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Generations actress loses daughter to Aids

By Zenoyise John | Aug 17, 2012 | COMMENTS [ 43 ]

"It was painful to watch her going through that pain, but I am glad I was there for her" - Noluvo Ntapu talks of losing daughter

THOUGH Generations fans have never seen Wilfred, they feel sorry for the poor guy. Who wouldn't?

His wife Patricia is a nauseating, highly opinionated and nosey woman who is forever interested in other people's business.

Patricia is the alter ego of Noluvo Ntapu, who is nothing like her character.

In fact, Ntapu is a very calm and collected woman who chooses her words carefully and speaks in a very measured tone.

The down-to-earth actress from Mount Ayliff in Eastern Cape has come a long way since her Generations breakout role.

She talks openly about the loss of her daughter to an Aids-related illness.

Her tryst with showbiz began with cameo appearances in shows including eKasi: Our Stories, Soul City, 7de Laan and Rhythm City before she got her role on Generations .

Ntapu, came to Johannesburg in 2008 to look for greener pastures, with only a Matric certificate.

"I came to Johannesburg with just a dream to be a star. Acting was not part of my plans.

"I was hoping that I was going to be a gospel singer, but God had other ideas for my life.

"I was willing to do any work, including domestic work, before landing my first TV job.

"When I got my first acting role, I was running a small spaza shop to support myself," says the 47-year-old actress.

She says the first time she was on the set of Generations she felt intimidated because she had to act with big names like Sophie Ndaba and Menzi Ngubane.

"I was so star-struck and scared, seeing all these big actors. I could not believe I had landed a job in such a big show, but as time went by I got used to it."

She says though acting in one of the country's biggest soapies is exciting, it also has its disadvantages.

"Acting in Generations gives people distorted ideas about my life. There is too much pressure and a lot of expectations.

"The moment you are seen on TV people think that you are rich and live in a mansion. They expect you to drive a big car.

"They do not know that like many South Africans, I use taxis and live in a rented flat in the Johannesburg CBD."

The mother of five says she has had her fair share of ups and downs.

Ntapu says her 22-year-old daughter got Aids in 2008 and died last month.

"Losing her was one of the most difficult things I have ever had to go through in my life, but it taught me very important life lessons. Her sickness taught me patience and compassion.

"I had to accompany her every time she went to take her treatment from the clinic. I was there with her when she was diagnosed. It was painful to watch her going through that pain, but I am glad I was there for her.

"Whenever I accompanied her to the clinic young HIV-positive people told me stories of how their parents had disowned them.

"Whenever we went to the clinic people used to gossip about us."

She adds the disease still has a lot of stigma attached to it and that people fetch their pills in other containers to disguise the fact they are having treatment.

"I would like to start a parent's HIV support group where I live, where we will support parents and families of HIV-positive people.

"The CBD has many people affected and infected by the disease who do not know who to talk to and who need help and understanding."

Ntapu, who recently separated from her husband of more than 20 years and the father of her five children, says before her daughter died she asked to see her father.

"Before my daughter died she asked to see my husband, but unfortunately she died while he was on his way to see her."

She adds: "We fell out of love with each other long before I started acting".

Her biggest dream?

"My wish is to see Patricia's part grow. At the moment I am a call actress. I also dream of realising the gospel album I had to shelve because I had to take care of my daughter."

