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I found sexy pictures when snooping on my boyfriend's phone

By Boitumelo Tshenkeng and Mandisa O Mahlobo | 2017-04-27 08:54:54.0

I recently found out that my boyfriend keeps sexy pictures of his ex-girlfriend on his cellphone. Yes, I did snoop and searched his phone one day. I found it disturbing and devastating. I don't know how to confront him about it?

Boitumelo replies:

So, every research or investigation starts with a question in mind. When you were doing your research, what question did you have in mind about your relationship that you were hoping to address by searching his phone? Partners snoop into their partner's phones because they want to confirm or disqualify something. You have a concern and that is the problem you need to think about. You can confront him. He can delete them but the issue that drove you will still stand.

Address issues in your relationship. It is not even necessary to bring up what you did; if you focus on the issues you have, you will likely find an answer to your question.

MOM replies:

You need to summon your courage and sit him down and ask him. Sadly, you have to confess that you snooped through his phone. Maybe he forgot to delete them. Why were you snooping? Don't you trust him? Never, ever, touch your man's phone.