I HAVE been married for six years to the most horrible man you can imagine.
When we first met he was kind, compassionate and treated me like a queen.
I thought I was the luckiest person alive. We have a son aged 10.
Three years ago he dropped a bombshell when he told me that he was HIV positive. He found this out when he was getting his insurance sorted out and had to go for a test.
I went for testing and my test was negative. When I asked if he had cheated on me he said that he hadn't.
He said he was probably positive when we met. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and I insisted that we use condoms from then on. I started to notice that his family treated me differently. We were at his sister's house and she would not let me help with the food.
When I insisted she screamed at me that I had Aids and that I had already infected her brother.
After lying to his family, my husband has now also started to call me names and even beats me up.
No one will listen to my side of the story. My whole world is in pieces and I feel as if the only solution is to kill myself.
How could this have happened to me?
I have never treated anyone badly and I certainly have never cheated on my husband.
Distraught, Mamelodi
You must be feeling hurt and confused.
Your husband is a bully.
He is also a liar and honestly I think you would be better off without him.
Suicide is not the answer to your problem. Remember, your son still needs his mom.
There is also your family. Have you spoken to them and explained what is happening in your life?
If you haven't then you really should and I am sure they will support you.
If he is angry that he has contracted HIV then he probably needs careful counselling to come to terms with it.
He will also need assistance and advice on how to live a healthy life.
If you still love him and you agree to stand beside him then he should tell the truth to family and friends.
If you decide that you want to leave him then you need to seek sound legal advice on how to move forward with your son.
None of you can carry on living the way you are at present.
If he refuses to speak to you and continues to treat you badly then I suggest you get an interdict against him.
He has absolutely no right to continue emotionally and physically abusing you.
Whatever you decide, it will not be easy but you have to take the power into your own hands.
For further advice please contact Powa (People Opposing Women Abuse) on (011)642-4345/6.
CONFESSION BOX: Horrible husband pushes me to suicide thoughts
I HAVE been married for six years to the most horrible man you can imagine.
When we first met he was kind, compassionate and treated me like a queen.
I thought I was the luckiest person alive. We have a son aged 10.
Three years ago he dropped a bombshell when he told me that he was HIV positive. He found this out when he was getting his insurance sorted out and had to go for a test.
I went for testing and my test was negative. When I asked if he had cheated on me he said that he hadn't.
He said he was probably positive when we met. I gave him the benefit of the doubt and I insisted that we use condoms from then on. I started to notice that his family treated me differently. We were at his sister's house and she would not let me help with the food.
When I insisted she screamed at me that I had Aids and that I had already infected her brother.
After lying to his family, my husband has now also started to call me names and even beats me up.
No one will listen to my side of the story. My whole world is in pieces and I feel as if the only solution is to kill myself.
How could this have happened to me?
I have never treated anyone badly and I certainly have never cheated on my husband.
Distraught, Mamelodi
You must be feeling hurt and confused.
Your husband is a bully.
He is also a liar and honestly I think you would be better off without him.
Suicide is not the answer to your problem. Remember, your son still needs his mom.
There is also your family. Have you spoken to them and explained what is happening in your life?
If you haven't then you really should and I am sure they will support you.
If he is angry that he has contracted HIV then he probably needs careful counselling to come to terms with it.
He will also need assistance and advice on how to live a healthy life.
If you still love him and you agree to stand beside him then he should tell the truth to family and friends.
If you decide that you want to leave him then you need to seek sound legal advice on how to move forward with your son.
None of you can carry on living the way you are at present.
If he refuses to speak to you and continues to treat you badly then I suggest you get an interdict against him.
He has absolutely no right to continue emotionally and physically abusing you.
Whatever you decide, it will not be easy but you have to take the power into your own hands.
For further advice please contact Powa (People Opposing Women Abuse) on (011)642-4345/6.
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