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GOTTA HAVE SPACE FOR A MAN, RIGHT? Your bedroom can't be too pink, and don't have too much stuff - like make-up, cushions, stuffed toys, and yes ladies, - keep a lid on the clothes and shoes

 Why keep stuff you no longer use when there are people needing it? This tells me that you are a selfish woman who does not want to share 

Rosa Mji, an interior decorator, says your home tells others about you. The moment someone enters your house, everything - the walls, the furnishings, the layout, the books, the towels, the spice rack - all start to speak.

Despite gender stereotypes, men do care what your home looks like.

"Men size you up and take mental notes as they walk through your home for the first time," she says.

"But the biggest giveaway into your character is your bedroom. Because it is a hidden place many women neglect it."

So, you want to know what men are thinking?

Fashion designer Obakeng Ramabodu of the Juju range fame says there is nothing he hates more than a woman's unpacked wardrobe, frills and floral duvets and thousand of pillows.

"They are just a turn off. When I see busy frills everywhere I feel like running."

Ramabodu adds that he cannot stand when he gets into a girl's bedroom and everything is pink.

Bad Boy Prosper Mkwaiwa says he hates teddy bears and too many pillows that could suffocate an elephant.

"Stuffed animals in an adult bedroom are creepy. I do not understand why an adult woman should have toys all over the place."

Social Entrepreneur, TV and radio presenter Lupi Ngcayisa says poor quality bed linen and cupboards that don't close properly because they are packed with unwanted clothes drive him crazy.

"Why keep stuff you no longer use when there are people needing it? This immediately tells me that you are a selfish woman who does not want to share."

Zolani Mbambo, a Johannesburg-based accountant, says he hates seeing extra products on the dressing table or in the bathroom.

"This is a real turn off. Why must one woman have beauty products for five women? It tells me that you are too expensive to maintain, too vain and you like clutter."

He adds that shoes that are displayed for show in a woman's room make him sick.

"Store your shoe collection away from my sight. You only need a few pairs of shoes. I cannot be tripping on your shoes when I am in your room."

Mnqobi Mdabe, a musician and recording executive, says he hates it when a woman has pictures of other guy friends in an album and posters of celebs on their wall.

"Why should a dating woman have pictures of men in her room. I also hate to see lingerie all over, dirty sheets, a room that smells like a dog has died and a dusty bedroom that leaves you with sinuses."

what baffles him is that some women look neat and beautiful, but their bedroom looks like a pigsty.

Mveleli Gqwede, aka Dr Love, says he personally does not like it when a bedroom is cluttered and too decorated.

"I don't like it when a bedroom has thea character of an institution, like a hotel. An interior decorated bedroom lacks comfort.

"Generally you can see people who are not themselves by acquiring extras from and magazines, the bedroom becomes too tight and you can only relate in a corporate manner in such an environment.

"This tells you that the person is trying too hard and they can't be themselves, but full of complexes."

• This article was first published in the newspaper on 25 July 2012

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Jul 26, 2012

maneater

oh no man who cares about the teddy bears? if the woman is good looking and i get to sleep in that bedroom i just push the teddy bears to the floor and get on with it.
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Jul 26, 2012

Mellow

LOL really? I find this very interesting cause a FACT is most men's b.edrooms are p.igsty and very s.tinky so I guess cause they are men its acceptable right?

Personally I do not like a c.lustered bedroom, s.tuffed animals gives me c.reeps my bedroom is my small heaven where I relax and find peace after a long stressful day no loud colours no mess no eating but its up to an indivual some girls just loves p.ink and f.rills and m.essy c.losets and s.hoes all over it works for them

@maneater LOL why else are you using maneater as your username?

@Sowetan you really make commenting difficult it sucks really
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Jul 26, 2012

pierre2012

The article would have been more balanced if it had also included aspects that women hate about men e.g are chaps like Keita who 'hate' water a turnoff or an attraction to beauty queens like Mildred. Ha ha ha ha
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Jul 26, 2012

sarmologadi

My friend is veryyy untidy and lazy, but she has managed to keep a man unlike me, lol, even though i am very neat and enjoy cooking, i think this doesnt apply to all men...
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Jul 26, 2012

SeshegoGuY

CONFESSION:

My Room is worse than a Pigsty, although the rest of my flat is ok but my room is a mess. My GF forever complains about it--- I wonder whats gonna happen when i move in with someone....
@Sarmologadi----- I want someone like u hun
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Jul 26, 2012

Mellow

@sarmologadi Problem about this research is it was done on the so called metrosexual's I bet you if it was done across the board then we'll be laughing I for one cannot take anything Obakeng,Lupi, Prosper and Mveleli says to the heart if you know this guys then already you can tell about their fussing behaviour so it explains why your friend still have that hunk on her arm and maybe with you its the opposite men are intimadated by the level of you tidiness if there's even anything like that LOL

@pierre2012 My sentiments exactly I have a few actually LOL
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Jul 26, 2012

DeOvi

not all men hate womens bedrooms....wat is laking on this article is women's opinions about men's bedroom....

@pierre2012 lol men who hates water is a huge turnoff but fortunately 4 me my man is very neat and likes a mirror very much

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Jul 26, 2012

SeshegoGuY

Personally i couldn't care less what a woman's bedroom looks like....Especially if its my first time there-- My mind will be pre-occupied with something else
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Jul 26, 2012

Mokwepa

I think all men are clean,its just that whn they dont have money they turn dirty and eventually be a tenof
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Jul 26, 2012

Mellow

Mokwepa
I think all men are clean,its just that whn they dont have money they turn dirty and eventually be a tenof
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#DEAD AND BURIED

ALL MEN ARE CLEAN?! HAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAHAHAHAHA now that so funny dude
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