- johnz@sowetan.co.za

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My heartfelt condolences and may the good Lord gives you peace that surpasses understanding over your loss to this disease. I hope the following will assist in preventing losses through similar diseases to your loved ones. God has formed laws to govern every part of our constitutions, and these laws which He has placed in our being are divine, and for every transgression there is a fixed penalty, which sooner or later must be realized."—Healthful Living, 20. So In case of sickness, the cause should be ascertained. Unhealthful conditions should be changed, wrong habits corrected. Then nature is to be assisted in her effort to expel impurities and to re-establish right conditions in the system. Pure air, sunlight, abstemiousness, rest, exercise, proper diet, the use of water, trust in divine power—these are the true remedies(Eight Laws of Health).Go on a GMO free carrot juice fast with distilled water and Herb’s for six days. During the fast, have daily colonic wash outs /colon cleansing using the following: Shake/mixture made from distilled water, freshly squeezed lemon juice(kill HIV virus in the intestinal tract), psyllium powder(carry the lemon juice throughout the gastrointestinal tract to break up mucus and kill off HIV and other pathogens; removes toxins from the colon; and is especially good in cases of cancer, Kaposi Sarcoma, herpes, candida and if nights sweats occur) and acidophilus culture. After a week a fast go on a vegetarian / Anti-AIDS diet which is high in raw foods, low in fat, especially saturated fat, contains no animal protein, no beef, pork, poultry, fish eggs, cheese, ice cream or cow’s milk. It is “gluten” free and has no wheat, no bread, no spaghetti, no macaroni and no bakery. The best herbal tea is Pau D’Arco. It should be simmered for about 10 minutes before using. It boosts the immune system, kills off cancer cells and yeast overgrowth it is also highly recommended where cancer of Kaposi Sarcoma may exist. This diet should be religiously followed until your blood tests show numbers (T4, T8, T11 etc) have returned to the normal reference ranges. Once this happens, have yourself rechecked for the HIV antibody. Within a month you should be completely healed. Go and SIN no more, keeping all TEN Commandments (Moral) and Eight Laws of Health.

Nov 20, 2013 2:18 | 0 replies

SOME PPL DNT HAVE HEARTS NEH. AIDS OR NO AIDS WE ALL GONNA DIE "FUCKEDDD)

Aug 17, 2012 2:0 | 0 replies

@Flemza
People react to medications in different ways and there could be other factors causing her life to deteriorate faster than yours.
She is a very brave mother and should be applauded for the support she gave her daughter.

Aug 17, 2012 12:59 | 0 replies

We need more parents like you. Big up mama.

Aug 17, 2012 12:2 | 0 replies

"Ntapu says her 22-year-old daughter got Aids in 2008 and died last month"
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So she got HIV when she was only 18?Oh Lord have mercy on our children.

Aug 17, 2012 11:47 | 0 replies

@ Flemza : Lesson on Psychological projection

Psychological projection is a defense mechanism where a person subconsciously denies his or her own thoughts and emotions which are then ascribed to the outside world. Projection reduces anxiety by allowing the expression of unwanted unconscious impulses without letting the conscious mind recognise them. An example of this behaviour might be blaming others for self failure. The mind may avoid the discomfort of consciously admitting personal faults by keeping those feelings unconscious and by redirecting or 'projecting' those same faults onto another person or object.
Flemza you need to forgive yourself, you're angry with yourself for allowing yourself to get infected, guess what this is life no-one is perfect, just like you this lady's daughter was not perfect either.

Aug 17, 2012 11:42 | 0 replies


@NeoBaBe
@ VENDALIOUS
She is i chomie ka Khaphela's Sara, The first wife of Khaphela who is also married to Khethiwe who just isbhaxu from u Rubby bcs utjile ben 10 ka Sheeben queen, who (Khaphela) was once inluv with Cleo who was raped by Senzo's Jason, n who (Khaphela) was also involved with the chistian Magda who was HIV like Flemza who just made trashy comment!

Now u know who this lady is!
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Im no longer watching Genderation, im into Isidingo & Rhyme city........Genderation Sucks!

Aug 17, 2012 11:26 | 0 replies

@PHAKISA- kahle bo!
who said she is using her daughter to get attention?
This is media, their job is to report on things going on out there, eg what goes on with celebrities/ people we know from TV
all we know is that SOWETAN had an interview with her

Aug 17, 2012 11:23 | 0 replies

Flemza not all of us are as literate as you are. if you were that clever you wouldnt hv been infected in the first place. Stop judging and acting smart.

Aug 17, 2012 11:0 | 0 replies

i think Flemza and Phakisas are twins, so stupid an uninformed. how do you know that she wasnt there for her child. shut the hell up if u have nothing to say.

Aug 17, 2012 2:8 | 0 replies

Shame on u Flemza. Ur parents should be ashamed of u. Big ups to Mamzo

Aug 17, 2012 3:7 | 0 replies