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Listened to pals and lost my girl

I AM 20 and my girlfriend is 18. We have known each other for four months

Everything seemed to be going great. Then my friends started telling me that she has a reputation for messing around with many men. They said she is untrustworthy and the way she behaves, I will probably end up with HIV. So I ended the relationship.

She was upset and I think I hurt her deeply. I now realise that they were lying and I do not know what to do because I really love her.

She is a wonderful person. What should I do? - Regrets, Germiston

DUDU RESPONDS:

It is never too late to try and correct mistakes.

It is always dangerous to listen to gossip and perhaps you should choose your friends more carefully. People who are so destructive and spiteful are not really the sort of friends anyone should have.

Perhaps you should ask her to meet you so that you can explain what happened.

If she agrees, be honest with her and tell her that you regret what happened. Ask her for her forgiveness.

She might not want to get back together with you and if this is her decision, then you will have to accept it and move on.

I know it is not much comfort if this happens, but at least you will have behaved like an honourable man. You will also have learned invaluable lessons.

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