Tue Jun 18 07:13:06 SAST 2013

He abuses me emotionally, mentally

May 18, 2012 | Dear Dudu | 112 comments

I OFTEN read about abused women in your column and I never thought I would become one of them.

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May 18, 2012

Ebony.Girl

Why are you still with man? Just go!
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May 18, 2012

JUBJUB

You are not even married just leave this stupid guy,he is good for nothing.
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May 18, 2012

Pointman

Her family might actually be glad to see her again and also that she has wised up. Let the fleabag go before he gives you HIV or HPV or worse takes out an insurance policy on you.
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May 18, 2012

Mosquer

Hlala nto yeo, ga se monna maan. I suspect he is cheating, and calling you stupid selfish woman when he is with his friends and other gf
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May 18, 2012

Bra_NeatDick

I have no one to turn to and I often think I would be better off dead.

Stupid girl leave this d umb a s s and mend your relationship with ur family before its too late. Why ar u still him did he give U korobela or what? mxm i can't believe this. a girl leaving her family to go an feed / babysit a grown a s s imm ature boy.

Actually U don't need advise, U just need a good hiding so u can cum back to ur senses, if there's any brains left.
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May 18, 2012

JUBJUB

The sad part he's not even working
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May 18, 2012

Sgodiphola

Why do you have to disrespect yourself like that, get the hell out.
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May 18, 2012

Mosadiii

@Ebony.Girl
Why are you still with man? Just go!


Agreed.The lady should just give him marching orders.
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May 18, 2012

rasefatee

eish mara some women ba rata mareete tooo much hlala maseepa ao maaan he is not even your baby o ja wena o nyaa wena o hlapa wena he does not sleeep at home what a dogg next youll be HIV+ o setlaela
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May 18, 2012

dimpho_4U

1 Blo.od is thicker than water, never turn ag.ainst your family all in the name of a man.
2 he's not abu.sing you, you're allowing his unac.ceptable b.ehavior.
3 There's still hope if you can drop that la.zy 28 year old, smo.oching off your salary
4 Know your self-wor.th, s.top settling for less

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May 18, 2012

Spanasi

You just have to blame yourself, how do you love somebody who clearly doesnt love you? Leave him Babe, he is a good-for-nothing-type of person (not man....please). Nna ke available my babe you wont have to work either.
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May 18, 2012

SeshegoGuY

@JUBJUB
The sad part he's not even working
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So what?? Do u know how many Men are taking care of women who are not working...That comment really shows the kind of Person u r
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May 18, 2012

JajazQueen

How can you love him but not love yourself. Put your foot down or get the loser out of your life.
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May 18, 2012

Spanasi

Mo tlhale, o useless this suckkker.
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May 18, 2012

dimpho_4U

rasefatee
eish mara some women ba rata mareete tooo much hlala maseepa ao maaan he is not even your baby o ja wena o nyaa wena o hlapa wena he does not sleeep at home what a dogg next youll be HIV+ o setlaela
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hahaha @rasefatse hai o ditlapa maan ,tjeer....
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May 18, 2012

Serenade

Your family will always remain your family no matter what, leave that guy he is using you for his needs.
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May 18, 2012

Firefly

RUN VERY FAST.
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May 18, 2012

Nonc3ba

Lady get out of there, this many doesn't love you nor respects you. Stop acting stupid cos u r aware of what's happening with you there. Hes just using u and he's got a girlfriend thats why he never answers when he didnt sleep at home. TSWA KOOO.
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May 18, 2012

Socrates

setlaela sa ngwanyana, o sa dirang le selo seo, leave this looser and move on with your life
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May 18, 2012

Babedollz

@ 25 o editse vat n sit, with a man who's not even working. Woman wise up. I dnt see myself living wth a man who's not contributing to my well being 2 age 25.
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May 18, 2012

SeshegoGuY

@Babedollz
Gold-Digging Tendencies
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May 18, 2012

Ann

Good advise sis dolly!
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May 18, 2012

Heavenonearth

Please woman you don't need to be a rocket scientist to make assertive decisions when it comes to your life! Yes we kiss many frogs but how can you even allow this tadpole to remove you from your support system? Sesi just start by getting rid of this bloodsucker and then proceed to working on your relationship with your family then your friends..... By the way you don't need a psychologist, a priest, a friend, a lifeline councellor to tell you that you deserve better than you are settling for! Get a grip and stop the pitty party right now......
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May 18, 2012

Mbaley

Tjo! Hayi this guy is not a man mos sisi. Never stay when it hurts. Hlukana naye. Other men see what he saw kuwe. You're just tollerating disrespect in the highest degree my sister!

