejwanggggg?
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LESSON-1

@Moffdat

i ask you a simple question and wena wa rogana >>><<
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Aug 24, 2012

1937

All roads leads to Orlando stadium tomorrow night..

09:00 - Wake up and wear my 2011/12 Orlando Pirates t-shirt
09:15 - Take a shower and prepare my cereal with 3 teaspoons, representing the treble we won
10:00 - Take my car for a nice wash and wax @ the local car-wash
10:05 - Walk across the road to the liquor-store for some ice for the cooler & 6-pack
11:00 - Head home to take wifey to the mall for lunch and some sh0pping
16:00 - Drop off wifey @ friends place
16:30 - Call fellow DTC members and meet up for "voice-warming"
17:00 - Hit the liquor store and fill-up the tables.. Count the empties.. (15 yr old on my lap)
17:30 - Hit the M5 heading to Soweto with my fellow DTC's chanting Amabhakhaniya hyms
18:30 - Arrive @ Orlando Stadium, where dreams come true
22:00 - Finish off 15 yr old in celebration of yet another victory by Orlando Pirates
00:00 - Fetch wifey from friends & call it a successful day...

.....The life of a Back-To-Back Treble supporting fan.....

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Moffdat

MGEEZ
I say Divorce the player and ignore those who claim that men are all the same, because by that ignorant statement alone, they have just proven that indeed they know not what they are talking about!!!
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Let me guess you are probably a man between 20-30. A christian, who went to an english medium school and grow up near a booming metropolis?
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Hosh6

Sowetan what happened to my comments?
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SWEETYK

Makhosini0408
And-Then
Makhosini0408

Very diplomatic I must add......do you believe in divorce...?
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Yes baba. It is a fact that some marriages unfortunately will end in a divorce. It is better than being in a loveless marriage. I think Isaac Hayes hit the nail when he sings about a one big unhappy family, that is too proud to let it show. I also do not subscribe to the outdated knowledge that one needs to persevere in marriage. I refuse to settle for less.
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I always tell people that we must teach ourselves to give credit were is due, then you will learn something or two 2 those people. Big up boss o skhokho.

We always say things will be OK oneday of which the very same things getting worse today and everyday. I don't know that you will understand Setswana theres a say ereng " SETLHARE SA MUSI KE GO O KATOGA". O BOSSO SON, when ever I read your comment I know I'll get something STIMULATING. May the loving God bless you.
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Moffdat

SWEETYK

what do you think women can do as a response to cheating??
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CYBORICO


@Moffdat
No offence taken!
I think you will find what is considered right and wrong amongst a group of people depends on what is 'contra bona mores'.
I consider living in the real world an element of myself i highly admire and my greatest strength.
I believe my comments are a reflection of the world we all live in and i feel i am the only one willing to accept this as a blessing! By the look of everyone elses comments it seems they are the ones conforming.

I will not judge you for your beliefs and principals. Even though I may not willfully comprehend your philosophy but i do not impede you practice. The question is... will you extend me the same courtesy!

Moff i am no saint bro, i am just against wronging and defending it, i dont want people to stop cheating if they want to, not everyone is marriage material i know and have accepted that, what i am against is those who chose that life of not carring to come tell us all this stuff as if its right, having chosen that life of being a fraud dont make fraud right, hence i say do your fraud but when u get the chance preach the right stuff? so I will never judge u on how u leave your life Moff until such a time when your choice of life affects my choice
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SWEETYK

Moffdat
SWEETYK

what do you think women can do as a response to cheating??
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O ntshwarisa tlhogo.
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And-Then

Makhosini0408
There is light, thank you, there is light at last, Then why do christians/believers and born-again people continue to settle for less in marriages, including pastors insisting that woman should not leave their husband's and vice versa, because the bible clearly states that god hates divorce.

Can we then concur that christianity is at the forefront for unhappy marriages, because it goes against the notion of man & woman pursuing their individual happiness when being hard done in marriage....the bible clearly states that the only premise for divorce is sexual immorality, yet when that happens, family, communities and religious folk will try and convince you not to terminate the marriage...is that not living and teaching a contradicting lifestyle.

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Makhosini0408

SWEETYK
Makhosini0408
And-Then
Makhosini0408

Very diplomatic I must add......do you believe in divorce...?
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Yes baba. It is a fact that some marriages unfortunately will end in a divorce. It is better than being in a loveless marriage. I think Isaac Hayes hit the nail when he sings about a one big unhappy family, that is too proud to let it show. I also do not subscribe to the outdated knowledge that one needs to persevere in marriage. I refuse to settle for less.
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I always tell people that we must teach ourselves to give credit were is due, then you will learn something or two 2 those people. Big up boss o skhokho.

