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I have had enough. He has beaten me, verbally abused me and ultimately left me with our child. He had a drinking problem and I suspect he sometimes used drugs.

I can manage to look after our child on my own, but he has not offered to pay maintenance.

He promised to visit our son, but he arrived very drunk and I refused to let him see our son.

My best friend has now turned against me and is taking his side. In fact, she made friends with him and is his new girlfriend.

When I heard about it, I was devastated. The problem is that we work together and she is speaking to colleagues about my business.

Not only have I lost my partner and best friend, but she is making sure that eventually I will have no one in my life.

I am so hurt and I don't know what I should do about this. - Pained, Rosettenville

ADVICE FROM DEAR DUDU

It is awful to be betrayed by the ones you love.

Your priority is to protect your son and to ensure that he does not get caught in the middle of your ex and yourself.

You certainly cannot allow your ex to have access to your son when he is drunk or possibly using drugs. You need to ensure that your son is always going into a safe environment. If he is not paying maintenance you can pursue the matter at the maintenance court.

It must be very painful that your best friend has turned against you.

Have you tried to speak to her about what has gone wrong in your friendship? Perhaps she wasn't such a good friend after all and you might be better off without her in your life.

You are at work to do a job and not to make friends. Hopefully the people you work with can see through what is happening.

Be the better person and don't get entangled in the gossip.

If her behaviour interferes with the way you work then you will have to take it up with your manager or human resources manager.

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Sun May 26 11:08:36 SAST 2013 ::

Apr 20, 2012

Click

Boring.. That's what you get for falling in love with a no good drunkard.. Leave your b!tch @ss friend alone and let her keep his sorry @ss.. As for you, get yourself a real man and stop wining like a little school girl on public platforms you twit..

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Apr 20, 2012

maneater

serves you right sisi you must have been bragging to your friend about him before you broke up, so now she wants what you used to brag about.
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Apr 20, 2012

Slashhh

MOVE ON..
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Apr 20, 2012

Mosquer

OK, O tla ba strong
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Apr 20, 2012

Pabi

this love sister is there because they want to hurt u, it won't last i promise because its foundation is based on the wrong reasons some women are selfish they like to build their happiness on other women's tears.
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Apr 20, 2012

TDK

Next time don't fall for a colleague. It is now obviously difficult for you to socialize with the opposite sex at work especially whenever there would be events.
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Apr 20, 2012

Sneijder

O gana ka mmele so your friend o mo tshwere grand so move on
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Apr 20, 2012

JUBJUB

Just move on.....
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Apr 20, 2012

MORNACHIESS

Anothers sex article by Sis Dolly ,i see close to 400 comments today .....i'll be back
shortly ...
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Apr 20, 2012

Ann

one thing for sure is you are better off without the two in your life, lift up ur head gal and move on
u can still make new friends and get a new and respecting man in ur life
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