GET OUT!
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May 18, 2012

tpaz

This sounds like MOMMAC......
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May 18, 2012

Msiphos00

I have no one to turn to and I often think I would be better off dead.

That's not a good statement sister just get up and pick yourself up
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May 18, 2012

GODESS

Ngwanyana i think nje you are still with him because o go nyakaza monate, why would you tolerate nonsense e so? nna yena ebile ke a te tseba ke nale seteno nkabe e lekgale ke mohladile.
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May 18, 2012

Ona

Wow, i really can relate to this. I had also found myself in her position. But girly make sure you get out of that relationship. The dude only cares about your moola and his fuckin ego.


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May 18, 2012

Jalusi

live him
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May 18, 2012

Jaquo

Sometimes women and am not "generalising here" suffer from what is called the "SPEED OF THOUGHT"......which i think is freely given to every man at birth....really do you even need to write this and ask for help...... for your own sake walk away.....there are no decisions that need to be made why should you support a man who doesnt even care about you.....to make matters worse he still blames you for his problems in his life....if you the source of his problems and still put food on the table for him i say leave....
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May 18, 2012

Mochene

nna akase dumele go jewa ka godimo leka fase nie....hlala mpja man,im certain oja zaka ya gago le dichacha somewhere ko a robalang gona.
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May 18, 2012

zaco'z

Yes...................... Good morning!
some articles are yerrrrrrrrrrrrrr
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May 18, 2012

TrapStar

Mxm one of those who choose Love from Family
Just this time when she chose Abuse from Family and friends
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May 18, 2012

TKay

These are the results of vat n sit - I dont understannd why you are putting up with this sh!t if you are not married to the guy. Your family will always be there for you, so put your pride aside and go back home and apologise
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May 18, 2012

Samanthahhh

Just leave him alone you don't deserve to be treated like this!! you will find someone who will love and respect you.You deserve better Sisi!!!!
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May 18, 2012

Mdovu

Shem
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May 18, 2012

Samanthahhh

Just leave this man you don't deserve to be treated like this.One day you'll find someone who is going to love you and respect you.You are so better than this!!!!
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May 18, 2012

NevusAuvius

dimpho_4U
1 Blo.od is thicker than water
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and sper'm is thicker than bloo'd
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May 18, 2012

CheeseBoy

Bertrams you are giving all sisters a bad name by staying with this loer, what is it ? is the se.x that good that you cant think clearly? WAKE UP!
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May 18, 2012

Nincompoop

Young women never listen to advices these day and are making bad choices that, unfortunately they have to live with. I am struggling with my nieces that have left home stay with boyfriends, now they want to come back because of abuse. When things cool they go back to their boyfriends. Young lady, your family is important to you and I believe they want the best for you. You need their support in every aspect of your life, when you destroy your relationship with your family, you are as good as lost.
You will have to live with the bad choices you make in life, or seek advice and apologise to your family.
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May 18, 2012

dimpho_4U

@NevusAuvius,lol...no wonder, she's confused
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May 18, 2012

SeshegoGuY

@Jalusi
live him
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LEAVE him---- Eish OBE Students!
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May 18, 2012

MommaC

@Can't take any more, Bertrams

SUCKER.

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May 18, 2012

Mporoz

EY,

He doesnt respect you, the only thing that protect a woman from man is when he respects her. He doesnt hit you yet but beleive he will, just slap him in the chick and tell me how many blows you will get.

Leave the bust erd and go back to your family, they will give you a very warm welcome.
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May 18, 2012

dimpho_4U

SeshegoGuY
@Jalusi
live him
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LEAVE him---- Eish OBE Students!
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kwaaa!! making yourself better ,,,ke "Sowetan blog" moo, i find people who like to correct our engrish quite "aMUSING"...as if u were born an English speaker. :-)
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May 18, 2012

NevusAuvius

dimpho_4U
@NevusAuvius,lol...no wonder, she's confused
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o ne a isa kae lelofa phela batho bao ba tella go feta batho banang le zaka.
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May 18, 2012

Mofereferelenyalong

come on gal don't be stupid , you won't be better off dead you'll better off without him ...
Just apologise to your family and live your life , love is not enough and sometimes it just doesn't fix some situations like yours .
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May 18, 2012

BinoBanga

Girl try to communicate these probelms with him when you are both happy and do your best to be clear as to what you expect from him, yet dont expect the impossible. Start by, maybe inviting him to join you when you are preparing for supper, dinner or brealfast! When you communicate with him, start by appreciating the little positive things that he does for you-as the conversation gains momentum come to the little negative things that he doey to you and you will see, you would have laid a foundation of good communication channel.