We always say things will be OK oneday of which the very same things getting worse today and everyday. I don't know that you will understand Setswana theres a say ereng " SETLHARE SA MUSI KE GO O KATOGA". O BOSSO SON, when ever I read your comment I know I'll get something STIMULATING. May the loving God bless you.
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Eish, I am humbled sisi. Thank you very much. I always attempt to look at the bigger picture. God bless you too.

Yes I do understand Setswana. My w!fe is Motswana.
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Moffdat

CYBORICO

I will not judge you for your beliefs and principals. Even though I may not willfully comprehend your philosophy but i do not impede you practice. The question is... will you extend me the same courtesy!
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I believe my comments reflect the truth and a realness any picture perfect Hollywood setting can never comprehend!!! Everytime i hear people talk love they always mention the great things. When their partner is charasmatic, loving and kind. They mention the good in them which every human can deal with. But experience will tell you that that's not what love is about. Love is about the worst in a person!!! If you can deal with that than you are in love.
Women are taught to relish an inconcievable love. HOLLYWOOD love!!!!
I am all about REAL love and all it's glorious flaws
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Moffdat

SWEETYK

Wa blofa?
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Hosh6

SWEETYK
Moffdat
SWEETYK

what do you think women can do as a response to cheating??
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O ntshwarisa kuku.
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Sies man
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And-Then

1937

So you gonna take a shower with your 2011/2012 pirates t-shirt on.....you made my day....!
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LESSON-1

@Moffdat

So, you passed matric by Supplementary or you dropouts ?

Till Monday BOSO- Clock tick - tocking to Chaf Pozi


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Moffdat

Lesson1

lol. nnyam mmao my laaitie. lol
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THEmadame2B-BBEE

hey Moff, still going to India, I'm jetting to Kigali (Rwanda), next week should i make arrangements*wink*
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Kabelo10

New Canada (Pennyville) Ziyakhipha tomorrow and next weekend. You all Invited, just come and ask for Kabelo, youll be served.
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Skopokopo

What causes erectional dysfuction?
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MGEEZ

@And-Then
It is always better that we speak about things which we have knowledge of, i get the impression that you are trying to dis-Christianity for some reason or the other. You correctly state that Christianity does allow divorce where there is sexual immorality (which is the case in this story) but yet you go on and try to present Christianity as an inhibiting factor for people's happiness!!!! Please stick to the story at hand and leave Christianity alone, because from the little that you wrote about it, it is evident that one you either know very little of nothing at all about it!!!
Back to the story:
Once again i say to the young woman; what are you waiting for? Divorce the fool!!!
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Makhosini0408

And-Then
Makhosini0408
There is light, thank you, there is light at last, Then why do christians/believers and born-again people continue to settle for less in marriages, including pastors insisting that woman should not leave their husband's and vice versa, because the bible clearly states that god hates divorce.

Can we then concur that christianity is at the forefront for unhappy marriages, because it goes against the notion of man & woman pursuing their individual happiness when being hard done in marriage....the bible clearly states that the only premise for divorce is sexual immorality, yet when that happens, family, communities and religious folk will try and convince you not to terminate the marriage...is that not living and teaching a contradicting lifestyle.
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I wish I know the answer to your question. They are entitled to their views and interpretation of the Holy Book. My view is that some of us, Christians, are so holy than thou, that we are consumed by the spirit that make us believe that we are the custodians of Christianity and that God consults us in any decision that He makes. I once said something controversial that some marriages are based on lies and some (iqinisiwe noma iyakwezelwa) by that I mean one partner uses muthi, so that the other one must not leave him/her or to make the bond strong. Do you want me to stay in that relationship even if I do not believe in muti?

One scripture that some of us Christians loves to forget or ignore that in Johm 3 verse 17 says that Christ came not to condemn the world but that the world must be saved through Him. People are afraid to be divorced because of the stigmatisation. If it does not work, why sacrifice your own happiness for a status. I think this acting needs to stop and we need to be realistic, as realtionships are complex.
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Hosh6

Skopokopo
What causes erectional dysfuction
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Stinking p*ussy
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Makhosini0408

And-Then
Makhosini0408
There is light, thank you, there is light at last, Then why do christians/believers and born-again people continue to settle for less in marriages, including pastors insisting that woman should not leave their husband's and vice versa, because the bible clearly states that god hates divorce.

