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Number of marriages in South Africa has dropped: Study

By Sowetan LIVE | Aug 29, 2014 | COMMENTS [ 204 ]

Cohabiting has become the new norm and marriage is slowly becoming an outdated institution, a new study suggests.

One of Professor Dori Posel’s key roles as a National Research Foundation Research Chair has been to investigate marriage markets in South Africa in the context of ilobolo and her latest study has found that fewer African men are getting hitched due to this traditional practice.

Posel‘s research has revealed that the number of marriages had dropped significantly in all races since 1995 more so in black communities.

According to the study, the rising price of ilobolo has been blamed as one of the main reasons for the decline, ENCA reported this morning.

“Very few men now seem to receive assistance from their fathers in paying for ilobolo and the fact that it’s now an individual responsibility for men raises an economic burden, Posel told the news channel.

Her study, conducted on 40 couples, also found that the price of ilobolo now ranges from R35000 to R100 000, a far cry from average 20 000 paid in 1998.

The increase in the ‘bride price’ was mostly linked to the commercialisation of the practice and its ‘manipulation by some families for material advancement’.

“When we come up with ilobolo it is a token, it is a promise that this young man here is able to head a homestead and cater for his family,” Professor Pitika Ntuli told the channel’s Dan Moyane.

“The issue is that up here in our suburbs we have commercialised these issues. If you are demanding R100 000 where is that money going? Is it going to be for the new couple that is starting a new life or is the money going to the parents as payment for raising your child?” he asked.

“There is a general neglect of cultural values. Everything has become commercialised,” he added.

What are your thoughts on this issue?

COMMENTS [ 204 ]

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Mshovekahle

Usashadelani kulamalanga sekuyabheda

Aug 29, 2014 9:18 | 3 replies

mgijimi

ja its a waste of time

Aug 29, 2014 9:22 | 0 replies

Mapholobakay1

even colour3ds and Indi@ns are demanding a lobola if an African man wants to marry them. I remember my friend was complaining that her coloured girlfriend's father said he also wants lobola for her daughter. kubi madoda, asizidleleni nje ikhekhe sishiye kanjalo. bakhona abazo bhatala.

Aug 29, 2014 9:33 | 3 replies

mgijimi

ja I second you mkhabela, plus labantu balahlela wonke umuntu, wena uyabhatala mina ngihla mahala, whats the use

Aug 29, 2014 9:39 | 0 replies

Mshovekahle

Lol Kunzima ukufa uyimpohlo

Aug 29, 2014 9:43 | 0 replies

BOKKER

Yet it was the kasi kids who invented "vat en sit"

Aug 29, 2014 9:49 | 0 replies

Tlakenyobehle!

Nigerians a busy marrying south African ladies and what now there is an increase mos

Aug 29, 2014 9:37 | 2 replies

LaliboyEC

Truth even Somali's and Pakistanis are in the lead

Aug 29, 2014 9:43 | 0 replies

SWEETY

Nigerians are really trying to give our ladies hope.

Aug 29, 2014 11:50 | 1 replies

Hutton

come on love nothing like that, they are just using them to be §A citizens

Aug 29, 2014 11:56 | 1 replies

SWEETY

You are right Hutton, but if it makes the woman happy, why not.

Aug 29, 2014 12:8 | 0 replies

Mshovekahle

Her study, conducted on 40 couples, also found that the price of ilobolo now ranges from R35000 to R100 000, a far cry from average 20 000 paid in 1998 xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx It depends the first consideration is qualification , childrens and morals

Aug 29, 2014 9:20 | 0 replies

mgijimi

The decline is not really caused by ilobola, getting married these days is like digging your own grave especially for man, women do not know their role as women anymore they know drinking, cheating blah blah blah

Aug 29, 2014 9:21 | 3 replies

Mshovekahle

Uyamlobola xa gqiba ayojola nohlukane ayisabuyi back nale lobola funeka uphinde uqalele phansi

Aug 29, 2014 9:25 | 1 replies

mgijimi

ja abe seyihamba no 50% of your assets emvakoko

Aug 29, 2014 9:33 | 0 replies

Buc4life

Mgijimi...Dumela Abut,,,,men do not know their role either, but the report is spot on. Lobola is one of the main reason for decline in marriage. Sometimes, women stupendously, pay their own lobola cause the poor man just cant afford.

Aug 29, 2014 9:40 | 2 replies

mgijimi

for stingy men maybe

Aug 29, 2014 10:5 | 0 replies

D-zel_3.0

If she is willing to help and it is a measure of her character which is admirable. Secondly money exchanged during the negotiations often goes into paying for ceremonies that follow the lobolo negotiations; I know my wife's family used it to pay for the marriage ceremony itself so if she helps she is also helping herself. The problem then becomes some women are so obsessed with power dynamics a man's financial limitations can often be his undoing but then again it depends on the character of the individual you are getting married to, a real woman will respect you regardless.

