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Number of marriages in South Africa has dropped: Study

By Sowetan LIVE | 2014-08-29 09:11:22.0 | COMMENTS [ 204 ]

Cohabiting has become the new norm and marriage is slowly becoming an outdated institution, a new study suggests.

One of Professor Dori Posel’s key roles as a National Research Foundation Research Chair has been to investigate marriage markets in South Africa in the context of ilobolo and her latest study has found that fewer African men are getting hitched due to this traditional practice.

Posel‘s research has revealed that the number of marriages had dropped significantly in all races since 1995 more so in black communities.

According to the study, the rising price of ilobolo has been blamed as one of the main reasons for the decline, ENCA reported this morning.

“Very few men now seem to receive assistance from their fathers in paying for ilobolo and the fact that it’s now an individual responsibility for men raises an economic burden, Posel told the news channel.

Her study, conducted on 40 couples, also found that the price of ilobolo now ranges from R35000 to R100 000, a far cry from average 20 000 paid in 1998.

The increase in the ‘bride price’ was mostly linked to the commercialisation of the practice and its ‘manipulation by some families for material advancement’.

“When we come up with ilobolo it is a token, it is a promise that this young man here is able to head a homestead and cater for his family,” Professor Pitika Ntuli told the channel’s Dan Moyane.

“The issue is that up here in our suburbs we have commercialised these issues. If you are demanding R100 000 where is that money going? Is it going to be for the new couple that is starting a new life or is the money going to the parents as payment for raising your child?” he asked.

“There is a general neglect of cultural values. Everything has become commercialised,” he added.

What are your thoughts on this issue?

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Usashadelani kulamalanga sekuyabheda

2014-08-29 09:18:26.0 | 3 replies


ja its a waste of time

2014-08-29 09:22:35.0 | 0 replies


even colour3ds and Indi@ns are demanding a lobola if an African man wants to marry them. I remember my friend was complaining that her coloured girlfriend's father said he also wants lobola for her daughter. kubi madoda, asizidleleni nje ikhekhe sishiye kanjalo. bakhona abazo bhatala.

2014-08-29 09:33:44.0 | 3 replies


ja I second you mkhabela, plus labantu balahlela wonke umuntu, wena uyabhatala mina ngihla mahala, whats the use

2014-08-29 09:39:59.0 | 0 replies


Lol Kunzima ukufa uyimpohlo

2014-08-29 09:43:36.0 | 0 replies


Yet it was the kasi kids who invented "vat en sit"

2014-08-29 09:49:46.0 | 0 replies


Nigerians a busy marrying south African ladies and what now there is an increase mos

2014-08-29 09:37:44.0 | 2 replies


Truth even Somali's and Pakistanis are in the lead

2014-08-29 09:43:19.0 | 0 replies


Nigerians are really trying to give our ladies hope.

2014-08-29 11:50:59.0 | 1 replies


come on love nothing like that, they are just using them to be §A citizens

2014-08-29 11:56:29.0 | 1 replies


You are right Hutton, but if it makes the woman happy, why not.

2014-08-29 12:08:17.0 | 0 replies


Her study, conducted on 40 couples, also found that the price of ilobolo now ranges from R35000 to R100 000, a far cry from average 20 000 paid in 1998 xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx It depends the first consideration is qualification , childrens and morals

2014-08-29 09:20:11.0 | 0 replies


The decline is not really caused by ilobola, getting married these days is like digging your own grave especially for man, women do not know their role as women anymore they know drinking, cheating blah blah blah

2014-08-29 09:21:54.0 | 3 replies


Uyamlobola xa gqiba ayojola nohlukane ayisabuyi back nale lobola funeka uphinde uqalele phansi

2014-08-29 09:25:16.0 | 1 replies


ja abe seyihamba no 50% of your assets emvakoko

2014-08-29 09:33:43.0 | 0 replies


Mgijimi...Dumela Abut,,,,men do not know their role either, but the report is spot on. Lobola is one of the main reason for decline in marriage. Sometimes, women stupendously, pay their own lobola cause the poor man just cant afford.

2014-08-29 09:40:03.0 | 2 replies


for stingy men maybe

2014-08-29 10:05:28.0 | 0 replies


If she is willing to help and it is a measure of her character which is admirable. Secondly money exchanged during the negotiations often goes into paying for ceremonies that follow the lobolo negotiations; I know my wife's family used it to pay for the marriage ceremony itself so if she helps she is also helping herself. The problem then becomes some women are so obsessed with power dynamics a man's financial limitations can often be his undoing but then again it depends on the character of the individual you are getting married to, a real woman will respect you regardless.

