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Stop blaming others, youth urged

May 21, 2012 | Boitumelo Tshehle, North West correspondent | 62 comments

"I want people to actually take responsibility for their decisions" - Ditlhopho Makwela (16)

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May 21, 2012

MakeSAwork

We need more youngsters like this....
Good luck for the future Ditlhopho, I am sure you will reach your goals.

What a refreshing read.
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May 21, 2012

RobinH

WONDERFUL: What a sharp young lady. More power to you, Ditlhopho!
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May 21, 2012

MsKinkyakaKamaSutra

After winning the competition Ditlhopho said young people tend to blame other people after making the wrong choices.
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@Dithlopho, congrats girl

If only most youths had a reasoning capacity like yours, Mzansi would be a better place to live in and with the less expenses on child grants....

The onus is also on the teachers, they are in position of authority and should not only respect themselves but the profession and also guide the young ones.
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May 21, 2012

CheeseBoy

Thank you sowetan for publishing this heart inspiring article as one of the leading stories. these kind of stories give us hope as a community that there are kids out there with a head on their shoulders. Ditlhopho Makwela you are a true example of a young lady who knows what she wants out of life. keep it up, wish there were more like you.
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May 21, 2012

Ann

just look @ her, no make up and no fake hair, beutiful isnt she?
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May 21, 2012

netsianda893

firstly i am impressed at these young age you are making things happen please keep up the good work and i wish you all the best Ditlhopho!
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May 21, 2012

LERATOLANNA

you gp girl!!!!
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May 21, 2012

JUBJUB

Keep it up nana
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May 21, 2012

RipApart

@ JZ, who is to blame?........learn from a 16 year old.
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May 21, 2012

7000000

This article is appealing! It is a great achievement for South Africa to have a Youth at that age being more responsible and reasonable than a former Youth League President who is not a match when coming to straight thinking. It is an achievement for South Africa to have a girl child who have realized that Comrades are using their ill-gotten money to abuse lots of Women and baby girls out there I wish all Women were that wise otherwise Sicheka and Zuma and other flat of Ministers, MEC , Premiers and Mayors will not be having 19 children from different mothers. Lord bless hanger because it makes women to forget about reality and abuse because of YOU hanger shame on you hanger! May the Good Lord guide you and help you realize all your dreams, Comrade Angie Motshekga and Blade Nzimande must be happy about the girls 's ambition to study abroad but why!! Because she is wise to see that all Comrades are taking their kids to UK , USA and Japan because they know that the education that they are giving to our Masses here is nothing but rubbish, thank you for being so aware my girl in fact you deserve to be a future Minister of Education because you are reasonable than both Ministers concerned and combined, is just that you do not have ANC card and a good connecting friend to get you there. ALL of our leaders are only leading because of ANC ''ticket'' not because they can but because they are well connected and their friend happen to be a Premier or President, that is why South Africa is like that , we are being led by people who does not know anything about leading!! Shame on on our leadership!!
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May 21, 2012

Phunyukabemphethe

Natural beauty and unique
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May 21, 2012

TKay

We need more girls like her
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May 21, 2012

Babedollz

Amazing mt dear. Mosetsana wa kwa lehurutshe. Proud of u nnake
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May 21, 2012

MsKinkyakaKamaSutra

@Ann
just look @ her, no make up and no fake hair, beutiful isnt she?
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She is not di straatmeit tse o sa tsebeng gore diya skolong or ko Teazers

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May 21, 2012

Secretary

@Ditlhopho Makwela

Sorry young lady but in contrast to your bias adjudicators who were interested in your confidence, fluency, knowledge of her topic and maturity instead of focusing on your leadership basics I culminate that you are naïve and baseless little twit who do not know that youth especially of your age need correct guidance from both parents and teachers. We need to share blame and the larger chunk will be taken by both parents and teachers. You also highlighted that you want to study abroad and come back to help us. What is wrong with you twit? Charity begins at home. We have got sufficient and quality institutions in RSA which can do more thant you small brain. I can also sense that you believe that RSA is lagging behind the word and that id a lie portrayed by the kind of movies you watch. Young lady Mzansi rocks in terms of educations. YOU ARE NAIVE
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May 21, 2012

