'You need to let your sister find her own way in life'
"She might make mistakes and she might be hurt, but she needs to live her own life"
Sister LoveLOOKING FOR LOVE AFTER TRAGEDY: 'Her late fiance was such a wonderful person. But her new boyfriend seems to be very jealous and does not want to meet the family'
- Sister-in-law is forbidden fruit
- I had sex with my sister's lover and now I want to kill myself
- Should I tell my sister her husband is cheating on her?
- My wife's family is taking advantage of our home
- My girlfriend's sister is trying to break us up
- Friends should build up, not cut down
- I suspect my sister's husband is abusing her
MY SISTER and I have always been very close. There is only a year's age difference between us.
I have been married for three years and she was engaged for two years.
Unfortunately her fiancé died in a car accident. She was devastated and I was there to support her whenever she needed me.
Her fiancé was such a wonderful person and they loved each other so much. Of course she was devastated and it has taken a long time for her to start feeling strong and positive about life again.
Six months ago she met a man and has been seeing him since. He is just so wrong for her. I hardly see her anymore because she is always with him.
He seems to be very jealous and apparently does not want to meet any of the family yet.
I have told my sister that this makes me feel uncomfortable and I don't understand why he is behaving like this. She said he was shy and wanted to first see where the relationship went before meeting us.
I think he has something to hide and he is trying to keep her to himself. I hate not having my sister and my best friend in my life.
What should I do? - Sad Sister, Johannesburg
DEAR DUDU WRITES:
I am sorry to hear that your sister has experienced such trauma in her life and I can understand why you want to protect her.
As hard as it will be for you, you need to let your sister find her own way in life.
She needs to know how much you love her and that you will always be there for her.
It is only natural that after you have seen your sister suffer so unbearably that you want to protect her but you can't. She is a grown woman and has to make her own choices.
She might make mistakes and she might be hurt but she cannot live in a state of fear. She needs to live her own life. Perhaps her boyfriend is being cautious and will meet the family in his own time.
There is nothing wrong with that and it certainly doesn't mean that he has anything to hide. Phone your sister regularly and try to see her when you can but don't get involved in her personal life.
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maneater
Try spending quality time with your own husband!!!Report Abuse
JajazQueen
@maneaterTry spending quality time with your own husband!!!
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Hahahaha!!!
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JajazQueen
I think both she and the sister are very clingy individuals. Whatever happened to meeting a man, getting to know each other and seeing where the relationship goes from there. It seems they both dig in their claws on the first man they meet. Very controlling individuals the whole lot of them.Report Abuse
JUBJUB
You guys must continue seing each other,just call her often.And as for you to be suspicious i doubt there is something wrong with the guy.Report Abuse
MommaC
Never trust anyone who tries to separate you from your family or friends. It is the first sign of an abuser.Report Abuse
Ann
just let her be, i think you are over protectiveReport Abuse
Noir19
I think you need to accept and understanad that people are different, so dont expect the new boyfriend to be the replacement of the ex, he is his own person and he does things his way, jst accept and move on with issues of ur familyReport Abuse
candilious
MommaCNever trust anyone who tries to separate you from your family or friends. It is the first sign of an abuser.
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I agree 100% girl. My advice wuld be chat to your sister daily tell her everything about this guy,so by the time you really meet it will feel as if you know him already.
As for your suspicion feel it we hav alot of nut cases around the world.You know nothing about him..............And remember ur sister at her most vonerable state she needs you both
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JazzMandaba
I think the problem here is that the sister and the rest of the family were used to the late boyfriend and now they are in the hurry to compare the new one to the old one.I can tell after they have met him,they will be the first ones to say he is not right for you.I have seen families like these ones before.First thing that they should remmember is that people are different in this world and maybe this new boyfiend is gonna be even more wonderful than the first one.As they normaly say Maybe it was a blessing in disguise.Just give him time, please I am begging you.Report Abuse
itsme4sure
and why are you so focused on your sister's men all the time instead of your own husband......who knows, maybe the brother does not wana meet the family cos it’s your very husband who is consoling her...and how do you know he is not right for her, if you have not met him yet.....spend ur time and energy on more productive things, than worrying who is doing your sister.Report Abuse
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