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My problem is that I don't trust him because he is a womaniser.

I knew about his reputation when I met him, but I thought he would be different with me.

Every time I catch him out he promises he will stop the affair. Then he meets another women and it starts all over again.

The last time this happened I told him to go to hell, but he came back and begged me to give him another chance.

I forgave him and I though everything was going well between us.

The last straw was when one of his girlfriends came to his house while I was there. I was so angry I could have killed them both.

I cried and asked him what I had done to deserve to be treated in this way?

I think it would be better for me to leave my family and go far away or even commit suicide. I cannot go on like this any longer. I have suffered enough.

Please help me Dudu. Beside myself, Florida

Dudu says:

Suicide is definitely not the answer and neither is leaving your family.

Consider how terribly you would hurt your family your family if you were to kill yourself.

You are a young woman with your whole life ahead of you. This man is certainly not worth the anguish he is causing you. I cannot tell you what to do, but I urge you to think very carefully about what you want from life.

This man is a serial cheat and has shown you that he has no intention of changing his ways.

Do you want to marry a man who shows you no respect, who cheats and lies to you? This is not a sound basis on which to start a marriage.

Are you not worth more than what he is offering you? You deserve far better treatment, so give yourself a chance.

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Sat May 18 20:06:27 SAST 2013 ::

Dec 24, 2010

KUKU

What are you waiting for?
Kill yourself, do you think he cares about you. He'll just cry when he find out that you committed suicide but then he'll get another stupid girl like you in just 2 hours after your funeral.
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Dec 24, 2010

Bossk

Well I have to say that's not very smart of you because you knew that the dude is a serial skirt-chaser yet you keep on taking him back. Nothing you ever do could ever change him unless HE decides to stop his philandering ways. Count your losses, though I know its hard, very hard in fact, just move on and time heals eventually.

Lets face it, chances of meeting a man who subscribes to monogamy are almost nil. Tis the age of cheating and you just have to accept it......
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Dec 24, 2010

Vandal

Sweetheart these are some of those lesson one has to learn to be a better person and hopefully a better lover. we all go throu this all the time, just not in the same manner, lessons are the same teachings are different.

me when i was 18 my fathers friend impreg my then girlfriend i too would have killed. lesson one in relatioship was not to fully trust as ish call always happen, lesson 2 was that you love whole heartedly and the the next doesnt love the way you do.

so easy love take it all in and enjoy life, its the most beautifull gift to have.

marry xmas
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Dec 24, 2010

Mbeva

"I knew about his reputation when I met him, but I thought he would be different with me" One principle: a leopard does not change its spots,gal. Would be different with you??? Just wondering what are you gonna offer him what other ladies do not have.


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Dec 26, 2010

Buggyman

@Bossk,

i hav 2 disagree wit u boi, cheating on yr girl is not a must but a choice u take although i wont play Mr. good guy i also cheat, nd if these something hard for us guyz to do 2 to remain faithful i'm saying we r nt faithful we r @ times but it's hard kulezilingo ezingaka ezikhona.
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Dec 28, 2010

mathe

Let us be straight here guys cheating has a reason, you can't cheat for nothing.It's either you not satisfied or you don't know what you want,at de age of 29 Ithink you old enough to think straight and know what you want, this boyfriend of yours gal is not serious find someone who wil love you cause dis one doesn't love u.A pesrson who loves you won't cheat on you or infront of your eyes ,he will teach his girlfriends to respect you as de first lady.
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Dec 28, 2010

ThabiZandi

Killing yourself for anyone is the most stupid thing you can ever do in your life. When you die, that person will carry on with his life, so let him go if you no longer want to be with him. People cheat all the time but killing yourself is not a solution.
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Dec 28, 2010

SnowBlack

Intuition is never wrong. trust what you feel and leave, but commiting suicide would be damn crazy girl... you are still young, you will meet someone else and in no time you would have forgotten about him. and stop giving this man 100 second chances... one second chance is enough, if he blew it the 1st time you forgave him, walk away.
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Dec 28, 2010

ThirdEye

u don't hv 9 lifes, bt jst one. When u kill yourself it wil b d end of u. Whatever decision u take I hope it makes u happy. All the best.
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