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How can I ever trust my cheating boyfriend?

MY BOYFRIEND and I have been together for six years. Our child is five years old and I am pregnant again.

I found out that he was having an affair with another woman and she is also pregnant. I know this because she phoned to tell me. She also said I should let him go because he no longer loves me.

I found this hard to believe at first because we are so happy together. When I asked him, he denied it, but after some time he told me that it was true.

I took my child and returned to my parents. He begged my parents to let him see me and our child and eventually they allowed it. He said he had made a mistake and that it would never happen again. He said he told the other woman that it was over, but agreed to help maintain the child.

I gave him a second chance. He really has been trying and I was so encouraged. Now a friend has told me that she saw my boyfriend with this woman and that they seemed to be very friendly. I trust my friend and don't think she would lie about something like this.

I confronted him and he denied that there was anything between them. He said he had gone to see his child. I am confused and I don't know if I can carry on living like this. I don't know if I will ever be able to trust him again.

How am I supposed to cope with him seeing his child and this woman?

If I didn't have a child I would give up on life. How could he do this to me and how am I expected to move on with my life? Betrayed, Orange Grove

Dudu says:

I can understand how confused and betrayed you must feel.

Your boyfriend has cheated on you and taken your relationship for granted. In spite of the shock and disappointment you still love him and he is the father of your child. Both of you should try and sort out your problems. He must be honest with you.

Together you will have to find solutions to how he keeps contact with his child from the other woman. He does have to provide and have a relationship with his child.

Tell him how he has hurt you and what you are feeling. He needs to tell why he risked losing you and his child . Listen to each other. Don' t be confrontational and judgmental. Tell him what you need in order to trust him again.

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