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CONFESSION BOX: Your friends should know you better

A year ago a young man moved into the complex where I live.

In the beginning we greeted each other. We eventually started talking and became friends.

I introduced him to my two best friends and we often used to go out together and have lots of fun. Suddenly my friends stopped talking to me and I didn't know what was going on.

When I tried contacting them the first lady blocked me and my second friend said that I told everybody lies about her and she could never trust me again. I told her that I had no idea what she was talking about. I have never betrayed her confidence or lied about either of them.

They are my best friends. I then started putting the pieces together and realised that the young man I had tried to be friends with had actually betrayed me.

I have no idea why he did this but he has lied to my best friends and turned them against me. I cannot sort it out because my friends will not speak to me. I feel so sad and hurt. Please help me.

Confused, Centurion

I'm sorry this has happened to you. It is sad that people today no longer communicate face to face and rely on social media to conduct their relationships.

If they no longer want to speak to you they simply "block" or "delete" you. It is so unfair that you have been cut off in this way without any discussion and in fact it is disgraceful.

Your friends should know you better after being friends for so many years. What you can possibly consider is writing a letter to them both and leave the door open to repair your friendship with them.

Eventually they will see the true colours of the person they chose to believe over you. They can then make a choice whether to apologise and try to mend your relationship. In the meantime you need to move on and make some new friends, people who will accept you and not doubt you.

Even though I am sure you miss them, don't let these people affect your happiness.

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