MY BEST friend is getting a bit too friendly with the husband of a neighbour of mine. He does not work and when his wife leaves for work my friend goes over to his house.

She says they are both bored and lonely.

She says they are just friends and all they do is watch TV and sometimes have a drink.

When she talks about him, though, it sounds as if they are becoming a little too friendly.

I hate to interfere in other people's business, but I don't think this situation is right at all. If she does fall in love with him, she will end up getting hurt.

This man's wife is pregnant with their first child and they are both happy about it.

They seem to be a very happily married couple and I don't think the man would ever leave his wife.

Should I speak to my friend about this? Need to tell, Midrand

Dudu responds:

There is no doubt that you should speak to your friend.

If you do decide to speak to her you must find the best possible way of doing it without making her feel that you know what is best for her.

Tell her that you care for her and don't want to see her get hurt. Ask her if she is thinking of having an affair with this man and how she feels about getting involved with a married man?

How does she feel about the fact that his wife is expecting a baby?

Ask her if she is able to see a future with him and how she would feel about the damage it would cause if his wife found out?

This would also damage her reputation among family and friends.

She might then be able to reach a point of deciding what the right thing is to do.