She can't fall pregnant and it's breaking my heart
I AM a man aged 26 and my wife is 22. We were school sweethearts and have been married for a year.
Neither of us have dated anyone else and we love each other more than words can say. Our families support us and life should be perfect but it is not.
For the past six months we have done nothing but fight. She is desperate to have a child and is getting frustrated that she is not falling pregnant.
It wasn't so bad in the beginning but as time goes on she is becoming worse and worse. I feel as though she no longer loves me and I don't know what to do. She has even insinuated that the problem lies with me and that she should perhaps find a man who can give her the baby she wants so desperately. She is certainly not the woman I know and love.
I don't believe in divorce and anyhow I still love her, so there is no way that I am going to end our marriage.
What can I do because this is breaking my heart? So sad, Lonehill
I am sure this is a very difficult and frustrating situation for you both.
She is more than likely suffering from depression or she is simply sad that she is not falling pregnant.
Some of the signs of depression include low energy, exhaustion, poor sleeping patterns, withdrawal from people, crying, low energy levels, lack of motivation, anxiety, low confidence, loss of pleasure and enjoyment in life generally.
Different reasons for depression can trigger different signs of depression.
And, different signs or symptoms require different treatments. The first step is to talk to your family doctor and be completely honest when you discuss your problems.
Depression is a serious problem and the doctor will probably prescribe medication to get her through this difficult time. She might also need to speak to a trained counsellor.
For most couples it takes a year to fall pregnant.
However, if after another six months she is not pregnant she might need to return to the doctor to be checked and possibly referred to a specialist.
Both of you need to be tested because often the problem does not lie with the woman.
The most important thing now is to help your wife through the tough times.