Can we then concur that christianity is at the forefront for unhappy marriages, because it goes against the notion of man & woman pursuing their individual happiness when being hard done in marriage....the bible clearly states that the only premise for divorce is sexual immorality, yet when that happens, family, communities and religious folk will try and convince you not to terminate the marriage...is that not living and teaching a contradicting lifestyle.
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I wish I know the answer to your question. They are entitled to their views and interpretation of the Holy Book. My view is that some of us, Christians, are so holy than thou, that we are consumed by the spirit that make us believe that we are the custodians of Christianity and that God consults us in any decision that He makes. I once said something controversial that some marriages are based on lies and some (iqinisiwe noma iyakwezelwa) by that I mean one partner uses muthi, so that the other one must not leave him/her or to make the bond strong. Do you want me to stay in that relationship even if I do not believe in m.uti?

One scripture that some of us Christians loves to forget or ignore that in Johm 3 verse 17 says that Christ came not to condemn the world but that the world must be saved through Him. People are afraid to be divorced because of the stigmatisation. If it does not work, why sacrifice your own happiness for a status. I think this acting needs to stop and we need to be realistic, as realtionships are complex.
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Moffdat

THEmadame2B-BBEE

I envy you so much i wish i could travel as much as you do. Arrangements would be lovely
skad *poke*
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Skopokopo

Hosh6
Skopokopo
What causes erectional dysfuction
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Stinking p*ussy
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Hai soka hoshy im serious here
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CYBORICO

Moffdat
I believe my comments reflect the truth and a realness any picture perfect Hollywood setting can never comprehend!!! Everytime i hear people talk love they always mention the great things. When their partner is charasmatic, loving and kind. They mention the good in them which every human can deal with. But experience will tell you that that's not what love is about. Love is about the worst in a person!!! If you can deal with that than you are in love.
Women are taught to relish an inconcievable love. HOLLYWOOD love!!!!
I am all about REAL love and all it's glorious flaws

yes indeed but we need to also be considerate for our women, they first were subject to their mothers teaching of relationships(the old outdated ways) and then holliwood(the fake stuff) and then there is us b.onking everthing that moves, then there r their frinds confusing them some more, so it might be that we r agravating the situation as men by failing to understand where women come from(please dont think i am being chauvinist here, i am talking for whatever is left of the real women, izifebe have made their choice, the same as what many a many have chosen) so condoning cheating or openly admiting will lead to more confusion, women will end up really loosing trust in us or relationships, the truth being we can afford to have loosecannons of men but we cannot afford loose cannon women, to me the females make and brake the community, men have always had one or two loose bolts
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THEmadame2B-BBEE

Skopo..........
too much copper in one's system,

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SWEETYK

Skopokopo
What causes erectional dysfuction?
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Matekwana/Patje frendo
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Sir.JT

Going through some comments I can see how clueless about men some ladies are.

Once a man have cheated, he'll never stop. That feeling of screwing another man's cookie is so sweet. sweeter that sweet itself. especialy wen the lady has different feature than your partner's.

I remember one day attempting a dog style le cheri e ngwe ya go paka blind... ka rota before ke fakela....

Hey, imagine nkabe e tsene!

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Skopokopo

@the madam2B and Sweetyk,
Thank You, I have a frend who says her man has this problem.She says touching and playing would be fine and she would see and feel it is hard when it is to get in, it dies immediately and become weak.
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GODESS

Ai! nna yena i learned the hard, lost someone i loved dearly 3 yrs ago and since then i have never and will never tamper with a man's phone.So my advise is to keep and make your man happy...stay away from his phone. silence and smile r 2 powerful tools, smile is the way solve many problems and silence is the way to avoid many troubles
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THEmadame2B-BBEE

oh, yeah, SKOPO, the dude must elimintae food that are high in copper like avocado, etc., my man tried that and it works, now he can hold his eraction for hours, PLEASURE at its best,
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Hosh6

SWEETYK
You made I smoke weed and don't have that problem

Skopokopo
But it's true smelly p*ussy is a total turn off.
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Moffdat

CYBORICO

This is the world we live in and you ignore the facts to your detriment.

Men are taught at a young age to never trust anything or anyone. To be self reliant.
Women cry foul all the time because they are taught the opposite. It is not only men who betray women but women betray other women! More often than men... how many time do you feel like your girlfriends friend is making a pass at you?
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Skopokopo

Skopokopo
But it's true smelly p*ussy is a total turn off.
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Smelly as it is,enter there!
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Moffdat

Skopokopo
@the madam2B and Sweetyk,
Thank You, I have a frend who says her man has this problem.She says touching and playing would be fine and she would see and feel it is hard when it is to get in, it dies immediately and become weak.
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maybe your friend needs to lose some weight!!!!
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Skopokopo

Moffdat
Skopokopo
@the madam2B and Sweetyk,
Thank You, I have a frend who says her man has this problem.She says touching and playing would be fine and she would see and feel it is hard when it is to get in, it dies immediately and become weak.
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maybe your friend needs to lose some weight!!!!
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She is not big, her man has a problem
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Mbelewolwazi

She must get over it or ship out and see if she will find a saint. I cheated about 31 times and was caught only two times. I decided to be a good husband on my own volition when I turned 40. Now life is peaceful and very good. Men do grow up.
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THEmadame2B-BBEE

Moff, and Skopo,
......weight is also a factor, but when he starts cutting down on the copper foods, eventually it will go off, I see that with my man, he last longer in bed, f2ks better and harder, and damn he is even building a few muscles.

