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Unfaithful boyfriend is driving me to suicide

I AM 22 years old and I am in love with a 29-year-old man. We have been together for three years and we plan to get married soon.

My problem is that I don't trust him because he is a womaniser.

I knew about his reputation when I met him, but I thought he would be different with me.

Every time I catch him out he promises he will stop the affair. Then he meets another women and it starts all over again.

The last time this happened I told him to go to hell, but he came back and begged me to give him another chance.

I forgave him and I though everything was going well between us.

The last straw was when one of his girlfriends came to his house while I was there. I was so angry I could have killed them both.

I cried and asked him what I had done to deserve to be treated in this way?

I think it would be better for me to leave my family and go far away or even commit suicide. I cannot go on like this any longer. I have suffered enough.

Please help me Dudu. Beside myself, Florida

Dudu says:

Suicide is definitely not the answer and neither is leaving your family.

Consider how terribly you would hurt your family your family if you were to kill yourself.

You are a young woman with your whole life ahead of you. This man is certainly not worth the anguish he is causing you. I cannot tell you what to do, but I urge you to think very carefully about what you want from life.

This man is a serial cheat and has shown you that he has no intention of changing his ways.

Do you want to marry a man who shows you no respect, who cheats and lies to you? This is not a sound basis on which to start a marriage.

Are you not worth more than what he is offering you? You deserve far better treatment, so give yourself a chance.

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