Wooing a woman
MOST if not all guys desire to charm and seduce. Unfortunately, not all men have the charisma to do this.
Studies show that the art of attracting people (especially beautiful women) consists of 10 percent projection of success, 10 percent appearance, 10 percent intelligence and 70 percent charm
Some men go to extremes to accomplish this goal, including using charms and muti.
Others depend on their possessions to charm women and end up with broken hearts. The Mandla Mthembus of this world are a case in point.
Studies show that the art of attracting people (especially beautiful women) consists of 10 percent projection of success, 10 percent appearance, 10 percent intelligence and 70 percent charm.
Not everyone is born a Casanova, but anyone can learn how to charm women says Wayne Greyling, a dating expert.
Greyling says charming a woman involves a deep understanding of how females act and what they want.
"Charm is the art of having an attractive personality. This characteristic can only be achieved over time. While everyone is born with differing amounts of natural charm, much can be acquired and honed through practice and patience. As with dancing, the more you practice, the better you will become," he says.
If you are having trouble charming the woman whom you really like or just charming people in general, here are some good tips from www.askmen.com
In conversations, put the spotlight on others
There is nothing worse than someone who hogs the conversation and only talks about themselves. Charming people know this and only mention themselves sporadically or if asked a direct question.
Even then they will skillfully steer the conversation onto another subject. In conversations, always give other people the spotlight. Most people's area of expertise is themselves. By knowing this and allowing them to shine, they will think of you as a great guy.
Be a social facilitator
A great way to demonstrate your charm is by introducing people to one another. This is an especially valuable skill if that introduction can be mutually beneficial, whether in a professional or personal sense.
You will always be remembered as the guy who introduced them and the fact that you did it without seeking advantage to yourself will earn you massive bonus points. It demonstrates that you are socially intelligent, that you like helping and that you aren't motivated by selfish interests.
Show enthusiasm
This tip covers two areas: Firstly, being genuinely pleased to see someone always makes them feel good because it suggests they are a nice person; it also says that you like and value their company. They'll like you for making them feel good about themselves. Secondly, and just as important, is your outlook on life. If you want to be charming, you need to make your default position one of positivity and enthusiasm.
Smile
The most obvious and probably the simplest tip is to smile. If you smile, it shows you are non-threatening and probably are a nice person. A smile can be totally disarming and contagious. Studies have shown that smiling makes people happier, so not only will you make others smile and feel happy, but it will help your own mood as well. This also translates into being more confident and outgoing, which are very important qualities for anyone who wants to be charming.
Use people's names when talking to them
Dale Carnegie, the author of the most famous guide to charm, once said: "The sweetest sound to a person's ear is their own name."
Always remember this and apply it. Most people don't use names in the midst of a conversation. Be the exception. Greet someone with his or her name or use the name when you ask them a question and they will love you for it. Doing this has the added bonus of helping you to remember the person's name. But don't go overboard or it seems weird.
Groom for the part
An integral part of charm is in feeling good about yourself and a sure way to achieve that is to take pride in your appearance. Look as good as possible: Be well-groomed, smell good and dress in clean, smart clothes.
When you know you look good, you definitely feel good too and it allows you to project the most positive version of yourself. When you feel good, it is a lot easier to make other people feel good too.
Engage fewer social individuals
We all know what it is like going to a party or a business function where you don't know anyone. We have all had an occasion where we stand or sit in the corner of a room, hanging on to a drink for dear life.
As a charming man, you can spot the people who are a bit nervous or shy and can bring them into the conversation.
Introduce yourself, comment on the event and give them a chance to have a conversation, rather than a terrible evening. You will be remembered for that.
Accept compliments graciously
People are generally not very good at taking compliments. When we receive one, we squirm, look uncomfortable and mumble something.
A charming person does not do this. Receiving a compliment is like being given a gift. If you don't accept it graciously, it can cause offence. Say "thank you" and leave it at that.
Give sincere compliments
There are few things less charming than a contrived compliment. Be sincere. If you see something you like about someone, tell them. Don't try to find something for the sake of being complimentary. That feels false.
If you like the person's clothes, accessories or the way they did something, tell them. People can sense when it is sincere.
If an individual isn't good at taking compliments, just move on gracefully, rather than trying to force them to accept it.
That will make both of you uncomfortable.
Know how to use touch
Adeptly knowing how and where to touch someone can be extremely powerful. For instance, placing your fingertips very briefly on their upper arm is surprisingly powerful and can really reinforce a point that you are making. If used properly, it can be incredibly charming. Always use touch on "safe" areas: Arms, shoulders, hands, nowhere that is overly intimate.
emzet1
O e otlile botsekeng (that's pure truth). If i was not engaged i would surely charm some woman using the tips. I guess it can still assist in trms of social networking. I like it.Report Abuse
NJURI
While you worry about charning, my worry is to get rid of women who just can't stay away from me...Report Abuse
noni1978
i dont care how charming a guy is, it really doesnt matter to me.im more focused on his appearance and how intelligent that guy.i ont want to get involved wuth a guy who is charming, but with no brains @ the end of the day.Report Abuse
B4LES
No brothers have no excuse of being bachelors and raping their niece or grannies.Report Abuse