Do you need to visit a sex coach?

Most people would probably say no, as we would all like to believe that sex is not something that we need to be taught how to do.

For most people, visiting a sex coach can be an embarrassing concept and questions like, "Why do I need to see a sex coach?" or, more importantly, "What exactly do sex coaches do?" may crop up.

Sex therapist and renowned sex coach Godivah tells us exactly what she does in her sex coaching sessions.

"A sex coach's job is basically to teach people how to have better sex. Most people may think that they are having good sex, but their partners may not be satisfied, and some of their sexual needs may not be met, or they may have difficult sexual problems, like the inability to reach an orgasm. And that is where a sex coach may come in, to identify the problem areas, to probe and find out what sex technique the couple is doing that may not be satisfactory to the other partner, or if there could be a more emotional reason why the couple's sex life is dwindling," she says.

So what are the reasons why a couple would find themselves knocking down a sex coach's door?

Godivah says that there are three main reasons.

THE COUPLE SIMPLY STOPPED HAVING SEX

Yes, it does happen. Although many people may not outwardly express how they may not have had sex with their partners in months, the truth is that many couples start off having less and less, and eventually they simply stop. Reasons may range from body issues the one partner may have, or being too exhausted to have sex, usually after having kids.

Godivah says that the main reason she has seen why couples stop having sex is usually after infidelity, or when the couple is considering divorce.

"After an affair, the main thing the betrayed spouse needs to decide is to what I call fire or forgive. You either choose to fire the person, meaning that you leave the relationship, or you forgive them and try to make the relationship work.

"This can be achieved with the help of a clinical psychologist, who can take the couple through the various emotions the one partner may feel after an affair, as well as the road to forgiveness.

"Where I come in is by helping couples who have chosen to forgive the affair, but cannot bring themselves to have sex again.

"The first thing that I usually advise couples to do is to go for testing. Testing for diseases, including HIV, then testing again after three months. In the meantime, the couple should use condoms until they have been given the green light by the doctor. So a sex coach will basically assist a couple to reconnect after an affair, and how to have great sex again."

WHEN HE EJACULATES TOO QUICKLY

"This can be a serious problem in any relationship, and as a sex coach I can help men overcome this.

"Most men often feel ashamed for reaching orgasm too quickly and feel guilty about not being able to satisfy their partners.

"There are techniques that a man can do to prolong their performance before ejaculating, and it is the sex coach's job to teach them exactly how it is done.

"With my assistance, a man can actually prolong their lovemaking session, and it is not something that they can do on their own."

WHEN SHE CANNOT REACH AN ORGASM

"A woman's orgasm is not as easy as a man's. Many women have actually never reached an orgasm, or find that they reach orgasm only when they are masturbating alone, but find that their partner really cannot give them an orgasm.

"A sex coach can firstly find out what the couple's lovemaking routine is, evaluate areas they may be overlooking or areas they may not be doing right. A sex coach can basically teach the couple and give them the tips that can ensure that the woman reaches orgasm, as well as how to prepare her body or assist herself in reaching orgasm during sex."