If he truly loves you he will be in a position to see that you are the womenhe needs and if he fail to realised that THEN F#@$#$$ HIM!!! Tell him to buss off. Tshika mbyaaa ya leyo yi ya fela lekule leeeee!!!!
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May 18, 2012

SeshegoGuY

@Dimpho
Some things are just plain straight forward....Actually in my next lifetime im gonna be an High School Maths teacher, slowly getting tired of the corporate world. Mare o Sharp ngwana..... Any plans for the wknd??
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May 18, 2012

dimpho_4U

NevusAuvius
dimpho_4U
@NevusAuvius,lol...no wonder, she's confused
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o ne a isa kae lelofa phela batho bao ba tella go feta batho banang le zaka.
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ene wa ba tseba,"lerato le bofofu"(love is blind) ke ipotsa what made her decide to vat 'n sit le yena....ngwano' le yena mara..maybe she thought he'll change with time__
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May 18, 2012

KejaKuKu_yadibloggers

o stlaela sa ngwanyana fooled by love......he doesn't love u damnit. leave this a$$hole and c how he's gonna survive without ur salary.
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May 18, 2012

KejaKuKu_yadibloggers

o stlaela sa ngwanyana fooled by love......he doesn't love u damnit. leave this donkeyhole and c how he's gonna survive without ur salary.
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May 18, 2012

dimpho_4U

SeshegoGuY
@Dimpho
Some things are just plain straight forward....Actually in my next lifetime im gonna be an High School Maths teacher, slowly getting tired of the corporate world. Mare o Sharp ngwana..... Any plans for the wknd??
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noh sharp future meneer....eish weekend ke ya lefung la moahisane,,,mare ge..ke tshepa botselo bo o tswere sharp!
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May 18, 2012

LERATOLANNA

THAT SOUNDS LIKE MY BF. HEY I THINK THIS BASTARD WAS TWO TIMING US, BLOODY AGENT. QUIT THE DAMN RELATIONSHIP
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May 18, 2012

NevusAuvius

@Dimpho-phela wa tseba gore ma-authi a spanang KM(Kasi Management)ba na le maleme a borethe they charm everywhere and they make sure they look good everyday,gape o thole ngwano a ntse a le mo bodutung nou o thotse mashaya and nja e ntsha mekgwa ya yona.Phela le lona ge le spana you go for a killl le reka di transie tse bohloko le reka matlo a grand nou bo bra ke spana kae kae ba letshaba then ke moo go fitlhang manyora teng ma-authi a spanang KM.
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May 18, 2012

SeshegoGuY

@Dimpho
Ke sharp ngwana. Got a bit of flu so im staying indoors this weekend
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May 18, 2012

NevusAuvius

hhm!o tlho'la o apots'e mapon'a every afternoo'n o be o tshameka ka piiipi,mofikela o tla go nyes'a o na ha o na taba gore o matswa'ing or what.
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May 18, 2012

RYE

yawn* some girls are so dam.n ignorant wa tseba... she just needs a wake up klap..nxa
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May 18, 2012

dimpho_4U

NevusAuvius
@Dimpho-phela wa tseba gore ma-authi a spanang KM(Kasi Management)ba na le maleme a borethe they charm everywhere and they make sure they look good everyday,gape o thole ngwano a ntse a le mo bodutung nou o thotse mashaya and nja e ntsha mekgwa ya yona.Phela le lona ge le spana you go for a killl le reka di transie tse bohloko le reka matlo a grand nou bo bra ke spana kae kae ba letshaba then ke moo go fitlhang manyora teng ma-authi a spanang KM.
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ke waar __ i hope ladies, will get what u just said..mashaya o tla o shaya-shaya,until he gets what he wants..then he shows them true colors

@SeshegoGuY...okay Rre o be sharp lol
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May 18, 2012

NevusAuvius

@Rye-o buang kgale o ba rekela mabanta a Hanana Boy bo Tumelo maan.
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May 18, 2012

MAARKENG-JANONG

She would be b etter off with guys like Nevusauvius; Maeszisto; Mornachies; Tsek, etc coz ba spana. The only problem ba rogana majita ana. kikikikikikiki......bhwa........kwakwakwa. LO L
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May 18, 2012

NevusAuvius

kikikikikiki wena o dom kikikikikikiki fede boy?hai o nchwatlelang hoseng so?
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May 18, 2012

MOTHUBANNYO

Wa nnyela cherie e cos wa iketsa - some women are very STUPID
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May 18, 2012

RYE

nevdad

kikikikikikikikikiki
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May 18, 2012

MAARKENG-JANONG

@Nevi

Ola boy!!!! Ke ne ke greeta Boy. O chaele Maezi a ska nroga neh!!!!!! Meant to be a joke.

