I AM part of quite a big crowd of friends. Some I am closer to than others. I have been in love with one of the guys for a year now.

We are very comfortable together and I have always confided in him. He is not aware of my feelings and I don't know whether I should tell him.

Over the past six months he has changed towards me. If we are all together he goes out of his way to embarrass me and make a fool of me. He has also told some of our mutual friends things that I have said about them, which has resulted in the loss of their friendship. We still socialise, but they keep their distance from me.

I am so confused and unsure of what to do about this. Please help me. - Confused Girl, Alberton

Dudu says:

I can understand why you are feeling confused.

You are in love with this man and trust him enough to confide in him and in turn he betrays your confidence and embarrasses you in front of your friends.

Unfortunately, he does not love you the way you do him.

You need to look at him closely and ask yourself if he is really the sort of person you want a relationship with. He has no respect for you and creates problems for you with your friends.

If he cared for you, he would not treat you like this. He is obviously very immature and for a relationship to work you both need to be on the same level mentally and emotionally.

You need to keep him at a distance and watch what you say to him. Perhaps if you come to terms with the fact that he is not the right person for you, you will allow yourself the chance to meet someone else.