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THEmadame2B-BBEE

u have HIV
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Hosh6

Skopokopo
Some men have respect for themselves...what your friend is doing is not on...how can she disrespect her man like that?You now thinking that he is weak.
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MaezizstoAgain4sure

test
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MaezizstoAgain4sure

Skopokopo-Wa njolla wena neh?Wa reng net my sweedat

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MaezizstoAgain4sure

Eish mshemane ntse ke thaedegile ka hiso moer di a boa
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CYBORICO

Moffdat
CYBORICO

This is the world we live in and you ignore the facts to your detriment.

Men are taught at a young age to never trust anything or anyone. To be self reliant.
Women cry foul all the time because they are taught the opposite. It is not only men who betray women but women betray other women! More often than men... how many time do you feel like your girlfriends friend is making a pass at you?

they do that al the time but that dont change me, actually i enjoy the cold sholders i give them, as it puts me in control of the situation, many women belive men cannot refuse when offerd kuku, bro i enjoy the confused look when the finaly see that they r dealing with a different breed of a man, dont get me wrong, i luv koko, s much that i try to get it daily, but to me the kuku comes in a box, if the box is not wrapped accordingly i simply am not interested in whats inside, lucky for me i already have the box wraped according to my liking, hence i see no need to go around touching other people bodily fluids, i always feel dirty afterwards
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Mbelewolwazi

The condoms were already in existence and in abundance. Playing by the rules was the key. One night I we ran out of condoms and this chick said she did not mind flesh on flesh. I flatly refused.
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Polygyny101

At least my wife understand that I want a second wife. One wife is not enough for most men.
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MGEEZ

@All
Reading many of the comments on this blog; I can understand why we have such high prevalence rate of HIV/AIDS in this country than any other country in africa (in numbers of-course!!! We are morally bankrupt as a nation!!! Have absolutely no sense of what is right or wrong!!!
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nEVUS414

wa jiya le thotse di back paay ka labone wa vele tsenya sick
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MaezizstoAgain4sure

MGEEZ-Not everyone is as perfect as you are sir.

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KEBATLALEPIPITLANE

What ever u do don't leave ur husband for a lousy SMS,remember stay away from his phone.
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pierre2012

@svavava
all men do that, so give it time, u'll knw when u have forgiven him
@ Onthatile
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Not all men are cheaters and not all women are angels!!!!!!!!!!! It depends on individuals, so plz don't over-generalise
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MaezizstoAgain4sure

kikikikikikiki o cho after ke thola zaka ke vela ke lofe?
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pierre2012

@THEmadame2B-BBEE
Moff, and Skopo,
......weight is also a factor, but when he starts cutting down on the copper foods, eventually it will go off, I see that with my man, he last longer in bed, f2ks better and harder, and damn he is even building a few muscles.
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Thanks for sharing with others your info. Mara how long does he last?

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SWEETYK

Skopokopo
@the madam2B and Sweetyk,
Thank You, I have a frend who says her man has this problem.She says touching and playing would be fine and she would see and feel it is hard when it is to get in, it dies immediately and become weak.
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He must contact a Herbalist this is stressing frendo. DI YA MOTJHELA VELE lala? (Is he smoking dagga?)
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MGEEZ

@MaezizstoAgain4sure
MGEEZ-Not everyone is as perfect as you are sir.
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I am certainly not perfect; never made such a claim!!! But surely you do not need to be perfect to know the difference between right and wrong!!!
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Aug 24, 2012

CYBORICO

Moffdat
CYBORICO

This is the world we live in and you ignore the facts to your detriment.

the above statement Moff is not u leaving your life, but u reacting to the so called real world, your friends, your dad, or someone u trust told u this and u followed suit, which is the reason why i say dont preach the wrong just becoz u've been wronged b4, currently the real world situation is geting worse becuse we r all reactive to a istuation we have not faced yet, many man bilieve women cheat and r gud at hiding it, so they choose to cheat first. we r messing with a gud thing and not knowing it, i dont have a problem with having a loose relationship with as many girls as i want, but i want that to b known from the beggining, right now people make misrepresantation and build expectations on their partners only to find they never meant those things all they wanted was to get into someones undies
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Aug 24, 2012

THEmadame2B-BBEE

@pierre2012
............eish, yoh, forever (about 5 rounds), actually thinking about it now makes me, turn on my chair.