Sharp bafowethu!!!! Articles tsa today dia bora man!!!!
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May 18, 2012

NevusAuvius

@Dimpho-vele gona le majita a shelang ke tsa ba nang le tsona ska transi,zakanyana,dhlopi(diaparo) le flat or ntlo,nou ge ba kopana le bo-ousi ke na le gotlhe ba vele ba je u-turn,that is why ba tshamekelang ko mabencaneng le bo sesi ba kasi.Phela wena ge o na le tsa gago o ka se impresiwe ke go isiwa ko KFC for di zinger wings mos.
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May 18, 2012

monnawaka

My dear your happiness comes first, your so called boyfirend is a looser and i don't think you want to end up been a looser like him, you are still young and i'm sure there are decent man out there who knows how to treat a woman, Leave that useless looser now before is too late.
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May 18, 2012

Elady

You don't need the bustard to make you happy. Take a lead in your life. Your mom will never dish you out regardless of what happened.
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May 18, 2012

NevusAuvius

MAARKENG-JANONG
@Nevi

Ola boy!!!! Ke ne ke greeta Boy. O chaele Maezi a ska nroga neh!!!!!! Meant to be a joke.

Sharp bafowethu!!!! Articles tsa today dia bora man!!!!
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tweede boy!hai vele never a ho fluka .
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May 18, 2012

dimpho_4U

@NevusAuvius hahahaha ...wena o ntsa di guy- code phela,,,,,mara ke rata di zinger wings__zinger winning!!
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May 18, 2012

maezizsto68

This girl must just speak to his man and leave Dolly alone.Basade ba tena the next thing o tlo lla gore monna o spenda nako le dichomi.Tshwanetse a ipotse gore if o eletsa dai man dilo tse a reng wa di etsa why dai man a sa mo tlhompe.Never o lome letsogo le le go fepang so o tenne ngwana wa batho o enough ke yena.Go apologise to your man for all the naggings.
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May 18, 2012

MOTHUBANNYO

maezizsto68
This girl must just speak to his man and leave Dolly alone.Basade ba tena the next thing o tlo lla gore monna o spenda nako le dichomi.Tshwanetse a ipotse gore if o eletsa dai man dilo tse a reng wa di etsa why dai man a sa mo tlhompe.Never o lome letsogo le le go fepang so o tenne ngwana wa batho o enough ke yena.Go apologise to your man for all the naggings.
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Bliv you me most man do that - ba loma letsogo le le ba fepang
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May 18, 2012

NevusAuvius

dimpho_4U
@NevusAuvius hahahaha ...wena o ntsa di guy- code phela
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bona le macheri a sa spaneng a tshamekela gole le bo lova ba tseba gore ba gereza kaofela and jwang.Bo sesi ba spanang especially spane senang le zaka ba tshosa and nou ge majita a le skaars ba qena ba nka ntho e ngwe le e ngwe e tlhagellang
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May 18, 2012

MOTHUBANNYO

NevusAuvius
dimpho_4U
@NevusAuvius hahahaha ...wena o ntsa di guy- code phela
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bona le macheri a sa spaneng a tshamekela gole le bo lova ba tseba gore ba gereza kaofela and jwang.Bo sesi ba spanang especially spane senang le zaka ba tshosa and nou ge majita a le skaars ba qena ba nka ntho e ngwe le e ngwe e tlhagellang
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Dis waar NevusAuvius, phela most so called independent women are very desperate for kwai my autie
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May 18, 2012

RYE

ze blod is boring today, maybe cos batho ga ba yo mo..let me log off.*yawn*
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May 18, 2012

RYE

i meant ze blog..
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May 18, 2012

maezizsto68

Tsamaya mmalepara
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May 18, 2012

