Long-distance relationship is putting strain on us
I HAVE been in a relationship with a woman for a year. During this time, the company she works for transferred her to Cape Town
We speak every day on the phone and try to see each other at least once a month.
This is not always possible though.
She has been away for four months now and I think both of us are feeling the strain of a long-distance relationship. Most of the time when we talk on the phone, we fight.
As soon as we see each other everything is great. We really love each other, but I am starting to wonder if this relationship will work .
She is an ambitious woman and there is no chance of her transferring back to Johannesburg any time soon. I am doing very well in my career so I cannot move to Cape Town.
I feel desperate because I love her so much, but I don’t know how to make this work. - Torn, Johannesburg
DUDU WRITES:
Long-distance relationships are never easy.
When you are together you must discuss the problems both of you are facing. Firstly, you have to establish whether you do see a future together. If this was to happen, where would you live and how would this affect your lives. You need to find out whether you share the same goals in life.
If you decide that you want to try and make it work, then you have to find ways of communicating in a more positive way.
Tell each other how you feel when you argue and together find ways to avoid doing this. This will give you a chance to learn about each other and whether you both are able to solve challenges together.
There is no doubt that if you continue fighting, your relationship will end. If it does, then not everything is lost.
Both of you will have learnt valuable life lessons and also what you need in a relationship.
Brownskin12
Get a life, Cape Town!! Men I know of long distance relationships that survived and I am talking SA v England!! You are such a baby!! Grow up and support your partner how do you think she feels about this,,Report Abuse
Sweedo
@Brownskin12.... knowing about other people is not enough until you are involved.A lot of people are in long distance relationship and boy oh boy they cheat
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NTWANA37
By the time she or he is away, find someone to make you happy and when they return pretend as if nothing happened. Most of the people in a long-distance are cheating. When they meet again one has changed his or her attitude they are no longer the same person you knew. Sometimes they bring along new girlfriend or boyfriend and then the ralationship is over. So why wait? its a waste of space.Report Abuse
wakb
afternoon yol.i myself, am in a long disstance relationship, and am enjoying every beat of it, yeah man it is hard at times but i dont put my mind in to that a lot. i see my man once a month sometimes after three months cos of work, which is frustrating at times nut am always on the pone with him. when we are together we create memories for the time that we were away from each other. cheating is not an option, you will lose something over nothing. "akukho okufihliwe okungena kuvela" keep that in mind at all times. its nice really. my brother, please dont give up now, fights are always there even close people fight, its not a new thing kuma long distance relationship. you just have to talk about it. like my man he knows that i get angry when he raises his voice on me, so he doesnt do it often even when he is mad he wont do it because he knows i will get angry times 2 of his anger.
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