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Aug 24, 2012

MaezizstoAgain4sure

SWEETYK-Kopa go go nkga ko nyy0ng tuu my love.

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Aug 24, 2012

CYBORICO

Polygyny101
At least my wife understand that I want a second wife. One wife is not enough for most men.

I am a fan of this, not because i think men have more rights than women but i base it on our different needs, women at most cant handle their man's physical needs and they r not available 24/7 due to their chemistry, its just that in this morden world one will need to review isithembu and try to make it work for ourtime not like the olddays, like here in SA they have tried to put some legal aspects into it which is good but that has been done as a reaction to the suffering some women have to go through due to the man taking another wife
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Aug 24, 2012

MaezizstoAgain4sure

MGEEZ-Heee baba akere wena you are holly stop criticizing other people man akere wena o na le di morals so what.Not everybody can be like you ka e phenda dai ding or keng wa belaela nah
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Aug 24, 2012

Bizzabo

CYBORICO
people make misrepresantation and build expectations on their partners only to find they never meant those things all they wanted was to get into someones undies


difficult one but true...sometimes men are just driven by what they want irrespective of how they get it. the truth is there are principled women out there and if they know yu are in in for fun, they are just not going to give it up.so what do most men do, they simply lie to get laid
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Aug 24, 2012

MaezizstoAgain4sure

THEmadame2B-BBEE
@pierre2012
............eish, yoh, forever (about 5 rounds), actually thinking about it now makes me, turn on my chair.
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Would you just shut up already moer man.
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Aug 24, 2012

Bizzabo

THEmadame2B-BBEE
@pierre2012
............eish, yoh, forever (about 5 rounds), actually thinking about it now makes me, turn on my chair.

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stop lying wena maan! nxa
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

MGEEZ
@MaezizstoAgain4sure
MGEEZ-Not everyone is as perfect as you are sir.
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I am certainly not perfect; never made such a claim!!! But surely you do not need to be perfect to know the difference between right and wrong!!!
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@ MGEEZ

Ooooohhhhh thank you I love this, other people when you show them their mistakes they tend to think that you are perfect or Miss know them all as they like to say. "You do not need to be perfect to know the difference between right and wrong"!!! THANK YOU MGEEZ

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Aug 24, 2012

THEmadame2B-BBEE

what the f2k is ur problem,
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Aug 24, 2012

THEmadame2B-BBEE

Bizzabo
hum, jealous down, just becasue u can't last 1 minute to save ur life, lazy ess Mother f2kers
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Aug 24, 2012

MaezizstoAgain4sure

Ke re shut the h'ell up man wa rasa o nyy0
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Aug 24, 2012

Bizzabo

He must be on some viagra then or something potent, no one will last 5 rounds unless he is still a teenager.
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Aug 24, 2012

pierre2012

@ GODESS
Ai! nna yena i learned the hard, lost someone i loved dearly 3 yrs ago and since then i have never and will never tamper with a man's phone.So my advise is to keep and make your man happy...stay away from his phone. silence and smile r 2 powerful tools, smile is the way solve many problems and silence is the way to avoid many troubles
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For such a problem, he should see a medical doctor - preferably with his wify. The cause may be pyschological, phyiscal, medical, etc. They will investigate and give him the correct therapy.
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Aug 24, 2012

Mbelewolwazi

I know for a fact that the majority of the guys are having multi affairs behind their ladies. The key for you ladies is to stress on condomizing especially if you are not married yet. Go for testing before you get married and know his and your status.
Cheating is immoral and causes bad luck. The blessings keep circulating above your head looking for a clear spot to settle in your heart. Once you stop cheating everything good comes your way. I am a witness to that. So guys stop cheating and strive for righteousness.
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Aug 24, 2012

KEBATLALEPIPITLANE

@SALVATION 911

O masadisadi,the is a few of ur kind in nowadays.

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Aug 24, 2012

Galfrend

Dumelang
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Aug 24, 2012

nEVUS414

vele ba baie ka hier ne ba tletse ko di doktheng.
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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

MaezizstoAgain4sure
Skopokopo-Wa njolla wena neh?Wa reng net my sweedat
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Hey sweedat, im fine and u. Why all these disguise with names maezi?
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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

Hosh6
Skopokopo
Some men have respect for themselves...what your friend is doing is not on...how can she disrespect her man like that?You now thinking that he is weak.
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She is not disrespecting him and i dont think he is weak
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

@ Galfrend

Why mara Lala, dumela le wena wa tla wa ipata ge,
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Aug 24, 2012

switrivenge

My dear sister, i dont know your age, but you talk like a naive twenty something. At least you have peeped into marriage and u now know the good and the bad about it.


