MY husband and I have been married for three years. We knew each other for many years before we married and we have a 5-year-old child.

I realise that he no longer loves me though I love him very much. He denies this and says he will never leave me because of our son.

Surely life isn't meant to be like this, where two people just exist together. We don't do anything together or have any fun. As far as I know he doesn't cheat on me, but he is totally disinterested in me as a woman.

On weekends he meets friends to watch sport and when he is at home he watches TV. He always says he is tired. I know he works hard, but he is still young. I honestly don't know what to do. Torn down, Kagiso

Dudu responds,

You need to take the power into your own hands and speak to your husband.

Tell him exactly how you feel as you have done in your letter to me. Explain that you still love him and want your marriage to work, but that you cannot do this alone. Ask him to be speak to you honestly.

You owe it to each other and to your child to try and save your marriage. I urge you both to go for counselling. Contact Famsa on 011-975-7106/7.