Aug 29, 2014 10:31 | 0 replies

VENDALIOUS

Short guy, do you know anything about marriage? Do you even have a girlfriend?

Aug 29, 2014 9:41 | 1 replies

mgijimi

I know everything, lobola is only an issue to stingy men,even loaded guys do not bother by getting married coz of how things have turned

Aug 29, 2014 9:48 | 0 replies

DeCock111

with these many beautiful hungry women out there...its very hard to get married...the concept of marriage is good...it grounds a man and brings respect...many people are getting married for the wrong reasons though and thats why they never last...the cost factor is also detrimental...why pay R50k for a second with thousands of mileage...? mxim

Aug 29, 2014 9:25 | 0 replies

lavixhe

Suffocate and Nicky fingers again.....

Aug 29, 2014 9:27 | 0 replies

MommaC

A piece of paper isn't what makes people 'married' and there aren't enough cows in the world to buy you real love.

Aug 29, 2014 9:30 | 1 replies

mgijimi

ja money is not an issue even loaded guys do not get married these days

Aug 29, 2014 9:49 | 0 replies

Charloza

Its because MEN are becoming WOMEN these dayz!! mxm!!

Aug 29, 2014 9:32 | 3 replies

mgijimi

your man has become a woman? sorry dear next time be wise to see that a guy is gay

Aug 29, 2014 9:44 | 0 replies
Aug 29, 2014 9:44 | 0 replies

LaliboyEC

No it is because girls are opening their legs to every Tom and Harry

Aug 29, 2014 9:46 | 1 replies

legodimo

second that, once u say her u look nice she opens her legs so we dont have women in sa

Aug 29, 2014 1:13 | 0 replies

Shredder

Lobola is very expensive now lately. Cash cows! Mxm!!

Aug 29, 2014 9:33 | 1 replies

Buc4life

Shredder....Good morning...its amazing what parents look at to determine the price of their daughter. I think it is all about how much money they can pocket at the end of the day.

Aug 29, 2014 9:37 | 1 replies

Mshovekahle

Education playes a major role in determining a Lobola

Aug 29, 2014 9:45 | 1 replies

Buc4life

Mshove,,,yes, Good Morning...Education plays a major role. But parents forget that they educate their daughters cause they playing their ROLE as parents not to want to claim that money back from groom to-be. That`s why some of our black men, treat women like slaves in marriage. For them, the 'bought' the woman. So, he can do whatever he likes whenever. The very same parents will tell their daughter gore mosadi wa tiisetsa. That`s bull(sorry to say). It is up to us, the educated black women, to stand up against this abuse of women.

Aug 29, 2014 10:0 | 2 replies

mgijimi

lobola is not an issue

Aug 29, 2014 10:7 | 0 replies

Shredder

When my niece got lobolad, she pleaded with us not to come up with some crazy amounts. She is educated and has a good paying job.

Aug 29, 2014 10:21 | 1 replies

mgijimi

and when are you getting married

Aug 29, 2014 10:27 | 1 replies

Shredder

After you get married. Don't forget to invite me and VendaLizard.

Aug 29, 2014 10:32 | 1 replies

VENDALIOUS

I don't attend midget weddings

Aug 29, 2014 11:20 | 1 replies

mgijimi

Lol I would not also stand to see someone selling avocados at my wedding

Aug 29, 2014 12:42 | 0 replies

Buc4life

Good morning...the report is spot on. Lobola had indeed been commercialized and many, many men cannot afford to pay this. this is one of our cultural practices that needs to be revised. Often, parents expect to be paid back by the groom to- be, because they say they raised their daughter. But, isn't it what parents must do?

Aug 29, 2014 9:35 | 0 replies

R18SN

if they can remove the " ...till death do us part" clause i will go for it

Aug 29, 2014 9:35 | 0 replies

mgijimi

I am worried I do not see the old one in all the articles, with this cold fron anything might have happened to him, you know old people and health issues

Aug 29, 2014 9:35 | 3 replies

Shredder

You are stirring shit with your foot again ne? Yekela umkhulu.

Aug 29, 2014 10:23 | 0 replies

BOKKER

Eish Big Jim you have a heart of gold stru. I think El Presidente RoX has gone to have his Zimmer frame serviced. It happens every 5000 km.

Aug 29, 2014 10:24 | 2 replies

mgijimi

Lol u killed me

Aug 29, 2014 10:29 | 0 replies

Shredder

You know Big jim from Under the Dome? LOL @Zimmer frame.

Aug 29, 2014 10:33 | 0 replies

Mshovekahle

U S.Cold ushaywe yi Phuza thursday

Aug 29, 2014 10:56 | 0 replies