Ann

MsKinkyakaKamaSutra
@Ann
just look @ her, no make up and no fake hair, beutiful isnt she?
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She is not di straatmeit tse o sa tsebeng gore diya skolong or ko Teazers
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haaa... true hey
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May 21, 2012

ntshware-ke-yawa

Ann
just look @ her, no make up and no fake hair, beutiful isnt she?

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I tend to agree with you,but hei... that mouth........(just look at it)
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May 21, 2012

Ann

ntshware-ke-yawa
Ann
just look @ her, no make up and no fake hair, beutiful isnt she?

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I tend to agree with you,but hei... that mouth........(just look at it)
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her mouth is kissable *hides*

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May 21, 2012

maezizsto68

Ke gore Annkie babes wena o kgatalla hela di make up?Hai man anyhu congrats young lady you must represent Bokone Bophirima well neh
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May 21, 2012

Ann

@maezi, kante ke tshwanetse ke reng mara?
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May 21, 2012

superowl

What a refreshing and hope-inspiring article. You are a super girl.
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May 21, 2012

rasefatee

This should certainly be my child only if young people were thinking like this child we would be living in a different South Africa now living without nyaoope infested brainless youth of today i wonder what actually preventing all young people to apply their mind like this young girl always on miniskirts ba sa tlo jewa ba rapiwa moooer
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May 21, 2012

Babedollz

Yah hey some people really suffer from BHDS Bring Her Down Syndrome. Please let's give credit to de young lady.She is only 16 and very positive about the future not the vuilpop mentality.
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May 21, 2012

CheeseBoy

@Secretary

stupid troll, go suck on a hot boiled egg
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May 21, 2012

snazz

Nice wish all your peers and some old irresposible people in power can learn from you........................
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May 21, 2012

BaleliM

how i wish the adults could do that too
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May 21, 2012

ntshware-ke-yawa

Ann
ntshware-ke-yawa
Ann
just look @ her, no make up and no fake hair, beutiful isnt she?

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I tend to agree with you,but hei... that mouth........(just look at it)
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her mouth is kissable *hides*
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kwakwakwakwahihihihi,my Jesus,lol,you killing me Ann
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May 21, 2012

WarrenG

Sounds like the government....still blaming apartheid for absolutely everything. Even their own fukkups... blame someone else...pass the buck... this young lady speaks truth!
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May 21, 2012

RobinH

Secretary: You need help, you nasty arrogant freak.
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May 21, 2012

maezizsto68

Annkie-Keng ka wena na re ga o batle go bua le nna?Drop me an e-mail or give your e-mail address tuu
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May 21, 2012

SeshegoGuY

@Secretary
U r a Hater. Bloody loser!!
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May 21, 2012

dimpho_4U

shinny manana...,well done
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May 21, 2012

ONEE

"I wanted people to actually take responsibility for their decisions. As young people we tend to do things without thinking and when the consequences come we have a habit of blaming others. Taking responsibility is the first step to becoming a better person," she said.

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Wooooow gal I am so impressed, nothing beats taking responsibility in life then we will be a better nation. Stop pointing fingers finding faults instead of solutions.

I hope and pray youngsters are learning out of their mate
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May 21, 2012

ONEE

Actually Sowetan organise for this young Gal to travel around South Africa in particular for youth seminas. she is a good example and inspiration. let it not end here.

She needs to go out there and tell other youngsters that there is a lot to life after you have finished your school , boys n gals will forever ne there.

it is soo sad that our kids are dying at a very tender age becoz of HIV and AIDS coz they dont wanna wait, they are not responsible.
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May 21, 2012

Revulshionary

Well Spoken... EH...

