Online flirting: it's all about lip service
Research identifies the best way to compliment a woman
But actually, the best approach will be specific to the woman you hope to attract - Stay away from general pick-up lines
"Shall I compare thee to a Summer's day?," asked Shakespeare. Now, women of the world have replied: "No, just tell me I have beautiful lips".
A new survey of online flirting by dating website Badoo.com has found that the best Internet chat-up line for men to use is: "You have beautiful lips".
"We have found the Holy Grail of flirting," said Badoo Director of Marketing Lloyd Price.
The site, which boasts 87 million registered users worldwide, analysed the success rates of opening lines from nearly 200,000 online flirtations in 11 languages over the course of one month to come up with a "Compliment Success Index".
Site users were invited to use one of 12 different chat-up lines. Each complimented an aspect of a woman's body or appearance. Researchers measured the success rate of each line in two ways: first, their success at prompting any response at all; second, their success at launching a longer conversation -- one going back and forth at least four times.
Complimenting a woman's lips was the most successful overall, but other lines worked best in particular countries.
American, French, Italian or Brazilian women were more responsive to "You dress beautifully".
Brits preferred praise for their legs, Spaniards responded to compliments about their hair, while Germans and Canadians preferred skin praise.
Dutch and Portuguese women liked: "You have beautiful ears".
Jo Hemmings, a British behavioural psychologist said women responded best to compliments about their lips because it's a bold approach that seems more personal.
"What many women want is for men to take the initiative and not be wishy-washy," Hemmings said in a statement accompanying the survey. "A lot of men on dating sites send a sort of generic message and women recognize something that hasn't been customised for them."
David Givens, American author of the book, "Love Signals: A Practical Field Guide to the Body Language of Courtship" said the results made sense because women focus a lot of attention on their lips.
"From adolescence onwards, they cosmetically adorn their lips, applying lipstick and colours. They have been doing so since ancient Egypt."
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SWEETY
I think this is tue, but I like it most when they compliment about my eyes!Report Abuse
PrettyFace
I luv a complimentary guy , telling me am beautiful , I have beautiful juicy lips . Complimenting a women u can actually get anything u I mean anything we just luv 2 be compliment make guys u don't do it in a sarcastic way thou ....Report Abuse
Lekope
*but you actually have not seen her... how can you compliment her about her physic?i can compliment your avatar... your avatar has nice magapu... does that count?
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SWEETY
@ Lekope it is also puzzling me how do they compliment online maybe they have seen the photos, but some avatars look like the people behind bcos u normally choose the avatar that you like, meaning is more or less like u...Report Abuse
TheRealFuture
giving women complements is a hobby for a lot of guys but they mean nothing about it. its just something we say to break the ice. there is something real that we want to say but we dont since you dont wanna hear it up front.Report Abuse
Lekope
LOL... So we just telling them what they want to hear? but i think sometimes we really mean it and the lady just need to decide when does she feel like we really mean it.but one line 4 sure not to use is " you are the most beautiful girl i have ever seen" lol...
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Lekope
@SWEETY. ja U right... so isn't my avatar sweet? pretty face has got beautiful eyes... wena sweety i can say you are real... and you see is what you get type of chick.Report Abuse
SWEETY
Do men like compliments?Report Abuse
ThirdEye
can any S.A. women take me serious when i say "You have beautiful ears"?Report Abuse
Lekope
* men have Huge egos Sweety... they like Compliments very much but you must be put them in a way they will apreciate. Don't tell your men that he has beautiful nails... lol... that is not on... rather tell him how good he makes you feel in bed or maybe how his chiskop suites him.Report Abuse
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