Are you waiting to have a second, third and probably fourth child before you can start moving out of that non exisiting marriage. Phela uhlaliswe i status lapho. Listen to your instincts, uphume uphele lapho.

Commitment mustnt scare you, but commiting for a wrong reason will haunt you until you lay you to rest nge depression.

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Aug 24, 2012

Galfrend

Sweety - askies lala,nne ke le busy jwang. O rite mara my friendo. O jwang HUSBY?
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Aug 24, 2012

Galfrend

cat$
love him, but I have no doubt that if we didn't have a child I would have left him.
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you sound like a typical black woman- if you want to leave then do that and stop making excuss by the way,if you cheated he was going to leave u with that child. and now he knows that even if he cheats on you again you will never leave him---typical BLACK WOMAN-
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true. when you cheat,he wont stay.
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

Galfrend
Sweety - askies lala,nne ke le busy jwang. O rite mara my friendo. O jwang HUSBY?
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Hei Lala waitsi ga ke utlwa ditopic tse sona, I consider myself lucky. That is why ke re ko wena njalo ke re I pray and ke leboge Jehova gore ga ke so experience dilo tse mpe after this long time. HUSBY o right Lala cause ga ke le right le yena o right. I like it when you type his name. LOL
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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

Galfrend
Dumelang
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Dumela frendo, o jwang frendo.
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Aug 24, 2012

Ankiewamaezi

happy friday guys...
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Aug 24, 2012

MaezizstoAgain4sure

Hai mshemane o mpua pitlho santse ke phela kikikkikikikiki ntse ke thaedilwe ke spane boi.

Skopokopo-You friend Sweetk wa mpimpa ko sowetan akere.So ro nwa kae today

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Aug 24, 2012

MaezizstoAgain4sure

O tla nna o ntse o re dumelang yalo nna ake batle go dumela ke dumele eng gona tsek man.
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Aug 24, 2012

Mokwepa

Present!!
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Aug 24, 2012

Galfrend

Sweety - You are one lucky lady indeed. o motsware ka matsogo a fudumele my friend. basadi ba bangwe have it tough with men out there. so wena o blessed shame my friend and im happy for you.

Skopo - ke right frendo. okae monna wagago?
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Aug 24, 2012

1937

Where's Miss Sowetan @Cl!ck? Bloggs are a bit boring without her.
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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

Skopo - ke right frendo. okae monna wagago?
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He is around frendo, im looking for bride maids frendo, i think You and Sweetyk will be perfect for my big day.
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Aug 24, 2012

SWEETYK

@ GUYS

Let's turn this thing around and make it vis-versa, you are the one who got the message from your w!fe's phone. Akere this lady didn't explain further about the sms, so her sms says (the one you found her reading) " thanks for the great time we had, amusing and enjoyable sex, now I'm feeling safe in your hands and baby thanks for taking out stress on me I'll always love you C U 2moro.


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Aug 24, 2012

Galfrend

Skopo - hahahahaa nna brides maid..lol ke tlaba wedding planner friendo..


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Aug 24, 2012

MmaSeshego

Memme
" I love him, but I have no doubt that if we didn't have a child I would have left him."
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Come on now... I left my son's dad when i was three months pregnant and that was he best decision i could have made... staying in it for the children even though o miserable is the worst thing you ca ever do. Take care of you first so that you are well enough to take care of the ones around you
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Aug 24, 2012

Hosh6

MmaSeshego
You selfish dude...did you also take into account how the decision you took was going to affect your child?Next thing you blame men for abandoning their responsibilities.

SWEETYK
Wena you mad...a man would slaan his wife should he find those type of messages and there after file for divorce.
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Aug 24, 2012

CYBORICO

@Bizzabo

thats 100% correct, the so called p.layers f.ailing to play their game and opting for the first available solution, lies. Women also have this messed up attitude towards men makin a move on them, they want the men to s.pill all the b.eans about how they feel about them, and reality is that men make most of their moves because of what they saw, not how they feel, the fe.elings do come but that comes with time, innitially i am just testing my com.patibility with her only for her to want s.eriouseness from the word go, hence the reason they fail to leave us once they find out how b.ad we r. women also have the believe that man just leave without a reason, thats rong the guy le.aves because u r not what he wants but he had to get close in order to get to know u
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Aug 24, 2012

PKing

@MmaSesheo, the fact that you have Poor Relationship management skills and you are selfish and moreover used that man doesn't mean all ladies arelike you. It doesn't take money to raise a kid. You are just a failure like other women of calibre. So now have you found someone? posiibly No!
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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