Makes me think of Lindiwe... They will make a great team..

Maybe Lindiwe is looking for a Youth Leader in NW.





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May 21, 2012

Revulshionary

@Secretary..


So she will need some Guidance & Coaching... On What ???... Blame Casting I presume !!!;....




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May 21, 2012

MGEEZ

@Secretary
I think you were a little bit hard on the 16 year old. However you are spot on when you talk about collective responsibility between parents and teachers in teaching children, instead of abusing them. Other than that ignore some of the blo.gg.ers who because they have a difference of opinion think that gives them a licence to either call you names or insult you (that on its own is evident of what type of education they received).
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May 21, 2012

ONEE

CheeseBoy
@Secretary

stupid troll, go suck on a hot boiled egg
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@ MGEEZ , Secretary went overboard my opinion.
She cant come donw on a child like this, she is trying, going to study abroad is her opinion and desire, eg, we have people from Abroad who study through Unisa for example, they know what they benefit.

Share responsibility - Have really took a close look in our days on how kids are towards their parents?
Parents are called stone age minded. these youngester believe they know better, so if there is a child that can personally believe they need to take responsibility of their actions and results, I aplaud that.

She is ambitious, our kids are not really ambitious but looking for things way to far their age which is sex,alcohol,drugs etc. it is evident by the rate of young gals from age 13 that are queeing in maternity clinics in our days. some for ARV's
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May 21, 2012

RobinH

Onee: A refreshing viewpoint. Thanks.
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May 21, 2012

ONEE

It is painfull and this young gal is every parent's dream child, we hold breath everyday when we are at work thinking I wonder if she went to school or she is somewhere with men beyond her age.
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May 21, 2012

CheeseBoy

MGEEZ

why you defending Secretary ? he/she/it called this hard working ambitious child a "naïve and baseless little twit". I mean WTF warrants such an attack. this troll deserves no respect and that fact that you are defending it is even more sad.
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May 21, 2012

snazz

@secretary
You totally out of order
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May 21, 2012

RobinH

Snazz: I agree. Hisher/its remarks are utterly uncalled for and dowright nasty. They say a great deal about the person uttering them.
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May 21, 2012

Mbelewolwazi

This girl is one in a million in SA. She has a strong mind to overide the process of development of the brain of a teenager. I say this because from 13 the brain of a child begins a process of rewiring to prepare for adulthood. This process carries on until the age of 20. That is why teenagers are rebellious and think whatever are experincing and learning in life is new and the adults are stupid. That is why they are susceptible to making so many mistakes because their brains at that stage are not equiped to foresee and appreciate the consequences of their actions in the long run. I congratulate this young lady that her process of brain rewiring has happened at a higher speed. Lets hope it is not temporary testing testing testing 1 2 1 2 1 2.
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May 21, 2012

3-kati

A future ANC Women's League leader, before DA stea.l her and make her next Lindiwe Mazibuko
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May 21, 2012

MGEEZ

CheeseBoy
MGEEZ
why you defending Secretary ? he/she/it called this hard working ambitious child a "naïve and baseless little twit". I mean WTF warrants such an attack. this troll deserves no respect and that fact that you are defending it is even more sad.
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If I am perceived to be defending Secretary, it could probably be because; I do not do insults. I found them counter productive and very disrespectful. However as you can see on my intial bl.o.g I did not defend Secretary hence i was specific as to what part of her/his writings that I agreed with. In essence you guys can disagree with anyone without insulting them, that is how you stimulate debate; but if you want a potentially good debate to degenarate into senseless insults; then go no further but just make a statment that sowetan readers do not agree with.
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May 21, 2012

Ms-B

@Ann that is the first thing I noticed about her, she is going far, if she keeps it like that. God Bless her
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May 21, 2012

LusciousMau

we really do need more young people like her in this country of ours
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May 21, 2012

Beverly86

Sooo Proud of u nana!!!
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May 21, 2012

Misopotamia

Uyazin wena pikinini
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May 21, 2012

cornelius

Dithlopo, do not worry, your dreams will defenitely come true because you hace the passion and intelligence needed. Go girl !
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May 21, 2012

T-balty

@ SECRITERY

its a damn shame that the world still have narrow minded people like you. you sound bitter and i have a feeling the topic hit a nerve. it's ok, if you made a mistake at your early age and didn't take resposibility (we will not gudge you). but let us not discourage such young minds that are willing to step up and tell their peers what they need to hear.

