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Six tips for dating online

By AFPRelaxnews | 2013-08-06 08:24:37.0 | COMMENTS [ 30 ]

Thinking of trying online dating? If so, you're in good company.

According to Online Dating Magazine, 20 percent of Americans have gone out on a date with someone they met online, while more than 280,000 marry someone they met online every year. In the UK a reported one in five relationships start online. If you're new to the game, here are a few pointers on what to expect.

1. Decide how much control you want, advises WebMD. Some sites, such as Match, let you decide who you can meet, while other sites, such as eHarmony, suggest potential dates for you. Also check the costs, and don't ignore smaller, more regional sites.

2. Create a strong but honest profile. Avoid lying about your age, background, or habits, but avoid disclosing too much until you to know someone. Post some flattering but up-to-date photos, and avoid anything too overtly sexual.

3. Expect some dishonesty. "Online dating is advertising, rather than making a connection. And advertising is full of falsehood and exaggeration," relationship therapist Terri Orbuch Tessina told WebMD. "You can expect them to present the best picture they can and to shave years off their age and pounds off their weight."

4. Don't fall for fraud. "Like any new technology, there are some downsides to online dating, too," says Wichita State University's Deborah Ballard-Reisch, an expert on communication and relationships. "One of the biggest is fraud." She adds: "There are a number of international consortiums that get on online dating sites and pretend to be someone they're not in order to get money out of people. So if someone asks you to send them money, especially out of the country, run."

5. Start sleuthing. Since friends and family can't vet your potential online dates, you'll have to do some detective work. Before you meet someone in person whom you've met online, Google them, Ballard-Reisch advises. "Use multiple search engines. Consider seeking criminal background checks. Make sure that people are who they say they are."

6. Meet in a public place. Always meet in a public place the first few times. Also it's a good idea to let your family or friends know where you're going, with whom, and when you'll return. Keep your phone handy, and if something feels off with the date, leave, experts advise.

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Careful you will be raped

2013-08-06 08:28:45.0 | 0 replies

Why should I go online?? While I can pick n chose oranges and big enough Bananas in front of me??
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This online thing cause rape, de person has been “horny” for many months and seeing you for the first tym he jst jump on top of you!!!!

2013-08-06 11:25:49.0 | 0 replies

@BrothaX

you seem to be getting into another agenda

but i see you are all about first impressions and im not...rather judge a person on things i know rather than on things that i see

2013-08-06 11:28:06.0 | 0 replies

I agree with BrothaX.
My take is this... If I were to meet a lady at a night club, I find it hard to settle down with them as a lifetime partner. All ladies I met at night clubs were party animlas and almost every weekend they spent their time out, while on the other hand I'm an indoor person, so those relationships never lasted and I never took them serious. Now imagine me being at home watching TV with kids, while my partner is out there in the middle of the night. That person is not exactly compatible with me, in my opinion, not wife material. And about looks, I also think they play a very important role in a relationship. I don't know about you ladies, but for guys, having a beautiful lady sleeping next to you makes a big difference. We are virtual creatures. What we see is what turns us on. That plays a big role in a healthy sex life, so for a relationship to survive, you need to look the part. That decreases chances of cheating and going wild when meeting beautiful ladies outside because you have it right at home. Not too much though, and I don't expect you to walk around the streets wearing mini skirts... NO... Just wear respectably, and maintain the beauty. So in conclusion, you need to be beautiful inside and outside.

2013-08-06 11:35:38.0 | 0 replies

If I tell you that I am toll, athletic body with 6 packs blah, blah, blah. Chances are that you will create in your mind a person with such an appearance because according to you that is what you know at the time and mind you that could be based on a lie. Anyway we have our preferences and at times they might not be necessary wrong.

2013-08-06 11:40:28.0 | 0 replies

@Citymentality
Not always about the looks hey , i ve noticed many handsome guys date ugly ladies hey. Some date date them because the are independent and have money, well i totally disagree when you say looks play important role in the relationship that its just a bonus dear not in this world anymore.


2013-08-06 11:56:26.0 | 0 replies

like i said marrying the wrong woman for the wrong reasons

@City

not mistaken a 21year girl at a club for a working 26 year old woman

i see this all the time, a married guy at a club on a Thursday night...the wife at home....that maths makes no sense...

when i go to Dros i see old and young couples together ALL THE TIME....thats a real relationship...when both parties do things together and enjoy each others company but still go home to a stable and well maintained home

most black men have this mentality that a good wife stays at home all day with kids cooking and cleaning...the only time she is out is when the grocery needs to be bought and she's off to work

those women are miserable and im sure of it....they usually say they dont mind things have changed for the better...bullsh!t....Monday to Monday its the same sh!t day in day out!!! i never *clapsonce*

you can balance this very well....as long as you have job and pay your bills why should i be restricted when my man has all the freedom i once had? marry someone who is just like you because when you dont you start putting up an act and that act gets tiring then things go wrong (cheating, lying and constant fighting)

2013-08-06 12:01:42.0 | 0 replies

BrothaX
If I tell you that I am toll, athletic body with 6 packs blah, blah, blah. Chances are that you will create in your mind a person with such an appearance because according to you that is what you know at the time and mind you that could be based on a lie. Anyway we have our preferences and at times they might not be necessary wrong.
....................................................................................................................................................Lol BrothaX i once fell on that trap hey , it was just a nite mare i was so disappointed i didnt know where to hide myself , hmmm dating on line is a totally nite mare i ve tried that several time hmmm it didnt do it for me....ppl they just lie about themselves when you meet then is totally a different story or different looks . You will even meet dwarfs hey

2013-08-06 12:03:35.0 | 0 replies

@Zuluchick
True hey , thats why there so many divorces because ppl marry for wrong reasons.

Marry someone who have the same attributes , someone who will make you happy.

2013-08-06 12:17:26.0 | 0 replies

Bokheberesh article...................................................Bye!!


2013-08-06 12:32:35.0 | 0 replies

Lizo
@Zuluchick
True hey , thats why there so many divorces because ppl marry for wrong reasons.

Marry someone who have the same attributes , someone who will make you happy.
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@Lizo
@Zuluchick

you guys are right.... the is a lot of ppl marry for a wrong reasons... like a guy that i'm busy with "he is a out going person like me üthanda izitho"while the wife all she do is stay home.. on her "night dress"the hole day..

2013-08-06 14:35:12.0 | 0 replies
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