NevusAuvius

boy fede,phela ge ke fitlha ka mo NW ke mixitse authi engwe ya ko kasi moerr ne e phela daai ding,goseng o gaiwa zaka bo ma pinana to nare ka mo fredge e re zixe ka gaolo hahaha mshemane authi e e ne e senya phela sunday ka di jampas tse groot blind ge re tswa nkwaring and re saletswe ke biyanyana na vaya ka biya then goseng re ya ko ene ro ntsha stlamo,kikikikikikikiki moer o tla gadika mae,bacon,di-russian,wors bona dishabo dishabong boy.
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May 18, 2012

dimpho_4U

hahahah___enjoy your blogging,dimpho o tsamaille!!
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May 18, 2012

Blackstone.lebs

Family relationships are natural so take charge and rebuild it, you're the one that left anyway...only you can change the situation you're in. If he's lazy, drop him.
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May 18, 2012

MOTHUBANNYO

RYE
yawn* some girls are so dam.n ignorant wa tseba... she just needs a wake up klap..nxa
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Cherrie e e batla go thubiwa NNYO vuil, that's what she need
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May 18, 2012

NevusAuvius

@Mothuba-ke jiti ya cherrie e providang e ba super-glue le ge go sa tlhokagale,mara nna ke tseba ho ba channela its either re etsa dintho my way or ra tlogela.
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May 18, 2012

maezizsto68

Mara boi go o ka sheba neh di medi tse di nang le zaka di laeka go controla too much ene dai ding ska le authi e tlo go khenya.O tla utlwa o chaelwa gore "wena wa nyokgotlha mara ga o reke sepe,se o se itseng ke go kakalla motshegare o tlhe".Phela le wena o tlo di bala gore ai ona qho ga ke na le yena wa nkhomba nqono ko mbomba le mauthi.Ke flopo ya tsona di medi tseo
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May 18, 2012

MORNACHIESS

kikiikikikiikikik i've bin looking for tis article ever since thias morning hawu .....
Good Morning everyone !!!!
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May 18, 2012

MOTHUBANNYO

But gents let's be fair - what kind of a grown ass man a tlo providiwa ke cherrie ?
Le ene mjita o ke snaye man
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May 18, 2012

Jojo104

I don't think what the lady is telling, it's the truth, rather an excuse so that she can have some more reasons to leave her boyfriend. Because if, it were all true that she telling, she would have lelf the guy without even coming to Ses Dudu to complain.

My estimation of the situation is that, the guy has been retrenched and is struggling to find another job, but not doing all these kinds of misconduct the lady is claiming. As such, the lady has just secured herself a lovely young man who working and wants to replace this guy due to his unemployment status, and nothing more.

Yes, do it lady, but one day you will regret your actions, and of course miss the guy...
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May 18, 2012

rasefatee

the possibility is that the guy o moloile ka pipii ya elephant
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May 18, 2012

NevusAuvius

@Maezisto-phela boy batho ba ba operatiwa ka tsela dingwe,nna ke kile ka phela ka thekene gole sleg mshemaneke le ausi ntate(motshegare ke ausie cleaner o phege jampass ke ntate zwakala ka nkauza)mara boy ne ke forstana gore ke batlang ka nyamezela,ene ne a nagana gore wa qhoma ko bo tsala gore ke madam kante iewers mo bo tsala gona le ba batlang authi enang le tlhokomelo.Daai medi ne a mpatella ko sgila a mbaela dhlopi le ntswambu phela ne ke apara (Prince and Co)ka zaka ya hae.
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May 18, 2012

Mellow

Mistakes are part of life. They teach us that some things shouldn't be done again. However, mistakes can also lead us to a lifetime suffering, you my dear needs to break free the burden you carrying is really not worth it. Love is not enough and you cant keep putting him first he obviously doesnt care about feelings that's why he not bothered. Its sad to be in a relationship and realise that you are the only one in love and the other party is just there to pass the time.
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May 18, 2012

THE_MAN

Mabebeza.......

One thing i've learned in life is that, you'll sacrifice something that you never thought you would, like your love for the guy. He knows that and he is taking advantage of that.

The best thing for you is to let yourself or your heart know that you love him, but unfornunately you cannot live with him, it's unhealthy. Let yourself get used to the idea that you cannot be with him even though you love him, once you get to accept that, then, it will be easy for you to leave him and go back to family and friends and tell them you are very sorry about what happened, they will not let you down...They will understand...

I does not make you any less of value that this happened to you, this stuff does happen.

I'm a guy by the way...