@ Dithlopho, i fully aggree with you and admire your courage. i hope from the words of secritary you will realise the need to spread the gospel, as there still are such people who are not going to lead our your brothers and sisters like you. Tiii
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May 21, 2012

Secretary

@MGEEZ

Thank you my brother to come on factual board. I understand why blog.gers went so far, in the name of kind of education they are receiving.

@ Dithlopho
You need a parental guidance urgently for the survival to your dreams in this assorted people called rainbow nation. Your confidence, fluency, knowledge of her topic and maturity are useless and unnecessary. But leadership basics and literacy are urgent and crucial. “Stop blaming others” mechanism will not work unless a baby becomes independent from the date of birth. By so saying I question your understanding of the topic’s content. It is saddest to realize that some people deny me to hold opinion in an attempt to open the eyes of the lass.

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May 21, 2012

Osirus

Well sead my beautiful sister.
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May 22, 2012

RobinH

Secretary: You are such a prize arrogant ars$hole. Are you sure you're not Jimmy Manyi incognito? Nasty, nasty creature.
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May 22, 2012

BOSSTRESSS

2 thumbs up for u Gurl
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May 22, 2012

SexyH

All the best my gal, we need more gals like u.
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May 22, 2012

shaharazad

Ms. Makwela shouls take hint of the latest figures from ILO (International Labour Organisation), that 30 to 35% of world's youth population are jobless, and how they expected to take responsibilty when all they know is poverty, homelessness and joblessness. That is over a billion young people without work. That is why Malema is an obsolete relic, that belongs in the scrapyard. As future rulers, our children and youth will not thank this selfish generation that I am ashamed to be part of. Its not too late though, a plan is needed to kick-start the world economy
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May 22, 2012

facta212

@Secretary i do not knw as to wether ur are having something against Dithlopo...why cant u just give her credits as she desevers that....it really shows that Dithlopo has parental guidance after what she said about her fellow peers "wearing mini-skirts and being fooled by educators about how they love them "....it is people like u @Secretary who discourages young people to dream big,and also discourage them to transform the society....it seems as if u are happy about the majority of youngsters who are not engaged in debates that can change our society for the better....we need yougsters like this one who have positive mindset....yes she is still young but she is not "naive" as u put....Dream big Dithlopo and i like ur positive attitude....
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May 23, 2012

Secretary

@facta212
You said "Dithlopo has parental guidance",Why does this naive girl not support the parental control instead of self control?.Our country is in the dustbin today,because of the likes of Dithlopo who can stand with confidence and knowledge of english to say lassess should take decisions and stop blaming parents.She is like the person painted the picture potraying our president with his nakedness. The is nothing to learn for youth from this failing lass. She should go back to school and learn more about our leadership probelms and how to address them as a team. We are seek and tied with indivisual who work divided not as team like this controversial lady.
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May 24, 2012

Mshonga

What a refreshing article, after the hogwash i saw on 3rd degree( Zikhothana or some crap like that) last Tuesday, it is indeed encouraging to know that our beloved nation South Africa still has young people like you. Keep it up Ditlhopho!!!!! May Our Heavenly Father richly bless you.
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Jun 12, 2012

Oshmax

This is our South Africa, full of hope and promise. Not the contorted old bitter prunes, who forever blame others and do nothing other than spread doom and misery!
I think youth leaders underestimate the thought sophistication of our youth.
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