MY HUSBAND and I have been married for 15 years and we have two children.

I recently found out that my husband has been having an affair for the past five years. When I found out it completely turned my life upside down.

I was sad, angry and confused. We fought a lot and unfortunately our children were caught in the middle of this, so they know exactly what has taken place. They have both become withdrawn and tend to stay in their room together.

I thought I had the perfect family and now everything is lying in ruins. I will not tolerate another minute of sharing my husband.

We need to work on saving our marriage and it is impossible with her in the picture.

He says that he cannot make a decision because he loves her but does not want to lose his family. Should I divorce him and try to rebuild my life? - Betrayed

IF IT is at all possible to save your marriage then you and your husband must try. If he cannot choose between you and the other woman then you should possibly consider having a trial separation before you make the decision to divorce.

Is it possible to go for marriage counselling? It is so important that you make your children understand that they are not the reason for the problems you and your husband are having.

They must know that this often happens in life and no matter what, their father and mother love them. Both of you must ensure that they are not caught in the crossfire of your battle.

Inform their teacher or principal at school that the family is working through some problems and it might affect their behaviour or school work. If your husband chooses the other woman, you will have no choice but to move on and rebuild your life.

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