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May 18, 2012

NevusAuvius

MOTHUBANNY'O
But gent's let's be fair - what kind of a grown as s man a tlo providiwa ke cherrie ?
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e ya ko kas'i no'u bath'o ba i le spane'ng, auth'i e o e bonan'g e le veryyy nea't ka expensiv'e designe'r clothessss ke yon'a e o ge'.
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May 18, 2012

MORNACHIESS

Mo fe alibirimi mpsya e hwe so a sniks mann !
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May 18, 2012

Skopokopo

Run For Your Life BABE!
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May 18, 2012

NevusAuvius

mcxm
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May 18, 2012

MORNACHIESS

votseeeeeeeeek wena !
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May 18, 2012

MOTHUBANNYO

Eish ke galletse NNYO people
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May 18, 2012

NevusAuvius

@Mathuba-ke eo modimo gago nnnyo ha e tsebe e batlana le eng.
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May 18, 2012

Thehumbleone

run luvy, and never look back!
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May 18, 2012

MOTHUBANNYO

NevusAuvius
Ke tlo e thuba then e be e tlala ka skelm - verstaan my autie
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May 18, 2012

Rakgadi-Tabeya

Le rata lenyalo le le bana. At 25 you should be enjoying your youth days darling. Leave that rubbish and reconcile with your family and friens. And o stope go hlalisana in life, wait for the man who loves you dearly if a sa tle join us the single independent women - what's wrong with you nxa.
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May 18, 2012

Makhosini0408

Maybe Khumbula Ekhaya will be the right platform to sort out your dilemma. There is no place like home after all.

No one has the power to change anyone's behaviour. The guy must sort himself out and you are so young to be burdened especially indoda engafuni ukusebenzi.
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May 18, 2012

truthhurt

Dont you even try to leave that man, he loves you, and right now he needs you more than he ever did, support him, things will be fine, ok!
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May 18, 2012

Bumboklaat

Nywe nywe nywe....I feel desperately unhappy se g@t! Retla lapa ka lena man. wa itsi g0re tshwanetse wetseng mara osa re botsisa! ngwanyana o sale o monnyane go thlwa o balabala ka selatsa sa moshimanyana man. le lena tlogelang go kitimisa di charmaboy le sa lebelle di personality man!
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May 18, 2012

Ms-B

I cant believe people actualy write for help for such things because the answer here is simple. pack your bags and leave the bustard before he brings you all these nasty deseases because i suspect when you live him for work, he does not just sit and watch tv the whole day. You did not come on this earth with anyone, so why would you endure such treatment from someone who does not even have a job. its true what they say, love is blind.
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May 18, 2012

truthhurt

Good things come to those who wait, stay with that guy and dont listen to all these jealous people.
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May 18, 2012

mokete33

GIRLFRIEND WA GAFA TLOGELA MOTHO O DONT B A MOTHER TO SOMEBODY WHO DOESNT CARE ABOUT YOUR WELL BEING.I DONT THINK THIS GUY IS REALLY YOUR SOULMATE COZ A SOULMATE WILL NEVA LET U SUFFER. DUMP HIM LIKE A HOT POTATO
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May 18, 2012

Lehido

You are not married, leave him NOW..

He got nothing on you, except love, im sure if you werin his shoes, he would have left you a long time ago....

He depends on you selfish ba$tard, Leave him......He eats your money, and still eat your pu$$y and eat your food, and still had the nerve to say kak to you?..

O emetse eng?..Tlokgela soo seo
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May 18, 2012

Still_leShandis

- this is easy and not a rocket science, JUST LEAVEthe bugger and GO HOME!
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May 19, 2012

superowl

You are in a classical relationship with a misogynist. You describe typical symptoms of such a relationship. He has managed to isolate you completely. This males it possible for him to control you completely.He is abusing you emotionally as well as financially. He manipulated you to the extent that you are convinced that it is all your fault. Get out of this relationship! There is very little chance that he will change, although he will convince you many times that he will. The problem lies with him and his personality defects. Why should you take the punishment for his problems? You should also try to get hold of a book with the title: Men who hate women and the women who love them. This will give you an excellent insight into the mindset of your partner.
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May 24, 2012

kudi

u entse scroplap sa hae get out befpre it's too late, you are not married to him
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May 29, 2012

tokolosi

call me, I wont swear at you nor even get angry at you......usebenzela indoda, iyhooo - call me, I wanna retire too
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Aug 31, 2012

D-liciousLips

like all the other gals in abusive relationships u will leave the guy n ur family in a body bag, sure he may not be abusing you physically bt if he realy loves you he would not b behaving like an ass, uzosi sola sisi, u deserve way better.

love is a two way street, i giv n he needs to give back, if he doesnt cut him loose coz he does not know the meaning of love.
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