My best friend and ex have turned against me
MY BOYFRIEND and I have been together for six years and we have a 4-year-old son. Recently I found out that he had cheated on me and I told him our relationship was over..
I have had enough. He has beaten me, verbally abused me and ultimately left me with our child. He had a drinking problem and I suspect he sometimes used drugs.
I can manage to look after our child on my own, but he has not offered to pay maintenance.
He promised to visit our son, but he arrived very drunk and I refused to let him see our son.
My best friend has now turned against me and is taking his side. In fact, she made friends with him and is his new girlfriend.
When I heard about it, I was devastated. The problem is that we work together and she is speaking to colleagues about my business.
Not only have I lost my partner and best friend, but she is making sure that eventually I will have no one in my life.
I am so hurt and I don't know what I should do about this. - Pained, Rosettenville
ADVICE FROM DEAR DUDU
It is awful to be betrayed by the ones you love.
Your priority is to protect your son and to ensure that he does not get caught in the middle of your ex and yourself.
You certainly cannot allow your ex to have access to your son when he is drunk or possibly using drugs. You need to ensure that your son is always going into a safe environment. If he is not paying maintenance you can pursue the matter at the maintenance court.
It must be very painful that your best friend has turned against you.
Have you tried to speak to her about what has gone wrong in your friendship? Perhaps she wasn't such a good friend after all and you might be better off without her in your life.
You are at work to do a job and not to make friends. Hopefully the people you work with can see through what is happening.
Be the better person and don't get entangled in the gossip.
If her behaviour interferes with the way you work then you will have to take it up with your manager or human resources manager.