SWEETYK
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Let's turn this thing around and make it vis-versa, you are the one who got the message from your w!fe's phone. Akere this lady didn't explain further about the sms, so her sms says (the one you found her reading) " thanks for the great time we had, amusing and enjoyable sex, now I'm feeling safe in your hands and baby thanks for taking out stress on me I'll always love you C U 2moro.
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No frend, the message is too revealing nd its divorce, rather say the message says" Thanks, we had a great time together,c u tomorrow" what would you react on this guys?
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Aug 24, 2012

PKing

@SweetyK, as a man I would be glad to such an SMS, and pull my socks up in terms of competition. I'll blow the vuvuzela day-in and day out and even go to an extend of buying the Amandla pill to make sure that I make love to her till she passes out so that she will never ever have the guts and energy to be chowed anywhere.
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Aug 24, 2012

Galfrend

SWEETYK
@ GUYS

Let's turn this thing around and make it vis-versa, you are the one who got the message from your w!fe's phone. Akere this lady didn't explain further about the sms, so her sms says (the one you found her reading) " thanks for the great time we had, amusing and enjoyable sex, now I'm feeling safe in your hands and baby thanks for taking out stress on me I'll always love you C U 2moro.
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that would be the beggining of the end of that marriage. men dont forgive.
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Aug 24, 2012

PKing

@Skopokopo, departure is never a solution because one will tend to leave every where there is a challenge, you look this sh.it trouble in the eye and perform your duties that will stop that no.nsense from recurring. Women are easy, if you f.uck her day in day out she'll be tamed.
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Aug 24, 2012

Galfrend

PKing
@SweetyK, as a man I would be glad to such an SMS, and pull my socks up in terms of competition. I'll blow the vuvuzela day-in and day out and even go to an extend of buying the Amandla pill to make sure that I make love to her till she passes out so that she will never ever have the guts and energy to be chowed anywhere.
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Its not always sex that can drive a woman to cheat.
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Aug 24, 2012

Skopokopo

PKing
@Skopokopo, departure is never a solution because one will tend to leave every where there is a challenge, you look this sh.it trouble in the eye and perform your duties that will stop that no.nsense from recurring. Women are easy, if you f.uck her day in day out she'll be tamed.
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i dont think you will take it so lightly King, men dont just forgive and if they do forgive they dont forget and the issue will be raised everytime there is a misunderstanding until divorce.
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Aug 24, 2012

Thandoliciousness

Dear you need to forgive i know it's difficult but forgive and forget and continue with your man... The thing is you have no guarantees that you will find someone faithful out there this things happen yes it's not fair learn to forgive completely Men cheat it's a fact it's a matter of being beautiful or how good you are in bed etc you can be all that but if Die moers want to cheat they will, don't let other woman destroy what you have fix things with your hubby.
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Aug 24, 2012

Skomoro99

Finding n sms is not proof that he s cheating,its normal for men 2 just write sms for fun.There is no story here.Just play yo part as a woman n stoping checkin on yo husband's fione 2 avoid thiz kinda problems coz i m sure yo fone has sum skeletons as well.
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Aug 24, 2012

Monzon.Dante

ha ha ha ha...is your man sister..deal with him...play your role or jump into another ship...we have nothing to assist you but to laugh out loud on your situation....stop relaxing and heat things up though...

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Aug 24, 2012

CYBORICO

The thing is you have no guarantees that you will find someone faithful out there this things happen yes it's not fair learn to forgive completely

the exact reason wh men will continue doing what they do, there r no repercursions for doing wrong, why women then want to be treated eqaully as man, or require the same respect is beginig to confuse me, why do u want people to respect u when u faile to respect and luv yourself. going back to a cheat, who has not shown any signs of regret or plans to change is just pure stupidity and a lack of self respect or dependensy on people who dont need u in return
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Aug 24, 2012

PKing

@Galfrend of course but if you tame a woman and she always know the she is gonna have 4 to 5 Orga.sams in one round she is gonna be distracted of doing anything like cheating, becaus ultimately she get f.ucked while looking for love or tender care.

@Skopokopo, when you grow-up you'll know that, it has always been like that. Some people have the fathers from next door but their mothers have survived all that. you know why, because mothers and especially dads were not weak to just let a beautiful thing (marriage) perish because of a simple thing. He would just pull the socks-up in the bedroom. and go chow other ladies as well.

