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 If you do decide to see him then you deserve everything that will happen to you because, believe me, this will end up in tears 

I am 22-years-old and he is 10 years older. He's very charming.

We went out a few times and he was so attentive to me.

He certainly never flirted with any other women in front of me. It was as if I were the only person in his life.

We saw each other three times and then I never heard from him again. Eventually, after a few weeks, I phoned him. He acted as if everything was normal and said he would see me over the weekend. Well, I never heard from him, so I phoned again.

He said he had been involved in a car accident and was waiting to get a new car, and that as soon as he had it he would see me.

A week later I met friends and they asked me about him. I told them about the car accident. They all laughed at me and said he was lying. They said that his car had been repossessed and that his wife had just given birth to a baby boy.

I was so embarrassed that I had been so stupid.

I made a decision never to contact him again and to get on with my life. Of course I was hurt and sad that I had been played for a fool. This all happened four months ago.

A few weeks ago I received a call from him, telling me how much he loved me and that he could not wait to see me. I asked him about his marriage and the birth of his child and he said his marriage was over and he was separated from his wife. He even said he was sure the baby was not his.

He begged me to see him to explain what was happening. He said I was the woman of his dreams and he wanted to marry me.

I am tempted to see him because I still have strong feelings for him and everyone deserves a second chance.

I am scared, though, in case I get hurt. What do you think? Scared but eager, Soweto

DUDU RESPONDS:

After the way he has treated you, I really don't think you should give him any more chances.

For a start, he is married and has a baby. He says his marriage is over and the baby is not his - well, I think he is lying! Do you really want to possibly break up his marriage?

This sounds like such a mess to me that I honestly don't think you should be a part of his reckless lifestyle. You have met this man, at most, three times - you don't know the first thing about him.

You are asking for trouble if you see him again. Please don't risk your future happiness or the possibility of being involved in breaking up a family.

He is still a married man and now he is talking about getting married again. Surely this must show you that he is nothing but a lying cheat.

If you do decide to see him then you deserve everything that will happen to you because, believe me, this will end up in tears.

You only get one chance at life, so try to avoid making such an obvious mistake.

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Wed Jun 19 18:12:22 SAST 2013 ::

Feb 24, 2012

Memme

Girl- you'd be crazy to meet up with this guy again, do you honestly need advise on this ???
You know that he lied about his marriage and his child and you still say you have strong feelings about him. You are one of those women who makes other women look cheap and desperate.

Please respect yourself and take care of your own heart by letting that guy go, He does not deserve you. You deserve much better that his excuses, You are not a child for God's sake and even a child can tell that this guy is playing with your emotions.


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Feb 24, 2012

tpaz

Men, are lairs and players by nature. Deal with it.
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Feb 24, 2012

BaleliM

Are we women that gullible?
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Feb 24, 2012

Makhosini0408

What evidence do you need sisi? The guy is a pathological liar and you still care? As much as I believe that issues of love are complex, the writing is on the wall for this relationship, run away from him, while you still can. You know the truth now about him, he is wasting the best commodity in your young life, which is your precious time, dear. Good luck.
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Feb 24, 2012

mbondozi

Hey you people, you don't know what it's like when a woman loves a man. No matter how you broke her heart but if she loves you , she'll take you back. I am talking from my own experience. I let down this woman back in 90s but up until this day she's so crazy about me. We still have sex together even though she's married now but she does n't care about what I did to her then. Once I pick up the phone and call her , she'll make sure she make it to me very fast. I don't know why women are like this but it happens.
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Feb 24, 2012

Makhosini0408

@tpaz
Some of us are not all of us.
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Feb 24, 2012

MorenaWaPolelo

@Memme
tpaz
BaleliM
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Ladies please live the girl alone she's got strong feelings for the man hau!!! you also would do the same!!! Sis Dudu the man deserves a chance he said his marriage is over so he want to star a new life what is wrong with that...
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Feb 24, 2012

Makhosini0408

@mbondozi
That is funny, but not all women are like that. She is smitten, charma.

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Feb 24, 2012

McLoving

@Makhosini0408,
Pathological liar ...hahahahahahahaha!!!!! McLoving likes.!
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Feb 24, 2012

MsBlackberry

twaya mo mothakeng o lovey,meeting with him is not gonna change his marriage status and his selfish manner>>>i jus feel sorry for his wi.fe MEN DONT KNOW WHAT THEY WANT
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