MY HUSBAND and I have two teenage children. He left me a year ago and stole some of my belongings. His reason for leaving was that I was not a good enough wife in every respect.

I later found out that he was cheating on me. He moved in with another woman, but apparently this didn't work out because he came back to me and asked for another chance.

He promised he would never do it again.

I then started receiving phone calls from a woman telling me to tell my husband to leave her alone. I told him I wanted a divorce and he refused. He said he would never move out of our home again and would never leave me.

I have had enough of his lies and cheating. I am also worried about my children because he is confusing them.I don't love him anymore because he has hurt me so much.

Unless we get a divorce I feel I cannot go on with my life and I am so very unhappy.

I really don't want him in my life anymore and I just want to get a divorce.

What should I do? DO, Germiston

Dudu says:

I am sorry that you find yourself in such a difficult and painful situation.

Your husband has proved to be a liar and a cheat. If he were seriously sorry about cheating on you you would not still be receiving phone calls from another woman.

If you are sure you do not want to be in this marriage you will have to seek legal advice from an attorney.

It is possible to get a court order to remove him from the house and even if he does not want a divorce it is possible for you to go ahead.

Your most important consideration is your children.

It is really important that they don't suffer in the process.

Try and ensure that they maintain a relationship with their father. This is a difficult process and will need courage and determination.