MY BROTHER and I were orphaned when we were teenagers.

Our parents died in a car accident and we were fortunate that we were left with our family home and money for education.

We are in our second year of university. My younger brother has battled mental illness most of his life.

He is on medication for bipolar disorder. I find this extremely challenging and sometimes don't know who to turn to.

He often will not take his medication because he says it leaves him listless.

He becomes difficult and has extraordinary outbursts. Sometimes he would not even get out of bed.

I find it exhausting and wonder if I will ever have a life of my own.

Distressed, Diepkloof

I am so sorry that you lost your parents.

You are a brave young woman and your brother is fortunate to have you in his life.

You probably have educated yourself fully on bipolar disorder.

The more you know, the better equipped you will be to deal with this.

It is really important that he takes his medication every day.

There is no quick fix.

If possible go to all the doctor visits with him, monitor his medication and ensure you know what to do in a time of crisis.

I would urge both of you to seek support from the Johannesburg Bipolar Support Association on 011-485-2406/082-781-3607 or go to their site at www.bipolar.co.za.