She can't fall pregnant and it's breaking my heart
I AM a man aged 26 and my wife is 22. We were school sweethearts and have been married for a year.
She has even insinuated that the problem lies with me and that she should perhaps find a man who can give her the baby she wants
Neither of us have dated anyone else and we love each other more than words can say. Our families support us and life should be perfect but it is not.
For the past six months we have done nothing but fight. She is desperate to have a child and is getting frustrated that she is not falling pregnant.
It wasn't so bad in the beginning but as time goes on she is becoming worse and worse. I feel as though she no longer loves me and I don't know what to do. She has even insinuated that the problem lies with me and that she should perhaps find a man who can give her the baby she wants so desperately. She is certainly not the woman I know and love.
I don't believe in divorce and anyhow I still love her, so there is no way that I am going to end our marriage.
What can I do because this is breaking my heart? So sad, Lonehill
DUDU RESPONDS:
I am sure this is a very difficult and frustrating situation for you both.
She is more than likely suffering from depression or she is simply sad that she is not falling pregnant.
Some of the signs of depression include low energy, exhaustion, poor sleeping patterns, withdrawal from people, crying, low energy levels, lack of motivation, anxiety, low confidence, loss of pleasure and enjoyment in life generally.
Different reasons for depression can trigger different signs of depression.
And, different signs or symptoms require different treatments. The first step is to talk to your family doctor and be completely honest when you discuss your problems.
Depression is a serious problem and the doctor will probably prescribe medication to get her through this difficult time. She might also need to speak to a trained counsellor.
For most couples it takes a year to fall pregnant.
However, if after another six months she is not pregnant she might need to return to the doctor to be checked and possibly referred to a specialist.
Both of you need to be tested because often the problem does not lie with the woman.
The most important thing now is to help your wife through the tough times.
letsetse
Go out with another woman and prove your manhood she will stop her nonsenseReport Abuse
MommaC
She is mourning for dream that is dying.Go to see a doctor - it could be something very simple to sort out. If it can't be fixed then there are a lot of very beautiful babies crying out for adoption.
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Mosquer
It's never too late to have a baby. She is still young anyway and God will provide you with a baby at a right time.I know of a woman who did not have children for many years and her husband ended up marrying another woman. Now the woman has three children apart from those she lost.
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HOOKMEUP
Both of you must see a doctor to find out what could be the problem its a known fact that one of the reason for marriage is to have kids you need to sit her down tell her how you feel but I doubt if she will listen to you as it sounds like she has made up her mind come on now man the message is right on the wall for you top see, 1. She wants the baby so desperately she dnt consider your feelings yet you married 2. She has given you an ultimatum or else you will be history sooner than later nobody believes in divorce its a situation you find yourself into @ 26 you should know better how can you say that tackle the issue between you and your wife put aside your personal stupid principlesReport Abuse
JUBJUB
Consult with a doctor both of you and find out what is the problem with your wife or you for that matter.But you are still young couple.
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Shuttle
go for counselling, seek professional help, give yourselves time. don't put too much presure on her - the blame game won't help much - get to the cause and get some medical help...divorce is a big NO NO bro....don't even mention it !Report Abuse
TrippleXXX
@SowetanPlease stop making up stories and give proper and true journalism.
Every week you must come up with these stories just to have us talking, this is so 1995...
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Shakira_01
@Letsetse, you are hopeless & old-fashioned.@MommaC, well said but its all about experincing a life growing inside of you. Not adoption.
My dear, you both are still young, i am younger. 20yrs old and pregnant, thanks to my gynaecologist.
use this link below to find a gynae close to you. And good luck: http://www.netcare.co.za/live/netcare_content.php?cookie=k&Item_ID=346&Doctor_ID=4332
love,
Shakira_01
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mopostolo
Bro i can feel what ur filling but u can brng her 2 me and i'l do it 4 u, mayb ga o fitlhe mo teng wa bona!Report Abuse