MY BOYFRIEND is 28 and I am 22. We have been dating for six months.

When we first met, he would phone me and wanted to see me all the time. If he wasn't with me, he wanted to know what I was doing and who I was with.

For the past few months, he has stopped phoning and I haven't seen him. I have tried to phone him repeatedly, but his phone is switched off. Eventually I called his friend and asked if my boyfriend was okay because I was worried.His friend passed his phone to my boyfriend, who told me he had been working overtime and the company had sent him to work at their branches in other provinces.

I asked him if he could come and see me and he said no. He said I must wait until he has time to see me. I was upset and screamed at him and he switched off the phone.

If he was so busy, how did he find time to be with friends? Surely I am more important than them? I am so in love with him and I don't want to lose him.

What should I do? Worried Girlfriend, Robertsham

Dear Dudu,

Do you deserve to be treated like this by someone who is supposed to care for you?

It would seem that he is a liar and a coward. If he really cared for you, he would call you no matter how busy he is. If he has time for friends, then he should have time for you.

You are too young to be sitting around waiting for him on the off chance that he might find a few minutes to spend with you.

Contact him and ask him to meet you. Tell him to be honest whether he wants to be in a relationship with you because if he doesn't, then you will move on. It might break your heart, but it is better than the current situation, and you will get over him.

If he continues to avoid you, then I think you must accept that the relationship is over and he does not have the courage to tell you.

And don't waste another minute waiting for someone who is disrespecting you.