What men think about a woman's bedroom
MANY men judge women using their bedrooms as a measuring stick. Ladies' bedrooms are ultimately seen as a reflection of who and what a woman is.
Rosa Mji, an interior decorator, says your home tells others about you. The moment someone enters your house, everything - the walls, the furnishings, the layout, the books, the towels, the spice rack - all start to speak.
Despite gender stereotypes, men do care what your home looks like.
"Men size you up and take mental notes as they walk through your home for the first time," she says.
"But the biggest giveaway into your character is your bedroom. Because it is a hidden place many women neglect it."
So, you want to know what men are thinking?
Fashion designer Obakeng Ramabodu of the Juju range fame says there is nothing he hates more than a woman's unpacked wardrobe, frills and floral duvets and thousand of pillows.
"They are just a turn off. When I see busy frills everywhere I feel like running."
Ramabodu adds that he cannot stand when he gets into a girl's bedroom and everything is pink.
Bad Boy Prosper Mkwaiwa says he hates teddy bears and too many pillows that could suffocate an elephant.
"Stuffed animals in an adult bedroom are creepy. I do not understand why an adult woman should have toys all over the place."
Social Entrepreneur, TV and radio presenter Lupi Ngcayisa says poor quality bed linen and cupboards that don't close properly because they are packed with unwanted clothes drive him crazy.
"Why keep stuff you no longer use when there are people needing it? This immediately tells me that you are a selfish woman who does not want to share."
Zolani Mbambo, a Johannesburg-based accountant, says he hates seeing extra products on the dressing table or in the bathroom.
"This is a real turn off. Why must one woman have beauty products for five women? It tells me that you are too expensive to maintain, too vain and you like clutter."
He adds that shoes that are displayed for show in a woman's room make him sick.
"Store your shoe collection away from my sight. You only need a few pairs of shoes. I cannot be tripping on your shoes when I am in your room."
Mnqobi Mdabe, a musician and recording executive, says he hates it when a woman has pictures of other guy friends in an album and posters of celebs on their wall.
"Why should a dating woman have pictures of men in her room. I also hate to see lingerie all over, dirty sheets, a room that smells like a dog has died and a dusty bedroom that leaves you with sinuses."
what baffles him is that some women look neat and beautiful, but their bedroom looks like a pigsty.
Mveleli Gqwede, aka Dr Love, says he personally does not like it when a bedroom is cluttered and too decorated.
"I don't like it when a bedroom has thea character of an institution, like a hotel. An interior decorated bedroom lacks comfort.
"Generally you can see people who are not themselves by acquiring extras from and magazines, the bedroom becomes too tight and you can only relate in a corporate manner in such an environment.
"This tells you that the person is trying too hard and they can't be themselves, but full of complexes."
- This article was first published in the newspaper on 25 July 2012