2014-08-29 10:31:16.0 | 0 replies


Short guy, do you know anything about marriage? Do you even have a girlfriend?

2014-08-29 09:41:07.0 | 1 replies


I know everything, lobola is only an issue to stingy men,even loaded guys do not bother by getting married coz of how things have turned

2014-08-29 09:48:23.0 | 0 replies


with these many beautiful hungry women out there...its very hard to get married...the concept of marriage is grounds a man and brings respect...many people are getting married for the wrong reasons though and thats why they never last...the cost factor is also detrimental...why pay R50k for a second with thousands of mileage...? mxim

2014-08-29 09:25:20.0 | 0 replies


Suffocate and Nicky fingers again.....

2014-08-29 09:27:51.0 | 0 replies


A piece of paper isn't what makes people 'married' and there aren't enough cows in the world to buy you real love.

2014-08-29 09:30:46.0 | 1 replies


ja money is not an issue even loaded guys do not get married these days

2014-08-29 09:49:17.0 | 0 replies


Its because MEN are becoming WOMEN these dayz!! mxm!!

2014-08-29 09:32:39.0 | 3 replies


your man has become a woman? sorry dear next time be wise to see that a guy is gay

2014-08-29 09:44:20.0 | 0 replies
2014-08-29 09:44:55.0 | 0 replies


No it is because girls are opening their legs to every Tom and Harry

2014-08-29 09:46:53.0 | 1 replies


second that, once u say her u look nice she opens her legs so we dont have women in sa

2014-08-29 13:13:13.0 | 0 replies


Lobola is very expensive now lately. Cash cows! Mxm!!

2014-08-29 09:33:15.0 | 1 replies


Shredder....Good morning...its amazing what parents look at to determine the price of their daughter. I think it is all about how much money they can pocket at the end of the day.

2014-08-29 09:37:34.0 | 1 replies


Education playes a major role in determining a Lobola

2014-08-29 09:45:58.0 | 1 replies


Mshove,,,yes, Good Morning...Education plays a major role. But parents forget that they educate their daughters cause they playing their ROLE as parents not to want to claim that money back from groom to-be. That`s why some of our black men, treat women like slaves in marriage. For them, the 'bought' the woman. So, he can do whatever he likes whenever. The very same parents will tell their daughter gore mosadi wa tiisetsa. That`s bull(sorry to say). It is up to us, the educated black women, to stand up against this abuse of women.

2014-08-29 10:00:31.0 | 2 replies


lobola is not an issue

2014-08-29 10:07:41.0 | 0 replies


When my niece got lobolad, she pleaded with us not to come up with some crazy amounts. She is educated and has a good paying job.

2014-08-29 10:21:26.0 | 1 replies


and when are you getting married

2014-08-29 10:27:43.0 | 1 replies


After you get married. Don't forget to invite me and VendaLizard.

2014-08-29 10:32:26.0 | 1 replies


I don't attend midget weddings

2014-08-29 11:20:47.0 | 1 replies


Lol I would not also stand to see someone selling avocados at my wedding

2014-08-29 12:42:37.0 | 0 replies


Good morning...the report is spot on. Lobola had indeed been commercialized and many, many men cannot afford to pay this. this is one of our cultural practices that needs to be revised. Often, parents expect to be paid back by the groom to- be, because they say they raised their daughter. But, isn't it what parents must do?

2014-08-29 09:35:04.0 | 0 replies


if they can remove the " ...till death do us part" clause i will go for it

2014-08-29 09:35:17.0 | 0 replies


I am worried I do not see the old one in all the articles, with this cold fron anything might have happened to him, you know old people and health issues

2014-08-29 09:35:48.0 | 3 replies


You are stirring shit with your foot again ne? Yekela umkhulu.

2014-08-29 10:23:43.0 | 0 replies


Eish Big Jim you have a heart of gold stru. I think El Presidente RoX has gone to have his Zimmer frame serviced. It happens every 5000 km.

2014-08-29 10:24:10.0 | 2 replies


Lol u killed me

2014-08-29 10:29:13.0 | 0 replies


You know Big jim from Under the Dome? LOL @Zimmer frame.

2014-08-29 10:33:32.0 | 0 replies


U S.Cold ushaywe yi Phuza thursday

2014-08-29 10:56:06.0 | 0 replies