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He is studying at university and it will be three more years before he completes his degree.

I don't want to wait that long. We have started fighting a lot about this and he says I am being unreasonable.

I know that he is the man I will spend the rest of my life with, so I don't see what difference it makes if we have a child now. What do you think? Desperate to breed, Tshwane

Dudu says:

I also think you are being unreasonable.

I can understand your wish to have a baby, but the time is not right.

You have only known each other for a year and you need to spend a lot more time getting to know each other.

Your relationship will only work if the two of you share the same goals, especially with such a serious life decision.

It makes good sense for him to complete his studies first and to find a job so that he is able to support a child in the future.

How will he take care of a baby while he is still studying?

Who will pay for everything the child needs? If you continue to nag him about this, I am sure you will just drive him away.

A baby changes your life completely and perhaps you should consider taking a few years to build your career and enjoy your life with your boyfriend before you are tied down by children.

Speak honestly and openly with each other and build your future together.

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Mon May 20 18:33:21 SAST 2013 ::

Nov 26, 2010

MrBean

Patience is a virtue. A baby needs commitment from both of you & therefore you must all be ready.
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Nov 26, 2010

mayoyo

Your boyfriend is right, you are being unreasonable. He is still a student and wena o batla gomo apese morwalo. O tlogele gore you know gore o tloba teng botshelo ba gao bo botlhe, ke eng nkare o itira moporofeta. Tsena sekolo o tlogele go nagana ka ngwana , you are still young my dear.
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Nov 26, 2010

Baleli

Girl, you are being unreasonable indeed!! Having a baby is not a want... you need to be in a stable relationship and you also need to be financially sound. your man is still studying and how will that work?
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Nov 26, 2010

Bumboklaat

If he is the man you are going to spend the rest of your life with then what's the rush. Let him finish his studies and have a secure financial life then you can start thinking of having a baby.
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Nov 26, 2010

CowGal

Woman there is more to enjoying yo relationship wif yo man dan insisting u hev a child. Why dont u stand by his side yle he's busy completin his studies. If u gona spend the rest of yo life 2geda den y rush 2 hev a kid??
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Nov 26, 2010

MYMYMY

This girl is stupid and crazy, her peers are finishing her degrees and all she can do is thinking about babies. STUPID FOOL!
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Nov 26, 2010

Catty88

Whats the rush?Shoooooo!Poor man underpressure.lol.Relax woman first be where you want to be in life and are comfortable together not while the other is studying.

I love the baby pic.Great pic Mr Editor.
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Nov 26, 2010

tank

@"Desperate to Breed"

Aish, Tshwane girls they get pregnant like popcorns in hot oil. Hey "Desperate to Breed", you want to sink in the very sharp claws in to this University Boy's life, get your own life sweetie, don’t see him as your success because his going to disappoint you even if you have his baby.

At university campuses there are girls there and very beautiful once and chances are that his "ayobing" every night. So forget him get yourself sorted and build your own future.

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Nov 26, 2010

KUKU

Why o batla ngwana now, wait for your parner to be ready too...STUPID GIRL.
O nagana gore ngwana ke Pap en Vleis, the next thing you'll be running to get grand money ya R200.00 OR ko maintenace offices o batla chelete.

SEBOTHO SA SEMAUMAU SA LESHOBORO LA LESHILAPULENG!
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Nov 26, 2010

JerseyNo10

Hee ngwanyana o tibisitse di-grant,ur till young to b thinkin abt a child.
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