@Thandolicious you are the man, woman.
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Aug 24, 2012

KEBATLALEPIPITLANE

She might see living as an option, forgeting that there are very few men who deos not cheat
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Aug 25, 2012

skwamasamabele

When a man buys flowers and chocolates, he is hiding something. I am speaking from experience, as I have 5 women on the go (by the way I live in London), i have to make sure they are not suspicious and my cell phone is password protected, so no snooping on my phone. Women have to understand men were born to cheat, there is no such thing as a loyal man, only izishimane that hang on to one woman for dear life, knowing if she left, he would have no purpose in life. I have 5 kids with three different baby-mothers and I have always cheated and looked after my bambinos, at the same time. Its called "Isithembu". WOMEN, GET OVER IT!!
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Aug 26, 2012

Mzalaz

Sesi,
No one can tell you if you should divorce your hubby or not, but it's up to you, this is your life so you should no better whats good for you. You are contradicting yrself here, you once said you had ups and down like in all other relationships and you could be both so hurtful to each other but u always mooved on, and then you said you thought your relationship was perfect, remember, all this in 3 years of marriage.

Don't stay in your marriage for the sake of you child b'coz you are not doing anybody any favour here, not you, not your kid and not your husband. You need to have a very serious talk with him and find out why is he doing this, for him to say he's sorry is not enough. Tell him to tell you the truth,maybe by so doing you'l find out that maybe he was no longer happy as you thought, Im not saying you are responsable for his behaviour but believe me, it is very important for a couple to talk,communication ive very important. Sometimes us women we are so busy or put too much attention in our jobs since we hv important professional responsabilities so sometimes we don't realise that we don't give enough attention to our men. Some men get these secret lovers just to have someone to laugh with, someone who doen't take everything serious and who doesnt turn a tissue to an issue, really not for sex. And sometimes they do this to try to make us jelous so that we can see that there are stil many women out there who still find them charming n sexxy, I don't see why he need to sms his girlfriend at your presence, why not do that at his work or make sure you don't see him,even a sister noticed him,he has a lot of explaination to do here, maybe he was trying to draw ur attention. Men are not good in expressing their feelings sometimes.I don't know your man though surely there are men who are big cheaters really p&ssy addicts so thats something else.

Talk to him but pls DONT JUST STAY IN THAT MARRIAGE FOR THE SAKE OF YOUR CHILD, if you feel you can't trust him anymore whats a point of staying with him? No trust no marriage. If you stay it's mean anything he does or say you'l never believe him even if it wil be the truth, you will always be suspicious and youl spend your whole life spying on him instead of sharing love with him and you know what that will drive him far away from you, any man need a wife not a spy in order to be happy but love, trust and fidelity : thats the key of happy marriage.
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Aug 27, 2012

ipipiembobeli

@ Mzalas uneskhathi sokudlala ne!!*nxaa* i poem engaka!!!
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Sep 4, 2012

violet

@skwamasamabele

i have 5 kids with three different mothers and i have always cheated.
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johhh ur such a piece of work,hw can u b proud of such disgustng thing.u lyk cheatng nd u 'll cheat ur own life whn u take ARV'S frm hospital,respect urself,I FEEL SORRY 4 U
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Sep 7, 2012

Tragedy

"My sister mentioned recently that my husband seems to be obsessed with his cellphone. I watched him and I realised she was righ"
this whole mistake is the Stpidest mistake a woman. Girlfriend any ca ever do, listening to your sister and grabing the phone.
First-sisters are usually the root course of couple to seperate they always come with crazy suscipision they either go around fishing info about their younger sister's husband/younger brothether's wife even finding out who he/she hangs out with whether he drinks, goes to nite clubs etc.
Grabing a fone out of his hand is totally disrespectful and very bosy of you-you should have asked him wy is he always on the fone even at home with.
Lastly you say you will never forgive/forget the hurt-well you will never hill then and you will loose him overtime say for example you keep reminding about the sms or whenever he goes drinking/golfing with frnds you keep on checking and becoming his super nanny,you only doing damage to yourself and relationship-there is a lot of good women out there and there are few man-like you said yu had your ups and down it doesn't mean they are over infact they will be with til you die so sort it this is just another up and down after all gal.
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Sep 22, 2012

Seperated

You have a him. She doesn't have him. Focus on your husband and the rest will take care of itself. Make sure you dont push him to her arms, because you will all be losers (including the innocent child).
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Jan 24, 2013

whitneyportia


prophetharry@ymail.com did some spell work for me about 3 days ago and the results are really starting to happen! My ex and I ran into each other at sears of all places! It was totally unexpected. He seemed a little nervous at first, but then we actually got to talking. Later that night he ended up apologizing to me for everything! And I mean EVERYTHING!:) I am so surprised yet I never knew this would come through for me. We are now working things out. prophetharry really removed all the doubts my lover had since I made my mistake. We have planned to getting married next month. I feel that without prophetharry this would not have happened
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